I feel Patriarchy puts women in situations where they feel they are competitors. And then this comparison might become a habit 😦
It’s not easy for most people to support or encourage a rival, how would you feel in this mother’s place? The daughter in law is also given a standard to work for. 🙄
If married men lived with their in laws as a rule, how would the relationship between a man and his father in law have been?
When men and women, or two men, are in competition with each other, the feeling is not too different. From sexual harassment, slut-shaming, spreading false stories about (perceived or real) rivals, men and women seem to try everything to put rivals down.
Jealousies and one-upmanship are sometimes seen as machismo. Watch ‘Hayward 5000’ ads on You Tube for examples.
If men are judged by something they have no control over, one can expect reactions like this… Women might react with similar jealousy.
And why don’t all women value female-friendships, which often provide sensitive, solid, reliable, support systems for them?
Traditionally women were encouraged to see their home and family as their world.
Friendships outside of the family were (and are still) seen as a frivolous waste of time (for women). Even today marriage can end women’s friendships.
The only women they could interact with were those who might see them as rivals for the attention of the more powerful family members (often male).
Female bonding, where a woman can choose who she bonds with, is a new, amazing and empowering concept.
‘Sex and the City’ and ‘Ladies’ Special’ (on Sony TV) are examples of female-bonding.
I wish I could find some videos – advertisements, songs or trailers on women-bonding. Please do share if you find any.