How exactly do we show this reverence to women? Please do compare this to how we show respect to everybody else.
Can threats be called ‘respect’?
“I have so much respect for you; don’t ask to eat with the rest of the family. Your happiness lies in seeing us enjoy the food you cook.” Is that respect?
If you disagree we can’t respect you.
Don’t try to give your point of view, we won’t be able to respect you…
Little girls earn this respect by respecting the fact that they are always second to their brothers. “What’s wrong with that, don’t they love their brothers?”
It’s more like a Terror of Respect.
Do as you are told or else we will not ‘respect’ you.
Dress only the way we permit or else…
Don’t choose your life partner or else…
Let your husband and his family abuse you, or else…
Give us a male heir or else…
Don’t enter the temple, you are impure…
Don’t complain if you were sexually harassed, molested or abused or else no respect.
So, when it comes to women, it seems respect is more a means to control than a privilege.
I would say the only kind of respect that matters is the respect we have for ourselves. Or Respect that is given in return of respect – equal and mutual. All other forms of reverence and respect are not too far from ‘honor’ and ‘honor killing’ or honor related abetted suicides.
Kelkar objected to Poonam ‘sullying the image of Indian women before the whole world.’ (Read Bhagwad’s objections to granting Poonam such powers)
Another man thinks her actions can sully the name of his caste. So obviously this lawyer believes there are no Brahmin rapists, child abusers and murderers? Or these crimes don’t insult Indian culture?
We live in an India where some people can legally express their arrogant, sexist and casteist opinions and offend my democratic and tolerant sentiments. I find it difficult to understand or ‘respect’ such frivolous objections. Are they doing this for free publicity? In a country where rape victims have to wait for years for justice, aren’t such cases a waste of time and resources?
Thankfully we are a civilized, democratic society. Poonam Pandey, Rakhi Sawant and Mallika Sherawat are generally free to ignore these opinions or react (if required) through a civilized, legal process. No stoning. No anti-blasphemy laws.
And that is something I respect about my country. 🙂
Women who value the respect they have for themselves more than the respect of every wannbe politician, publicity seeker, neighour’s third cousin etc are able to fight back.
Sraboney shared this video where this Pakistani actor Veena Mallik is fighting back against similar allegations. Makes me wonder if hypocrites are the same everywhere.