This was a comment on Bhagwad’s post, I have heard this before. What do you think?
“The provocative dressing sense and the profession (modelling) of these particular girls are making them as soft targets”
It doesn’t mean it is their fault!!
Yes, a woman has the right to dress however she wants. Obviously. The man’s actions are his fault, alone. Completely true.
So after she’s harassed you say it was his fault; is saying that going to stop that particular man from harassing other women in future?
Is wearing less clothing because you have the right to going to reduce your chances of being harassed by that very wrong and very perverted man? Maybe wearing a loose-fitting punjabi dress, for instance, might reduce the chances!
It’s not the woman’s fault, but she has to bear the consequences every time. Every woman knows that. Is wearing ‘provocative’ clothing just that necessary that you can risk bearing the consequences of a man’s mistakes?! To each his own, man!!
1. Do you think men in societies where women are not respected or valued are more prone to ‘losing control‘?
2. Making a man responsible for his actions would discourage him and other men from repeating the action in future.
3. Blaming the women has resulted in the society and the culprits taking sexual crimes lightly. The offender sees that the only person who is supposed to take any (real) measures to stop the crime is the victim. Her isolation obviously emboldens him, it’s not that he doesn’t realize his actions are wrong, but the society’s reactions assure him that his crime would not be taken seriously. [The rapists often don’t see their actions as crimes, and don’t expect the victims to report them.]
4. Sexual criminals also gain confidence when instead of dealing with them firmly, societies add more controls on women’s lives and activities.[Link] Women are asked to watch how they dress, laugh, walk, move, travel, socialize, work, dream, live, drink, eat, not watch movies, not sit in parks, not sing in public, not fall in love etc to stay safe from sexual crimes.
5. Following all these rules, sometimes having no lives worth living, have not made women safer. Fully covered women of all ages who break no such safety rules still get raped, inside their homes, at their workplaces, in broad daylight.
6. What if a woman likes to travel, earn, ride a motorbike, swim, sing, dance, dress, socialize…? Fear and mistaken ideas of honor (more than safety and trauma) have made harmless activities into social crimes for women.
7. I think, not having a voice makes women more unsafe than going out after dark ‘provocatively dressed’.
And all this begins with women being asked not to dress provocatively.
So what would really help?
1. Women who look like they would not be easy victims are generally safer.
2. Sexual criminals are like all other criminals, generally cowardly bullies, if they fear being blamed, held responsible, convicted and jailed they would behave.
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How do you think did blaming the victims of sexual assaults started?
The rapists often don’t see their actions as crimes, the police said, and don’t expect the victims to report them.
Written in a hurry, please excuse any typos! Will correct once I am back.