Rahmath and Unpretentious_Diva mentioned this news in comments to the previous post.
“MUMBAI: The fifteen-year-old girl who is six months pregnant is oblivious to the uproar her ‘condition’ has created not just in her family, but her neighbourhood in Borivli (E). She’s crushed by her boyfriend’s refusal to take responsibility and marry her, but is determined to raise her child and not give it up for adoption, which her parents have been urging her to do.” [Link]
“The girl’s parents, who are roadside vendors, approached the police who arrested the boy on charges of rape, as the girl was a minor.”[link]
The comments that follow the news article discuss,
1. Need for sex education. It seems in this case both the partners were aware of the risk of pregnancy and social stigma for the girl, that was why the boy had promised to marry the girl.
But anyway, sex education is not just about avoiding pregnancy, but also about the responsibilities involved [Link].
2. Modern culture and degeneration of values. The general belief seems to be that unmarried teenage pregnancies do not happen in traditional societies.Wrong! (Strangely, irrespective of whether sex was consensual or not, or the parents capable of raising the child, married teenage pregnancies are not seen as a moral concern, click if you disagree. And more here.)
Facts: Unmarried pregnant girls are frequently ‘honor killed‘ or the boy is forced to marry the girl. It becomes almost impossible for the girl to get married to anybody else if her pregnancy is not kept a secret. Condemnation for the girl is almost universal. this can also lead to death “A clandestine, and irresponsible, affair may prove dangerous. A city girl learnt it the hard way,”. Death (for the girl) is often seen as an honorable solution.
3. The 17 year old boyfriend’s responsibility.
Should consensual sex with 17 year old boyfriend, who lied and behaved irresponsibly, be seen as rape? He bought abortions pills and pregnancy kit for the girl, so he was not ignorant. He also promised to marry the girl, so he was aware of the social repercussions the girl might face. His parents also don’t want him to marry the 15 year old.
4. Should both the parents share the responsibility of raising the child now? Should the father or in case he is a minor, his parents, pay child support?
Let me share three comments below this news article.
When people talk of segregation of sexes,dignified dressing and moral policing,Women organization are in the forefront to oppose it. Again when the woman is suffering they are blaming the boy for it,total hypocrisy.
There are traditional Indian women who will not agree for pre-marital sex under any circumstances. Then there are Modern Indian woman- who agrees to pre marital sex, goes for live-in relationship, unwed motherhood, sexual experimentation…… off course the modern women, as compared to traditional women always wins the race for boy friends, costly valentine gay gifts, more flowers on birthday…. but every woman must understand that they are taking some risk which traditional women is not taking. You cant expect reward only. Modernity may be rewarding, but it has its own inherent risk……. and just dont blame men if your risky strategy didnt work out. A boy friend, or a sex partner or somone gave you flowers are not bound to marry you. May be, pre marital modernity of women is most repulsive part of marriage sanctity.
Well, the boy’s actions are not exactly honourable. First he gets her pregnant by insisting on unprotected sex, next he tries abortion, and finally starts avoiding her! Are you saying the boy should be allowed to shirk his responsibility? If he got her pregnant, he should support the child along with her, whether he eventually marries her or not. Ideally, of course, he should marry her, but the least he should do is to support the child. Or are you saying that the girl should face the burden on her own?