Recently a comment on Sumana’s blog pointed out that Indian feminists seem to focus too much on analyzing crimes against women. Why does it bother a misogynist that Indian feminists are analyzing crimes against women in India? What do you think does a simple analyses and observation reveal?
Here’s a horrifying example.
(Link shared by Anil Singhal)
“The in-laws locked the girl, then 16 and pregnant, with cows and buffaloes in the cowshed. For days on end, she had to go without food and water. A neighbour, identified as Guddu Maharaj and his friends, repeatedly raped her for months in the cowshed.
Husband Anand Kurmi, … shifted the victim to a relative’s house in Khurai 25 km away. Here, the relative, a middle-aged Ram Singh and his sons Narendra and Lokendra … allegedly locked the girl in the house and raped her for more than 20 days… Ram Singh sold the victim to a moneylender … in May this year. Ram Singh claimed he was the father of the girl and the deal was finalised for Rs 50,000 in cash and one acre land in Mahuna. The … sexual exploitation continued. When she fell critically ill one day, a neighbour in Mahuna village, identified as Khadak Singh, assured that he would take to a hospital for treatment. But on the way to the health centre, the woman was raped by him. She was brought back to the moneylender’s house where by sheer chance, a cousin of her spotted the woman.
And this is what her father has to say,
“We kept visiting her in-law’s residence in Parasri Tyonda,” …
“They said we could not meet her till we gave the dowry. I did not have the faintest idea that my daughter was going through hell. Then word reached us that she was in a moneylender’s house in Khurai and had been sold. This made the family to rush and rescue her from the monsters,” he added.
What made this crime possible?
1. Indian culture and family values make a daughters’ parents believe that their daughter is the property of her spouse and his family – i.e. she is a Paraya Dhan.
2. And so her spouse and his relatives control if and when a married daughter’s parents meet their child.
3. A married paraya dhan‘s parents’ concern for her well being is not seen as a good family value.
4. It is understood that it might require courage, cash and clout for a paraya dhan’s parent to meet their married child.
So how does it empower the Indian Paraya Dhan (or her parents) to marry her into a Patriarchal Joint Family?
So, is it possible for Indian parents who respect the above Indian family values to welcome the birth of a girl child?
And this is also why nobody should be allowed to stop brides (or other equal citizens) from using cell phones.
If it wasn’t for Indian family values, her family would have rioted outside the in law’s house when they refused to let them meet their daughter with or without paying one or one lakh rupees.
What made her marriage so important that her safety and welfare did not matter?
And I am not even getting into why she was not sent to school instead of being married at the age of 16, or why she wasn’t able to escape and find safe public transport to a safe city…