Here’s another example that shows how Patriarchy controls men’s lives and choices by forcing the role of Providers on them. Marriage in Patriarchy is not partnership but dependence, with fixed roles based on gender (not interests or aptitude).
The same Patriarchy controls the options for women. His wife would find it (generally speaking) more difficult than him, to stay single, be self reliant, marry, remarry, live alone, find employment, divorce etc.
While men in Patriarchy are brought up to earn and support a family, women are brought up to be dependent daughters in law.
PT shared this link – ‘Destitute husband cannot seek wife’s company, rules HC‘.
‘”The husband should first show that he is capable of maintaining his wife, and then demand her company,” justice Roshan Dalvi observed while remanding back the wife’s plea seeking permanent maintenance. “No husband who fails to maintain his wife can have the right to demand his conjugal rights,” the judge added.…
The husband claimed he and earned Rs 3,000 per month. His position as a husband is, therefore, precarious… The husband is hardly eligible to marry, to keep a wife, to make a family and even more ineligible to demand that his wife returns home when he claims to earn only Rs 3,000 pm.”‘
What do you think?