Why was this radio cabbie, a rapist, not afraid of being arrested?

Radio cabs are generally considered safe. The driver’s identity, address and criminal record are verified, (which is why the driver has been arrested so fast). Normally, having his identity and address in the company’s records would have worked as a serious deterrent.

Why did it not?

Why was the driver not afraid of being arrested?

Because he was sure  that the victim would not report.

“The woman initially told the cops that the driver had snatched her gold chain. “A PCR gave the cab a chase till Saket but he managed to escape. It was then that the woman told us about the alleged rape” [Link].

I have blogged about the reluctance refusal of another victim to report rape, here.

And what makes the rape victims so reluctant to report and rapists so confident that they would not be convicted? They know who would be judged and questioned.
Do read this rape analogy along with some of the comments that follow the news report. (With thanks to S who shared it in a comment in the previous post.)

If reporting all crime was like reporting rape…

Officer: A mugging, eh? Where did it take place?

Man: I was walking by 21st and Dundritch Street and a man pulled out a gun and said, “Give me all your money.”

Officer: And did you?

Man: Yes, I co-operated.

Officer: So you willingly gave the man your money without fighting back, calling for help or trying to escape?

Man: Well, yes, but I was terrified. I thought he was going to kill me!

Officer: Mmm. But you did co-operate with him. And I’ve been informed that you’re quite a philanthropist, too.

Man: I give to charity, yes.

Officer: So you like to give money away. You make a habit of giving money away.

Man: What does that have to do with this situation?

Officer: You knowingly walked down Dundritch Street in your suit when everyone knows you like to give away money, and then you didn’t fight back. It sounds like you gave money to someone, but now you’re having after-donation regret. Tell me, do you really want to ruin his life because of your mistake?

Man: This is ridiculous!

Officer: This is a rape analogy. This is what women face every single day when they try to bring their rapists to justice.

Man: Fuck the patriarchy.

Officer: Word

Related posts:

The rapists often don’t see their actions as crimes, the police said, and don’t expect the victims to report them. (When media is not objective)

A visibly shaken Shiney Ahuja gets seven years for raping his maid despite her ‘admitting’ the charges were false. (When media is not objective)

One rapist let off with a few slaps, another rapist allowed to kill for family honor.

India leads in sexual violence, worst on gender equality: Study

“A clandestine, and irresponsible, affair may prove dangerous. A city girl learnt it the hard way,” (When media is not objective)

Rape in India – Ramya



46 thoughts on “Why was this radio cabbie, a rapist, not afraid of being arrested?

  1. I have trouble comprehending the mentality of a person who doesn’t view rape as a crime. What exactly are they thinking? That women are objects? That a woman is somehow obliged to give in to every random guy on the street? What are they thinking?

    Tracing all this to its root, I think police reforms are urgently required. Without somehow removing the obstacles to a woman filing a complaint of rape, this state of things will only continue. No one should ever feel that rape will not be reported or that they will be sympathized with.


    • Bhagwad, in a patriarchal society that is precisely what men do think- that women are objects, objects that are owned by their families. They are viewed as an asset or liability depending on what they contribute and therefore their bodies are also owned by the man/ patriarchal family. It is for this very same reason that you have the notion of ‘honour killing’ (murder is the more appropriate term).


  2. Your question:
    Why was this radio cabbie, a rapist, not afraid of being arrested?

    My guess:
    The same as your guess viz ” Because he was sure that the victim would not report.”

    And now let me put my question here

    And why would he be sure about this?

    My guesses:

    1) His presumption that a girl coming out of a bar alone at 3 AM must the “of that type only.” i.e available and not likely to consider rape a serious crime but merely an occasional nuisance to be put up with. She must have experienced it before too.

    2) His previous successful experiences in raping women. He must have got away then, so he thought its no big deal and he can get away now too.

    Any more answers from others?


    • @GV
      As a woman I take objection to point 1. No women will consider rape a “nuisance” and no man who has raped will believe the woman thought it was only minor – because he would be a first hand witness to the devastation he has caused. Women coming out of bars at 3AM maybe a little more open to casual consensual sex , but never rape.

      Secondly, rape is almost always never about sex. If it was about sex, there are more hassle free ways to scratch that itch than to rape someone and risk the consequences. Rape is about power and control.


      • I think I strongly agree on this. It is quite often brought out that the women was of loose character, available, etc (even prostitutes for that matter) . But even then I think it is still about her dignity that she can refuse sex. And Rape- is about forcing ! And therefore I think our laws also in principle consider forced sex even on your wife as – “rape”.

        Forcing sexually on a women is CRIME. period! [ as far as this discussion goes. Else poor women has been forced in many more ways then one when it comes to domestic violence or just living the life under in-laws/husbands/parents/bosses, etc]


      • @clueless,

        I join you wholeheartedly in objecting!
        That was not my belief. That was merely what I believed was the cab driver’s belief.
        I condemn his act and I have a permanent solution for his itch but the law will not listen to me.



  3. Reporting rape in India is a probably an extremely traumatic experience in itself.

    Thanks to our outmoded laws, women actually have to prove in court, beyond any reasonable doubt, that penetration occurred. Courts try to go easy on women but think about it.

    Here is this woman, already traumatized and humiliated horribly by a violent assault on herself. This woman has to go to court, stand with her head up and recount the gory details of her trauma to every Tom, Dick and Harry assembled there. Thanks to our social conventions, she has to answer pointed questions about her own sexual history.

    And this is AFTER she gets to court.

    Think about the last time you spoke to a policeman/policewoman in a place like Delhi. Does s/he come within light years of having the emotional sensitivity to handle a victim of sexual assault?

    I freely admit that I am not a rape victim. But if I was, and if I knew what would be in store for me if I went to the cops here in India, I would most certainly be reluctant to report the rape. I would probably just want to lick my wounds and try and return to some semblance of normalcy. Would you blame me for that?


    • @cynicallyengineered

      You are talking about rape. I went to the police to report eve teasing (though heaven knows why they call it teasing when it should be harassment) and I got a lecture from the police on how to dress like an Indian girl and stay at home after dark. So much for protect and serve.


      • Talking about police apathy in India. A friend and I once reported a flasher outside the Uni campus swimming pool and who we had chased away by pelting plenty of rocks. The ans from the constable was: ‘what can we do madam, these things happen all the time’.


  4. I’m furious and fed-up. I say we form a group of vigilantes and find and beat up these men. Like the pink sari group in UP. I’m willing to come and camp in Delhi if people will sign up.


      • All i am saying is that being a vigilante is going to cause a whole new set of issues. You may be picking the ‘right’ cause but what is going to stop people like Muthalik when they believe their cause is also as just.

        I feel we need to address this through the laws of our country and through bringing awareness and information to the police force. A mandatory session on women rights, psychology of rape for all police personnel would be a good starting point.


      • “e need to address this through the laws of our country and through bringing awareness and information to the police force. A mandatory session on women rights, psychology of rape for all police personnel would be a good starting point”

        A lot of this is happening; NGOs are being brought in to ‘sentisise’ police. We all see where it’s getting us, especially after IHM’S post about Rathore today. I know vigilantism would cause more trouble, but like the Pink Sari brigade, we should find our own way to shame these men. The law and police are not on our side. Not yet.

        Someone spoke about a Anna Hazare like movement? What about it?


  5. If I may just digressing a little here: a quick and dirty calculation of the comments that appeared at the bottom of the TOI article, as of Friday IST 17:09 hours, revealed that only circa 11% of the commenters addressed the actual issue, nearly 7% indulged in direct victim blaming whereas the rest traded insults with one another, blamed the be-dil Dilli or made patronising 15century comments on how women must ‘behave’ if they are to ‘prevent such things from happening to them’. What I feel is that the comments on a paper like TOI, rather than those on a liberal blog like this one, reflect the general apathetic attitude of (internet using) Indians, which might help explain why such important issues are just brushed away under the carpet and forgotten.


    • You know these comments are there irrespective of what news item it is! Go to the sports section of TOI and see. Even for articles on cricket, people trade insults on each other and call each other names! It is just PATHETIC…


    • TOI comment sections are the same , just see any popular news item. They have become what rediff messageboards were in the yore ….chaupal(assembling place) for all nut cases out to make north-south, hindu-muslim,delhi-mumbai chauvinistic comments. I for one don’t read them, why get yourself riled up unnecessarily?


      • Years ago, I used to read the comments on Rediff.com and also post my comments.
        After seeing the quality of the comments from others, I beat a hasty retreat.
        I didn’t want any participation in discussions with the sort of people who post those outrageous comments taking full advantage of anonymity.

        What a contrast between the quality of comments here on these blogs and those at Rediff and TOI!


  6. Someone commented in an older post about castration as a punishment to rapists! I think that is the way to go. You just need to castrate some rapists, then most cowards will not even think of committing this crime.


  7. This is kinda off-topic but I wish more women would carry stuff like pepper-spray with them. In this specific case, since it was just one man against one woman, the pepper spray would have tilted te balance in the woman’s favor (even assuming the rapist was physically bigger and stronger).


  8. I had to share these links here, cause I am so glad that women like her exist. But I leave it to your discretion IHM to keep or delete this post, cause I know that some of it may seem gross to the readers.
    The first time I heard of such an incident was on Oprah, and I think the lady’s name was Lorena Bobbit.


  9. this was a great post..its quite true criminals in our country are not too afraid of the law probable cause that the victim would not file an fir..and one of the main reasons for it the attitude of the police..i have been in a situation where e=at an high end bar and restraunt some goons kind of misbehaved with me and ran away after which i rushed to the police station and was harrased by the cops till 5am refusing to get a medical done or lodge an fir saying i was under the influence of alcohol..after pulling some strings was the fir lodged,and after that nothing happened those goons were arrested for 6hours and then set free no magistrate no case just nothing..its really depressing our society and the system in this country..those who are to protect you just harrass you..no wonder a criminal does not fear the law here


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