How would you respond to this email?
My parents, or rather, my mother, is on the lookout for a match for my elder brother who is about 27. He has met several girls but is finally starting to like one now. He had a serious girlfriend of 4 years in college but they broke up. When he meets girls now, he tries to figure out if they would be a good match, but in the end he leaves it to my mother to decide if the families’ minds will match, and whether they are of similar thinking as our family.I am confused at this situation. Shouldn’t my brother at 27 be able to form his own decision about which girl he wants to marry? But if I mention this to my mother, the response I get is that she can understand people better since she is more experienced. This makes sense to me as well. Is this the right approach though?If she were to not play a part, and something goes wrong in the future, she may be blamed for not taking the initiative to get to know the other family. I feel like her decision is a security as well as a hindrance. What do you think is the right approach? I don’t think that she will be ‘marrying’ our family because my mother doesn’t want them to stay as a joint family for more than a couple of years.
My mother wants them to stay with the family for the first couple of years because she wants the new daughter in law to learn how to handle a house. It sounds logical at first but also old fashioned.
Thanks for your time.