Adarsh Bhartiya Nari – Ideal Indian Woman… !!!

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Bjigya shared this Hindi poem being shared on Facebook, here. “...this reaffirms everything we protest against on this blog...”

Here’s a rough translation.

*** आदर्श भारतीय नारी (??) ***
*** Ideal Indian woman (??)***

सर पे सिंदूर का “फैशन” नहीं है,
No sindoor is applied because they think it is not the fashion.

गले मे मंगलसूत्र का “टेंशन” नहीं है !
They want no tension of wearing Mangalsutra

माथे पे बिंदी लगाना “आउटडेटेड” लगती है,
They think wearing a bindi on their forehead is outdated

तरह तरह की लिपस्टिक अब होंठो पे
सजती है !
Various types of lipsticks now beautify their lips

आँखों में काजल और मस्कारा लगाती हैं,
They apply Kajal and mascara in eyes

नकली पलकों से आँखो को खूब सजाती हैं !
They enhance their eyes with artificial eye lashes
मूख ऐसा रंग लेती हैं की दूर से चमकता है,

they make their face up in ways that it glows from afar

पर्फ्यूम इतना तेज की मीलों से महकता है !
Perfume so strong the air is fragrant for miles

जो नथ कभी नाक की शोभा बढाती थी,
The nose-pin which enhanced the beauty of their noses once

आज होठ और जीभ पे लग नाक
Is pinned on the tongue or lips now

को ठेंगा दिखती हैं !
And cocks a snook from there.

बालों की “स्टाइल” जाने कैसी –
कैसी हो गयी,
What a variety of hair styles

वो बलखाती लंबी चोटी ना जाने
कहाँ खो गयी !
That long braid- where is it lost?

और परिधान तो ऐसे “डिज़ाइन” में आये हैं,
And attires have come in such designs

कम से कम पहनना इन्हें खूब भाये है !
They prefer to wear as little as possible

आज अंग प्रदर्शन
करना मजबूरी सी लगती है,
They feel compelled to expose their bodies

सोचती है इसी मे
इनकी खूबसूरती झलकती है !
They think that is the way to look attractive

पर आज भी जब कोई भारतीय परिधान
पहनती है,
But even today when she wears an Indian outfit

सच बताऊं सभी की आँखे उस पे ही अटकत हैं !
I will tell you the truth, every eye is attracted to that!

सादगी, भोलापन और शर्म ही भारतीय
स्त्री की पहचान है,
Simplicity, innocence and shame is an Indian woman’s identity

मत त्यागो इन्हें यही हमारे देश
का स्वाभिमान है !
Do not reject them, these are our country’s self respect!

यदि अब भी हम सोच रहे है कि ये आने
वाली माताएं हमारी आने वाली पीढ़ी में
‘भगत सिंह या नेताजी’ पैदा करेंगी, तो हम
गलत सोच रहे हैं,
If we are still thinking these future mothers in coming generations will produce Bhagat Singh or Netaji then we are thinking wrong,

पश्चिम की नक़ल करते
करते हम पूरी तरह अंधे हो चुके है……

Aping the west has blinded us completely….

जो अब
लाइलाज बीमारी का रूप ले चुकी है……!!

It has now become an untreatable illness….!!!
॥ ईश्वर इन्हे सद्बुद्धि दे ॥

II May god give them wisdom II
जय हिन्द, जय भारत !!

Jai Hindi, Jai Bharat!!

-I guess India lives in many centuries – those who still live in 1950s find the choices of those who live in 2012 difficult to understand.

 – That long braid- where is it lost?

– If long braid is preferred,  I am sure more than 80% of Indian women still wear their hair in a braid or a bun. Hair styles have changed for convenience and ‘stylish hair’ is no indication of one’s lack of values anymore than one long braid indicates Indian values.

– And attires have come in such designs

Everybody wears what is suited for their requirements, tastes, budgets, life style etc – it’s difficult for those who are not directly concerned to understand. I once met someone who thought it wasn’t possible for a woman to wear anything but a sari infront of her in laws.

– They prefer to wear as little as possible

Wouldn’t advice Bollywood style trying to teach women to dress like good Indian women – real life ‘eve teasers’ get Muthalik-treatment.

– They feel compelled to expose their bodies

We need to appreciate that we can’t lay the rules others live by, not even if they are women.

– They think that is the way to look attractive

But even today when she wears an Indian outfit

Tell you the truth, every eye is attracted to that!

They are probably not interested in dressing to look attractive to everybody who has an interest in their personal appearance. Their wardrobe, their money, they shop.

-Simplicity, innocence and shame is an Indian woman’s identity

Women are people – just like everybody else. Some are simple, some are complex, some are forthright, some are subtle, some are naive, some have had the opportunity to learn that naivete makes them vulnerable, some are easy to manipulate, some might even be manipulative.

If they have grown in families that respected them, they would be less likely to be ‘ashamed’ or apologetic about their power to make personal choices.

Confident citizens, men or women, aware of their rights and responsibilities make a strong nation, not naive notions of ‘ideal’ men and women.

If we are still thinking these future mothers in coming generations will produce Bhagat Singh or Netaji then we are thinking wrong,

Indian women (and men) are more than future dads and moms. Also, if a future generation of productive, law abiding citizens is needed, then the society must do it’s bit. How? For example, don’t make them choose between parenting and self reliance, because they might be forced to choose self reliance.

Aping the west has blinded us completely….

Aping anybody without thinking is not a good idea, not even one’s great great grand parents.

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What would you have done?

I wanted to write a post against the forwards and messages we see being shared on  International Women’s Day, about what makes women proud of (or love or like) about being women. I Googled and found a few articles and one particular post that I strongly disagreed with, and decided to discuss the points the blogger had listed but without making it like a personal attack on the blogger. This was the post, http://pallavipoojary.wordpress.com/2011/03/11/20-reasons-why-i-love-being-a-girl/

Since the idea was to discuss the points, not to offend or confront, I explained that I was not linking and no offense was intended, and then I went ahead and blogged about why I disagreed with each point, here, Twenty five reasons women are given to like being women.

The blogger came to know about the post and objected to not being linked, so I linked it and again repeated that although I disagreed with her, no offense was intended.

With this comment,

Dear pallavispoojary, Linked your post. I had clearly mentioned – ‘Not linking and no offense is intended to anybody.’ because I did not want to offend, but it seems ended up doing that anyway. I understand that sometimes we have points of views that are not the same and I still hope you see the post as only a discussion, the idea was not to hurt or offend you. IHM

This is what this blogger has to say.

Seriously?? If that was not your intention you would have first given the link to the original content and then gone on to give your view. You wouldn’t have done it as an afterthought once the original author complained about it. Its a free country and I don’t have any issue with somebody criticising my view but you have clearly breached the plagiarism clause. And some of the points taken from my blog you say?? Really?? You plagiarised my post and even went as far as putting in a disclaimer on the lifted content while posting!!! Lifting the entire content from someone else’s blog and rehashing it is called Plagiarism if you dont know it. Do you even realise how it feels??!!!

Would you say the previous post was ‘lifting the entire post and rehashing’?