In most cultures, male victims of abuse dare not speak about their abuse – because it shows them as vulnerable – something men are not expected to be.
In homophobic cultures the abuser would be severely dealt with, not for the abuse as much, as because the victim he chose was male. Maybe also because it clashes with the deep rooted concept (across cultures) that sexual abuse is something that women invite on themselves… how do these cultures deal with men as sexual victims? By pretending male abuse never happens.
And then there is the thinking that somehow one does not make ‘such things’ public. We ignore that making a crime look shameful for the victim silences the victim and encourages the abuser.
Take a look at this example on Subterfuge.
I don’t understand the assumption that it will be better for men to go *public* with stories of their abuse. Telling a therapist, sure — the benefits to that are pretty obvious. Telling an intimate partner also could be a good idea. But telling the world? Why is this *assumed* to be a good idea?
Click to read why is it a good idea to ‘go public’.