What the hell is difference between a homemaker and a porn star?

What exactly is bothering the person who made this comment? (in response to this post  – ‘What do ‘Modest’ women have that their ‘Immodest’ sisters don’t…’)

He doesn’t like the idea of women benefiting from ‘exposing’ their bodies, even if they are not being exploited, ostracized, stigmatized, traumatized or killed. Why?

He sounds more concerned that women might ‘expose’ their bodies and not feel ashamed of it.

I feel if women stopped being ashamed of their bodies being ‘exposed’ then it would become very difficult to humiliate women by stripping and parading them on the streets. Then maybe women too will (eventually) be seen as family members and not ‘family honor’?

Maybe then a rape victim would feel angry, disgusted, shaken, uncomfortable etc – but not ashamed if a rapist threatens to share an MMS clip of a crime he has committed?

And here’s the comment.

All you women want to expose your bodies and still claim to be a perfect lady. If that’s true what the hell is difference between a homemaker and a porn star. Both do the same damn thing. Just EXPOSE! I hate all your stupid excuses and justifications. A few handful of modestly dressed women are a billion times better all the rest put together.

Imagine if nude magazines are legally launched in India or maybe for the matter a legally functioning porn industry. We would be having celebrities in every corner of the country. Immorality and immodesty would be an integral part of everyone’s life. JUST IMAGINE HELL ON EARTH!

This world would be much better off without you FEMINISTS! A handful of modest feminine women are a billion times better than all the rest put together.

About the difference between a homemaker and a porn star,

1. One is seen as a working a woman even if she a homemaker, the other is seen only as a homemaker.

2. One might face stigma and be ostracized by the society, maybe even by those who watch her videos or photographs (even in the assembly).

3. One is more likely to be married than the other.

4. Both are generally assumed to be women.

Any other?

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74 thoughts on “What the hell is difference between a homemaker and a porn star?

  1. Some quick top of the mind:

    5. You will get married and bring one to home to make a homemaker but you will treat her like a pornstar!

    6. Homemaker will probably have no respect, the pornstar atleast will have in her community or followers

    I am surprised by the comments though..

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  2. This is an amazing post, Love the title!
    If we stopped making women ashamed of their bodies SO MUCH would change! totally agree on the differences and similarities between Home maker and a porn star.

    Here is a recent article about Linda Lovelace the porn star – she is known to have transitioned from sexual revolution to feminism, sort of relevant (or not!) but your post reminded me of it
    http://www.nytimes.com/2012/02/12/movies/amanda-seyfried-plays-linda-lovelace-in-biopic.html?_r=1

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  3. A funny aside, why is culture never affected when men move around in half pants or like Salman keep going bare chested? What about sensibilities when you see most men wearing minimal clothing in summer in most neighbourhoods of India, irrespective of who sees it? Why is there no shame in showing me your ugly hairy torso which I really didn’t ask to see?😛

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    • And isn’t there a risk of women forgetting their morals and shame then? They will tell you cheesychic30 that women don’t feel the way men do – they refuse to acknowledge women’s sexuality.

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      • To the commenter, when a guy flashes, what do you end up saying? Do you question the guy’s morality or do you ask the girl to shut her eyes and walk away? I am sure you ask the girl to close her eyes, you probably even tell her that somehow she ‘attracted’ this behaviour from the pervert. So if the same logic should apply, I guess you need to close your eyes when a woman ‘exposes.’ Maybe somehow you ‘attracted’ such immoral behaviour from her. Oh the horror!

        Men and women are human. There are good and bad seeds in both. What people like you do is place the woman at an impossible pedestal while at the same time expecting her to be shayaneshu rambha at home. Madonna/whore, nothing in between. Just like beauty, ugliness also lies in the eyes of the beholder.

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  4. — some extract from “Conversation with God” – Neale Donald Walsch. Forgot the God part and see how it is so true and relevant.

    We are so ashamed of our bodies that we will not let our children use the correct words for some
    of their beautiful parts, and wouldn’t dream of letting them see our parts.

    We are so ashamed of that which attracts us to each other that we cover up (in most countries by law) every part of the body(In some countries even face) that could be defined as alluring, lest we fall prey to what we have for some reasons chosen to call our basest desires.

    We are so ashamed of our sexual functions that we perform them often in the dark with a “Shh!” Don’t let them hear you” attitude, rather than with sheer abandon and an openness that declares that this is joyful celebration of life, and yes part of our ongoing conversation with God.

    Isn’t porn industry a creation of so much of mystery & hiding behind the sexual parts/functions?

    I believe a lot of our issues will just dissolve if both male & female were free about their bodies..

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    • True.
      Animals don’t wear anything other than the skins or hides or furs or feathers they are born with.
      In primitive tribes clothes are never an issue.
      Every human is born nude.
      If exposure of the skin was “immoral” would not the creator have arranged for all babies to be born with some clothes on?

      This outrage against exposure is peculiar to human society, and completely one sided. Men are at an advantage. Nothing they wear is ever considered “provocative”.

      Besides immorality in the matter of exposure is relative.
      Per laws of Saudi Arabia, every woman in India or America or Europe is guilty of “full facial nudity”.

      I vote for free choice in the matter of clothing, and let that choice be with the wearer, and suit the occasion and the climate. The only reasonable and justifiable restriction is where a uniform has been prescribed.
      Regards
      GV

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  5. A woman (or a man) should never need to feel ashamed about wearing whatever she wants to wear, nor of their bodies. There is nothing sinful or bad about the female body.

    The porn-industry, however I dislike. Not because they show nude bodies, this is perfectly fine with me. But because they support the idea that a woman is some kind of object, to be bought and sold. Pay whatever the movie costs, and see a nude woman having sex.

    I think a persons body is their own, and not something that should be sold or bought, because I find that devalues humans. Thus if a woman wants to be nude, she should be free to do so, but if a woman offers to remove her clothing in exchange for money, then I think she is doing a bad thing. Not because the body is shameful, but because I feel that selling the human body devalues people, and turn them into objects, to be sold or bought for the enjoyment of others.

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      • In what way is it easy money? It is money for enduring extreme social stigma, alienation, ‘professional’ sex with random ppl, sexual acts for the camera and putting oneself out there to be treated as a free-for-everybody object.
        I’d say being a ‘homemaker’ is an easier way to acquire roti-kapda-makaan!

        Please.. let us not underrate the difficulties in any way of life. Let us stop with “the way the porn industry objectifies women and sex is unacceptable” and not go into whether it is immoral or easy-way-out or bad-for-culture etc.

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    • I don’t see porn as inherently wrong. Similarly I don’t see prostitution as wrong. I think it’s a service and it’s perfectly fine to want to get paid for a service.

      Now where I see porn and prostitution getting it all wrong is: porn focuses on male sexuality, almost never on female sexuality. Also a lot of the porn is violent. It makes it look like sexual violence is OK. The problems with prostitution are sex trafficking (more often than not young helpless girls are forced into it), lack of protections for sex workers, etc. Also both of them are extremely stigmatized.

      Just my two cents.

      me – Exactly my views Change.

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      • I don’t see anything wrong in wanting to be paid for providing services either. But to me, human beings have inherent value. They are valuable just by virtue of existing. They thus, without limitation, should enjoy all the rights set forth in the human rights.

        In an egalitarian society, I guess I’d find porn okay. My main problem is that women are already frequently treated as “decoration”, as “objects” as *things*. Perhaps desirable and pretty things, but still *things* and not fully human. And that offends me. I feel that much of the porn that is available today, objectifies and pushes this idea of “women as things”, and I feel that this is not a moral thing to do.

        If women and men where portraid as equal human beings in porn, if porn was made as much for women as for men. If there was no more humiliation and submission shown from female porn-actors than from male, then my objections would be a thing of the past.

        I’m not saying it’s a huge problem. Nor that it should be outlawed (I’m not one of those people who think everything he dislikes should be forbidden), I just think that on the overall balance, currently, porn contributes negatively to society’s view of women.

        There exists more gender-neutral porn that does not play to this cliche, and that is okay. Unfortunately, today that is a very small fraction of the total porn-market.

        Me – I agree.

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      • I didn’t get you…how come porn only focuses only on male sexuality? A cursory glance through any porn site will tell you that there’s every kind of porn being made on the face of the earth. There’s a demand and hence the supply. Violent porn is just one of the many perversions or fantasies people have and therefore the porn. It doesn’t mean sexual violence is OK.

        In real life, a lot of people get away with a lot of things…murder, robbery, rape…but it doesn’t mean that all these things are okay. It’s for you are your conscience to decide.

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      • @abhishek

        Ahem.. I guess IHM wdn’t like us to go into specifics of porn in this space.

        Suffices to say that present day main-stream porn, whether violent or not, IS focused only on male sexuality. From the Indian context, the practical reality is that most youngsters learn of sex and sexual behavior only from porn. All the more dangerous to lead young minds to believe that sexuality is male-centric. It just creates confused young men & women.

        Me – And most young Indians actually learn about sex from porn and from movies.

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      • @Eivind
        I forgot to add the objectification angle in my previous comment. And I completely agree with everything you said in your second comment.

        @abhishek

        I tend to see it as a chicken and egg problem. I should have perhaps said that *most* of the porn is created for straight men’s pleasure. I didn’t mean to say that there is no porn whatsoever for women or homosexual men.

        Yes, in our pop culture glorification of violence is a problem. I am not just talking about sexual violence in porn, but any type of violence (murder, sexual harassment–euphemistically called eve-teasing).

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      • Exactly what I think.
        As it is, there is nothing wrong with the industry itself. In ancient times, prostitution was legal – we had the so-called Ganikaas, some of them were richer than noblemen. Much of our music and dance has survived because of this industry.
        The problem with this industry in the present day is that there is a very high chance that people, mainly young girls and even children will be abused and robbed of their childhood and youth and life. As also the children who lose their innocence watching porn at an inappropriate age. As long as there is no exploitation and as long as parents are able to keep a tab on what their young children are watching and learning, it should be okay.

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    • Well, if a person’s body is their own, should they not then be free to do what they want with it, including objectify it for the enjoyment of others?

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      • They should be free to do it. And I should be free to critique their choice if I feel that their choice is harmful.

        The primary harm that I see coming from objectifying the female body is that even if some women may -choose- to do so deliberately, their choices have consequences for other women too, who are as a result frequently objectified against their will.

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    • If selling one’s body is bad, how come we never feel bad when we sell our brain or rather the thoughts produced by the brain in exchange for money. How come we praise inventions or a good novel then?
      How is it okay to make money off of one part of the body and be praised for it, while trying to do the same thing with another part and it becomes so so wrong?

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      • Tee-hee. Yesterday in class, a student described her day job as “soul shrivelling”, which I’m sure is how most people think of pornography as a profession. But the lady student in question was into Finance😀

        It’s all in your POV.

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  6. Modest clothes, modest behaviour are always a prerequisites for a woman, never for a man. If she doesn’t wear what they term as modest, if she’s not behaving in the manner that they call modest, she is stigmatised. But eve-teasers, rapists, paedophiles etc. are protected and should I say, even respected. Talks about modesty and all that stuff goes out of the window. Sheer hypocrisy!

    P.S. You know, these days your blog’s been getting a lot of haters and trolls.

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    • You know these could very well be the same people who troll my blog and a few other blogs I read! I’ve banned two nasty trolls with similar attitudes– one from new Zealand and one from the greater Mumbai area.

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    • Such objections remind me of C C Patil – the kind of comments he made about women’s modesty when he set a different moral standard for himself. Now it seems the Karnataka govt wants to ban private channels from the Vidhan Soudha!

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      • /Now it seems the Karnataka govt wants to ban private channels from the Vidhan Soudha!/

        Yup I read about it in the newspaper today.

        @Kay: May be. I haven’t got any trolls ever, but only the bots that were trying to cell Viagra on my blog. Wtf?😀

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    • Er…
      Pardon my ignorance
      But, what or who is a “troll”?
      I could not find a reasonable definition, suiting the context, in my dictionary.
      Is this a new “internet age” word?

      Regards
      GV

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      • In Internet slang, a troll is someone who posts inflammatory,[2] extraneous, or off-topic messages in an online community, such as an online discussion forum, chat room, or blog, with the primary intent of provoking readers into an emotional response[3] or of otherwise disrupting normal on-topic discussion.

        Source: Wikipedia

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      • Haha, I too thought trolls were furry creatures that lived under bridges. Now the word is used to describe those who harass others online – they seem to have a heck of a lot of free time on their hands as well!

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  7. Let me answer in a non-rhetorical way. When a home maker or any other woman is showing her body, she may or may not have the intention of receiving sexual advances. She may just want to avoid heat, enjoy sun bath, fresh air or celebrate her body. Granted, that men will find it to be attractive and beautiful (in a sexual way as well), but that is not her problem. She should not be ashamed of her body, the way nature made it. Men should thank for having these beautiful women in the world, be happy about it and move on. Seriously, again in a non-rhetorical way, I don’t get why people get offended by it. Don’t they find women to be beautiful?

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  8. From my experience, guys who think like that are usually the ones who would never be able to find dates or have girlfriends. Even if they paid for it. And also, like most others who believe exposed skin is immoral, they’re probably the most twisted, perverted people going.
    I’ve been getting some nasty comments (though from the same two people) regarding ‘Indian traditions’ and ‘culture.’ there’s no reasoning with them-I quit publishing and got blogger to identify said ip with spam.

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  9. Assuming ‘homemaker’ refers to the stereotypical unemployed ‘modest’, ‘traditional’, ‘submissive’ indian wife and mother… The differences between a pornstar and a ‘homemaker’ :
    Obvious one : The former is or could be financially secure while the latter has no option other than to ask the husband for money even to buy undergarments.
    Implicit one : The former may be playing to the unreasonable demands/”nature” of an MCP world for money – but she KNOWS that she is helping towards the objectification of women. The latter is all happy about upholding honor – of herself, of her family, of society and its culture – but doesn’t know that she too is helping towards maintaining the general status of women as puppets to the MCP world.
    And I prefer the knowledgeable ones – in whatever field.

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  10. Modesty, family honour, good girl, bad girl, sanskari, adarsh blah blah. Why dont they cut out the hypocrisy and just say outright they would like to throw a harness around women and treat them like working cattle?

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  11. I am sick and tired of this f***ing attitude against women, I am taking a break to have a nude dip in the pool, to hell with the moral police!!

    @IHM sorry for the strong language (if any), i am really sick and tired of all the negativity ..:(

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  12. It’s OK somehow for men all over India to parade around in lungis, half-lungis, quarter-lungis (or any other variant), it doesn’t even matter whether they wear underwear or not, and they can simply walk around bare chested and do as they please.

    This guy has kindly judged for everyone what is ‘moral’ and ‘immoral’ – he seems to think pornography is immoral for some reason. I would sincerely like to know if he’s watched it himself (simply to judge him by the same ‘moral standards’ he wants to judge everyone by) . Also what on earth does ‘exposure’ (SUCH an overused word) have to do with morality? You can be fully clothed and completely sleazy (a la Shakti Kapoor) or you could be the world’s most ethical person and be a nudist. What is this guy’s problem!?

    Somehow, women, more than men, especially in India, are brought up to think their bodies and even bodily functions are something to be ashamed of in some way. (An extension of this is how women are asked to ‘not do anything’ during their periods, or not to wear low-cut/backless dresses..just because.)

    I would also like to know this guy’s definition of ‘modesty’ and ‘feminine women’. Is he also modest and ‘masculine’? IHM, I so admire you for keeping your cool. I lost my temper at this fellow just reading the comment, and wish I could meet him in person just to give him a tight slap. (Sorry for being so negative!)

    That said, I hate it when people judge porn stars and homemakers, both for different reasons. How does it matter if someone is acting in a pornographic film, as long as they are doing it voluntarily? It is honestly nobody else’s business if they have chosen to make porn – they are making an honest living like everybody else in the world – performing a service which they are paid for. Who is anybody to judge anybody else’s career choice? If you are not being judged for being a software developer/data analyst/etc why should you judge another?

    Homemakers don’t get their due at all, I feel. Here they’re looked upon as some sort of ‘malkin’ who just orders the servants around, sits and watches TV all day or does ‘timepass’ when in fact I think there is so much work to be done around the house in terms of simply managing it – financially, logistically, etc. People don’t seem to realise this. (I studied in an Economics class, once, when we were studying national income, about how there is a lot of work that’s done that doesn’t account for national income but still possesses value. Being a homemaker was one.)

    P.S- sorry for the rage in my comment, that fellow’s comment brought it out in me!

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  13. “What exactly is bothering the person who made this comment?” –
    The fact that women are going beyond the ‘How to retain a GODDESS-like image and yet be prepared to be treated like an object’.
    And as one of the comments pointed out earlier – Maybe he is not able to find any woman for himself…His attitude might be scaring/repelling them off..

    Give him a break, IHM! He is probably too frustrated to make any sane statement.

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    • //”This world would be much better off without you FEMINISTS! A handful of modest feminine women are a billion times better than all the rest put together.”//

      Whaddya know! This world would be a much better off place without people like the person who made this comment. A handful of men who consider women as humans is trillion times better than all the people like him put together!
      Answer this question first”
      “WHAT the hell is the difference between MEN and MALE porn stars?”
      If you know the answer apply it to women and Voila! you will have your answer.

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  14. It is interesting to note that the angst is directed purely towards female porn stars.

    In his frenzy of frustration, our valiant culture warrior seems to have missed the fact that most heterosexual porn contains at least one male and one female protagonist. As a result, he also missed the very interesting logical extension to his question:

    What is the difference between a husband, and a (male) porn star?

    Which is, um, ridiculous.

    Exactly as ridiculous as the commentator’s original question, in fact.

    Quite apart from the overt silliness of the comment, I am disturbed by what was left unsaid. The underlying assumption here seems to be that anyone (any female, that is) who chooses to wear revealing clothing automatically becomes a “porn star”. Isn’t this just another manifestation of rape culture?

    I completely fail to understand exactly why people feel the need to rave and rant about people choosing to live their lives a certain way. I mean, if he likes “modest, feminine women” (whatever that is supposed to mean), I’m sure he can find someone to his taste. Why get so worked up about other peoples’ lifestyles and wardrobes? It’s not like his eyes start bleeding every time he sees a woman in a revealing outfit.

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    • Thankfully, our eyes/ears do not bleed each time we read/hear ridiculous & outrageous comments like his. I shudder imagining the blood loss if they did!

      Why doesn’t the Indian constitution have laws against commenting on a third person’s action when it harms no one? @Law people : amendments please!

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  15. This is what the commentator has to say,
    //Modesty defines character. I would sympathize with a woman if she gets raped by a sexual pervert but not when that victim is a stripper. I’m definitely not against all women. I admire great women like Mother Theresa who had love and care for this suffering humanity. Not the ones who strip in front of the camera who are better off dead than alive. Morality is dead. Everything in fine now. Bodies are admired and glorified more than character. Media honors and encourages strippers but not women of character and dignity. I’m alarmed at whats happening in this society. Wish i didnt have eyes so that i wouldnt be writing all this. I grieve very much in my heart for these wickedness. May common sense prevail.//

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    • So does he mean that perverted rapists’ morals don’t count?
      Added:
      Do they deserve special laws to protect them when they can prove that they committed a crime because the woman was not modest enough in their esteemed eyes?

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      • Aaah wait. Didn’t I tell you Madonna/whore? The only great woman he can think of is Mother Theresa. What about that girl down the street who may not have helped some lepers, but leads a decent life? Is she nothing? And should I expect all men to be Bheeshma Pitamah/Shiva? Hell, come to think of it, as a woman, I have no role model like that to think of, every one of the great men around, even our Gods, have wronged their women in some way.

        The commenter seems to think objectifying bodies is a recent, modern phenomenon. Has he read our scriptures? What does he think of the Indrasabha and the multitude of Apsaras?

        When shall we start accepting the fact, that sexuality is a part of human behaviour, if it were not for it, none of us would even be born.

        As for perverted rapists’ morals, hmm IHM, I think he will want to hear both sides in this case. I mean he can’t decide the rapist is perverted unless he knows if he was provoked somehow isn’t it? Why can’t all women be Mother Theresas anyway, that way people like him can worship them from a distance.

        Also Mr. commenter, what about owning responsibility for the feelings you feel when you see these things? If you hate strippers, avoid them, no one is asking you to piously suffer them right? Your moral code says no stripping, you don’t do it, you don’t look at it.

        And like someone said above, he seems to forget that the stripper needs an audience. Also he forgets that there are men in the porn industry. Ohhh I forget, all of his experiences are probably heresay, he may not have seen a single porn clip so we must pardon his ignorance that he thinks only women act in porn. IHM, we have been unnecessarily hounding the poor guy.😉

        As for morals of perverted rapists, I guess he will then say that he has to listen to both sides

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    • I am tired of this caring, nurturing, self-sacrificing Mother Teresa trope. Basically it means that women deserve your respect and protection of their rights only as long as they are “modest” and “virtuous”.

      Not the ones who strip in front of the camera who are better off dead than alive.

      Seriously he thinks that a woman so poor and so helpless that to survive she has to strip for other people’s pleasure even though she knows it’s humiliating is better off dead? He really needs to check his privilege.

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      • I don’t think all porn stars are “poor and helpless”. Some choose it as a profession, and are successful at it too. The important thing is that they have the freedom to choose to be a porn star if they want to, without having to listen to the rants of these holier-than-thou types.

        How is a homemaker different from a porn star, it seems. I do believe he meant porn star as an insult, and was hoping to “silence” all the “feminists” here by calling them what he thinks of as a “dirty word”. It’s not the word that’s dirty, it’s his mind. Teehee.

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        • //I do believe he meant porn star as an insult, and was hoping to “silence” all the “feminists” here by calling them what he thinks of as a “dirty word”.//

          It’s difficult to ‘silence’ those who refuse to be ‘shamed’.
          That’s why modesty, honor and shame are such powerful tools of control.
          He would offer ‘respect’ to women who would pay for that respect by agreeing to be shamed, silenced, dishonored.

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      • @Thumbelina

        Just as I hit “Post Comment” I realized that I should have phrased it differently. Yes, there is nothing wrong if a woman chooses to do porn instead of say being a doctor. And you said it better.

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    • Modesty defines character

      [citation needed]

      I would sympathize with a woman if she gets raped by a sexual pervert

      Very gracious of you.

      but not when that victim is a stripper

      Because strippers, of course, are fair game.

      I admire great women like Mother Theresa who had love and care for this suffering humanity

      Yes, but only as long as she wore a “modest” sari.

      Morality is dead. Everything in fine now. Bodies are admired and glorified more than character. Media honors and encourages strippers but not women of character and dignity.

      [citation needed]

      I’m alarmed at whats happening in this society. Wish i didnt have eyes so that i wouldnt be writing all this

      Why should having eyes be an impediment to not writing “all this”? Do your eyes control the decision centers of your brain?

      I grieve very much in my heart for these wickedness

      Yes, selfless, moral, pure old you, who imply that strippers deserve to be raped.

      May common sense prevail

      I’m sorry, I’d rather be batting for justice.

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  16. Maybe it’s hard to comprehend for some people, but body exposure is not conditioned by shame. In a reasonable society (read: one that doesn’t censor your wardrobe) more often than not it’s a matter of comfort (both physical and mental), climate and personal fashion/aesthetic preferences.

    Why should shame be some sort of a saint-like feature? What’s so divine about it? It can be as negative characteristics as fear or guilt. It doesn’t show you are smart, it shows you are afraid. And that is hard to call heroic. It’s doesn’t work as “setting a good example” either.

    And why to polarize women as either modest matrons or whores? What purpose does it serve apart from empty rhetoric?

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  17. This is the mindset of a LOT of people unfortunately. It is so depressing and enraging at the same time. I hope he is reading your post and all the comments too, maybe it will register somewhere in his mind.
    I have to say that anything men wear or rather don’t wear is never a topic for discussion( reg. declining moral standards, provocation etc etc). Heck, guys put up their pics in just briefs on facebook for the whole world to see, all over india u can find men bathing in briefs in ponds, tubewells.. you name it. Can you imagine women doing the same in bikinis and no one bothering? WHY NOT? I have commeted on one of your previous blog posts, today Anil Singhal and GVjee have said it in comments .. we need more exposure till people stop bothering abt it. Not less.

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  18. And if he has such strong opinions about ‘porn’ being evil…..why does this guy not worry about the morals of men who watch those strippers/ porn stars thus making these industries economically viable options to sustain one’s livelihood? Should not that be a bigger concern?

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    • oh no.. nothing a man does is ever cause for worry.. only the women…
      for a woman, the term is “promiscuous”, for a man “sowing his wild oats”
      a man was born with hormones and sex is a need… for a woman, having a sexual desire is a sin… for a woman, immaculate conception is the gold standard of female chastity…
      hypocrites!!

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      • //for a woman, the term is “promiscuous”, for a man “sowing his wild oats”//

        your comment reminded me of a slogan from besharmi morcha “tu kare to stud, main karun to slut.”

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  19. Well, this guy is most certainly a twin of Rush Limbaugh. Let us have no more talk about Americans and their free sex. I wonder if he even knows he has someone in America frothing at the mouth over exactly the same thing?!

    An exercept from the article: “Fluke argued that birth control should be covered by religious institutions, and that fellow students are paying far too much out of pocket for a prescription. In response to her suggestion that women are often prescribed birth control for medical reasons, Rush got all red in the face and took to his radio show, sputtering:

    What does that make her? It makes her a slut, right? It makes her a prostitute. She wants to be paid to have sex. She’s having so much sex she can’t afford the contraception.”

    http://gawker.com/5889676/rush-limbaugh-women-who-want-birth-control-are-sluts

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  20. The same as the difference between a husband and a porn-star! Heh!

    Seriously though, this guy’s comments are so outrageous (immodest women being better off dead than alive indeed!) that we are all wasting our time and effort even responding to it.

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  21. I don’t understand. If you don’t like something, oor if something offends your delicate sensibilities, why not avoid that? Don’t watch porn. Close your eyes the moment you see a bare ankle, for there WILL be aa skirt or capri above it obvi.

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  22. Perhaps the most obvious of all… homemakers do not get paid nor are they fake. We all know porn is staged, faked and manipulated in every way to try to accommodate fantasies. There’s even been “making of” type tv shows put on in the US about how porn is made. I watched and being porn illiterate before that learned that the men and women in those films are truly going through the motions. It’s all fake. No housewife would ever go through that much effort for so little money because they know reality and choose to live in it.

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  23. ROTFL… This guy is awesome.. That one comment probably has done more good than he ever thoguht possible. It has set so many minds thinking in directions they wouldn’t normally take.

    Now coming to the modesty part. My friend, this is India. We have a population problem. So for all the modesty you speak of there is a lot of sex (yes S E X ) aka copulation going on behind closed doors. Men enjoy seeing women in skimpy clothes, sadly thats the truth. This is because it is considered taboo. If women weren’t afraid of the daily eve teasing and the excessive testosterone driven behavior of men, they wouldn’t probable be so modest.

    Don’t blame it on the west. Don’t blame it on morality. If you consider women to be Devi’s, then no matter how they dress, they should be treated as such.

    As for Porn Stars, they sell a very simple commodity created only because of narrow minded people like you. For while you accept the presence of Porn stars, you want a clear demarcation between them and home makers. Home makers can be porn stars in their own right and Porn Stars can be home makers too. Most men have a fantasy of dressing up their wife/gf in something straight out of a movie.

    @ IHM

    1. Porn stars are more likely more appreciated and better recognized for the so called talents than Home makers.
    2. If you are a Porn Star and come to India, you will most probably be offered a role in Mainstream Hindi cinema. If you are a home maker and come to India, no big deal, go make some chai.

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  24. Why should there be a difference between a home maker and a porn star? Why can’t a porn star be a homemaker…or why shouldn’t a home maker aspire to become a porn star? They are not mutually exclusive you know.

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