1. Some marriages have social approval, because they are not about love or lust.
It was not an easy job to find a bride for a 100-year-old. However, by the grace of god, we have found a new mother, though she’s half his age. She was married once early in life. Her husband died and she has no children,” said the bridegroom’s son, Hazi Azir Uddin. [Link].
A comment below the article thought the couple was lucky, the bride would not have to face a nagging mother in law. I would call them lucky when 60 year old women marry 60 year old men so they can both ‘look after each other‘.
2. Some marriages don’t have social approval, because,“…lust and greed by young blood cannot be said to be correct.”
Before this Gujarat has had a similar ruling, where two adults need parental approval before they can marry.
3. Some marriages have parental approval and so are not condemned for being about ‘lust’.
Link shared by Nish. We are all aware of this, but I still found it disturbing.
“When Munni arrived in this fertile, sugarcane-growing region of north India as a young bride years ago, little did she imagine she would be forced into having sex and bearing children with her husband’s two brothers who had failed to find wives.”
“They took me whenever they wanted — day or night. When I resisted, they beat me with anything at hand,” said Munni, who had managed to leave her home after three months only on the pretext of visiting a doctor. [link]
4. One reason why our Patriarchal society disapproves of Choice Marriages is that then there would be no women willing to marry some men.
What kind of men? (link shared by Desi Girl)
Behrana and Dhimana villages have sex ratios of 378 and 444 respectively. Some residents’ reactions.
ii. “It’s God’s gift that most of the children born in this village are boys,” claims Dhimana village sarpanch Om Parkash, 70, a bachelor.
iii. Varinder Kumar Narula, 67, a headmaster: “It has to do with diet. People eat well here and so give birth to boys.”
iv. “You can get a woman for Rs 30,000 any day while a well-bred buffalo costs Rs 70,000,” says Ajit Singh, 45, a bank employee.
v. “… could cost you less but you have to spend …on fares travelling to far off places such as Assam,” adds Ranbir Yadav, 42, a local landlord.