She will live forever in our hearts.


Born: 19th Jan 1991.

Died: 11th Aug 2010.


Tejaswee’s blog.

A LETTER TO THE FUTURE..

http://blabberblah.wordpress.com/2009/08/25/a-letter-to-the-future/

LAST POST WRITTEN ON 29TH JULY, was after this one.

http://blabberblah.wordpress.com/2010/07/22/college-again-and-my-shift-key-breaks/

It’s difficult for me to talk about it now. All I would say is we have decided it would help tremendously to channelize our grief in some positive direction. A relative hugged me during her funeral and said, “Now this grief will go with you to your grave. Till the last moment of your life, till your last breath, this baby you gave birth to and loved is going to make you cry.” And suddenly something snapped. My daughter was an easy child to raise. My dearest friend and my closest ally, a confidante, a companion, we talked endlessly, we shopped, we read, we laughed at the same things and I never had to face any of the parenting problems one hears about. I feel I was extremely fortunate to have her with me for the best nineteen and a half years of my life. The thought of crying and not smiling fondly whenever I thought of her – a girl who never made anybody cry… I knew I did not want that.

We have all decided to talk about her without bitterness. One of her closest friends visited me and helped reactivate her Facebook account. (I had persuaded Tejaswee to deactivate it last month because I felt she was spending too much time on facebook). We have decided to understand that everybody has to go someday, she left earlier than we would have liked. We have decided to see which of her causes we can support. One of the thoughts is to start a scholarship in her name, maybe a fund. I would appreciate suggestions for this. And also any suggestions that help us stay positive.

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483 thoughts on “She will live forever in our hearts.

  1. IHM, love and hugs dearest. Knowing you, you will make something positive out of this. Seeing Tejaswee’s pictures, her beautiful smile, the wonderful person you helped raise and create…stay strong IHM, stay strong. I’m glad to see that you have decided to avoid bitterness, her life was worth a lot more than that.

    (((((((((((((((((((((HUGS)))))))))))))))))))))

    Please let me know if I can do anything. ❤

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  2. Loads of hugs to u IHM. I just can’t control my tears, but I hv to after reading what u hv written. She is such a bubbly girl full of life and I just fell in love with her after reading her posts. We are with you in whatever u want to do IHM. Lemme know what we cn do from our side. Hugs again.

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  3. Hugs. I checked to see if there was any update on Tejaswee’s health. Words may not offer consolation but I hope you will derive strength from your family as well as friends in person as well as in the blogworld.
    Take care
    Gayatri

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  4. hugs IHM…

    even from the small snippets of her you kept sharing she comes across as a wonderfully warmhearted and positive person…

    and seeing her pictures…

    may her soul rest in peace

    and yes, knowing you, you will come up with some wonderful and long lasting to help your daughters memories be as beautiful as she was…

    i wish i could actually hug you at this time…

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  5. I just realized Tejaswani was ur daughter . and also just realize she is no more on this earth. heartfelt condolences to y and your family. May God give you strength to survive and accept this ordeal. Pls send me the link to the page….. i wud like to pay a tribute this way.

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  6. Ur a wonderful mother to think only about the best about her child.

    Like you said, it will help all of you to heal positively after, what can only be called a catastrophe.

    Sending lots of positive thoughts your way.

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  7. My condolences to you and your family IHM. I must say, it’s great to see the way in which you want to channel your grief…and something like a scholarship or a cause in your daughter’s name can ensure that she lives on forever. And of course, will be remembered with a smile as you say. She seemed to stand for similar causes as you do…and adopting a girl was something she wanted to do. Maybe a fund to help adopting a girl would be an idea…

    *Hugs*

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  8. Hats off! You are brave. Why not start something close to your heart to keep her memory alive IHM – a fund for battered women or victims of domestic abuse?

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    • IHM, I don’t know what to say. I’ve been following your blog for the past few months and is one of the first pages I open every morning. Though i don’t know you personally, this really saddens me. I offer my heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

      @ phoenixritu : Brilliant idea!!!!

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  9. IHM. I know that I don’t understand the intensity of the grief that you’re going through. But you are a strong woman. We all love you. We’re always here for you. And the idea of a scholarship is wonderful.
    May she rest in peace.
    Though I’ve known you for a very little while, I feel really sad for your loss. May God give you all the strength to heal.
    *Hugs*

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  10. God bless her, IHM. wherever she is. Don’t have words to write now! Be with your son, he might feel lonely. Sorry, I know you will do that, just wanted to write. Take care.

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  11. Hugs, IHM. Prayers to be the self same strong you, for your family, and for yourself.
    God Bless… From where she is, she’s watching, and listening, and knowing, for she is part of you. And will always be.

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  12. I dont know what to say, i was shocked. Came back to check on the update on her health…….May her soul rest in peace and am sure she must be watching from the heaven with great pride, that you want to stay positive and do some good in her name.
    Its a good thought that you all are going to convert the grief into something positive and scholarship is a good idea, and if it is for medical research and studies, would be more appropriate, i guess….

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  13. My prayers are with you and your family IHM. You’re right, such a lovely kid can only be remembered fondly, and with a smile. May she rest in peace.

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  14. “You can shed tears that she is gone,
    or you can smile because she has lived.
    You can close your eyes and pray that she’ll come back,
    or you can open your eyes and see all she’s left.
    Your heart can be empty because you can’t see her,
    or you can be full of the love you shared.
    You can turn your back on tomorrow and live yesterday,
    or you can be happy for tomorrow because of yesterday.
    You can remember her only that she is gone,
    or you can cherish her memory and let it live on.
    You can cry and close your mind,
    be empty and turn your back.
    Or you can do what she’d want:
    smile, open your eyes, love and go on.”

    -David Harkins –

    you are a brave lady IHM. tejaswee’s photo exudes and resonates with the verve that her blog emanated.

    a trust fund which could finance/endorse/promote her pet causes would be an apt memorial to her.

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  15. Hugs IHM, I really dont know what to say……My prayers for you and your family…May her soul rest in peace..and its a wonderful idea to start a fund in her name…

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  16. RIP Tejaswee 😦 I came here through Tikuli’s posts and am really stunned. May the Almighty grant your family the strength in these hours of grief. I am speechless, really. Am sure Tejaswee is proud of her momma and will be an angel up there to look after you. Take care.

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  17. Dear IHM

    I learned to accept grief in the same manner when I lost my cousin , my best friend and the closest person to me and then my dad.

    She lives in our memory, in all those things which make her beautiful within.

    As a mother of a child of same age I feel so torn from within that it is difficult to say anything but you still inspire.

    A scholarship for the underprivileged maybe for girls will be a good thing I guess. I read her blog and I feel nothing would make her smile with pride where ever she is to see a noble gesture of love and learning in her memory .

    All my love and prayers with you . hugs

    RIP Teju .. you are loved and remembered fondly .

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  18. IHM, you are a brave mother to a wonderful child! God bless your family at this period of your life! A trust seems like a good idea! God bless you in your efforts!

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  19. IHM, ever since I started reading your blog, I have wanted to be a mother like you. I always wanted to know more about your daughter to know how daughters of mothers like you turn out. I am reading her blog and she was just like I imagined: confident, intelligent and concerned about the world around her. May her soul rest in peace.

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  20. I am sorry to hear of such a loss.
    to loose one’s child is the greatest loss any one can face
    May God give you strength to sail through these trying times and may God give your daughter peace
    frankly I do not know how you must be coping up with this loss. just thinking of this makes me cry.
    no words can take away your pain and I know it will be very difficult for you and your family to adjust to her not being there with you.
    No one can and no one will take her place but as it is said time heals every thing so may be with due course of time you may come to terms with this.
    but her place will always be there in your heart.
    pl remember that we all are with you though this media of blogging.
    stay in touch and keep blogging

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  21. I am really sorry, IHM. There is possibly nothing words can do for you now. I hope you find strength to get through this difficult phase – things must be extremely hard for her father as well. Take care. Hugs.

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  22. There are no words of consolation for a mother who has lost her dearest child. your friend was absolutely right — the grief will stay with you, but the pain can be reduced by helping others as you have rightly decided. She will smile from wherever she is at the wonderful and strong woman that her mother is. Hugs.

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  23. I know that the grief is too new and none of the suggestions anyone can post here can really assuage you. Still I have a couple of suggestions:

    1. Give yourself a project – Remodel the house, go for a trek or any extreme sport, lose/gain weight etc. A goal in sight will keep you off the subject of grief and pain preferably a group activity.

    2. Join a support group to deal with grief. The worst thing a person can do is keep it bottled up and let it fester. Joining a support group will help you give vent to your feelings.

    IHM, I am sure you are a strong lady and you will power through this situation. Remember hundreds of women who read this blog look up to you and you inspire them, including me!
    I will pray to Him to give you the strength you need to sail to the other side of this chasm.

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  24. My thoughts are with you Ihm! May god give you and your family the strength to move forward! You have been blessed by the love you have for each other! God be with you!

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  25. I am so sorry. I guess words won’t help too much with your grief. I really dont have any words to comfort but I’ll say this, maybe distastefully, “Haec olim meminisse ivvabit” Time heals all things. I hope…
    I appreciate you helping her causes. A scholarship in her name is a good idea, but not good enough since merititious students are rarely underpriviledged. You could try something more concrete. Like an orphanage in her name or a school.
    Just saying…

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  26. 😦 I don’t have words to type. As a parent, I feel your loss and pain. So sorry, IHM. Its just not fair. Not fair at all.

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  27. This is the most heart breaking post I have ever written. My deepest and heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. We have only met through your blog, but we became a family. We visited each other via the web and yet I feel a profound loss . Your memories of her will last forever and may her smile light up your darkest night. Take each day as it comes my friend, a step at a time however little it may be.

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    • Please ignore the last reply. This is the most heart breaking post I have ever read. My deepest and heartfelt sympathy to you and your family. We have only met through your blog, but we became a family. We visited each other via the web and yet I feel a profound sadness for your loss . Your memories of her will last forever and may her smile light up your darkest night. Take each day as it comes my friend, a step at a time however little it may be.

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  29. I’m afraid I’m totally lost for words. There is a very heavy feeling in me because I ‘know’ you and have read about her in your posts. Now that you have provided a link to her blog, I realise that I knew her too for she used to visit my blog once in a while.
    I’m so, so sorry, IHM. And I’m so proud of you. You raised a beautiful, balanced, obviously intelligent and loving child. The joy of her being will also always be with you right along with the grief till the end of your days. Be at peace, IHM.
    ((((hugs))))

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  30. 😦 I don’t have words to type. As a parent, I feel your loss and pain. So sorry, IHM. Its just not fair. Not fair at all. But we are helpless against God’s will. I will pray for strength for you.
    Yes, do start scholarship and maybe you can sponsor a girl child too.
    Hugs to you, IHM. this was a shocking news.

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  31. RIP Teju…I just read her blog and felt that she is such a lovely confident child.
    Its even tough to imagine your situation…May God give you courage to accept the truth. Scholarship is good idea

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  32. Hi IHM,

    I can’t control my tears.. I am very new to ur blog.. but in these 2 days I feel as if i know u from a very long time…

    You are a very strong lady.. & I hv already learnt so much from you…

    Please do let me know how can I help you in ur noble cause.

    You are an inspiration and so was ur daughter. I read her posts too… Such a bubbly girl…

    I’ll pray to God that He gives you all the strength to move on in life….

    Hugs !!!!!

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  33. I just don’t know what to say. I wish you all the strength and determination to survive this and create something beautiful in Tejaswee’s memory.

    On the cause – what about sponsoring girl child(ren)? Since Tejaswee wished to adopt one?

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  34. HUGS IHM..Tejaswee should be remembered only with smile and not tears…You’re brave and I have high respects for you !

    The headline itself made me cry ! I’m sorry for your loss…

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  35. I am in tears as I read this. Had been praying with everyone else since I first read of your daughter’s illness.
    I visited her blog for the first time today. She seems to have been a wonderful human being, and quite the chip off the old block. May God be with you in your loss. HUGS from me to you, even if you don’t know me so well. You take care and hang in there!

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  36. IHM, I don’t know you. But I know what the mother in you must b going thru. May God Give you strength. May Tejaswee’s soul rest in peace. I will come back and write more.

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  37. It’s clear that the world has lost a bright light akin to her mother. Her Letter To the Future is beautiful, and heartbreaking.

    Here is my suggestion. Your daughter was writing to her someday-daughter.

    Let her speak to all the daughters who don’t know they have such a loving mother, or that their mothers were once hopeful young women. Spread her message to them, let them see that, no matter how tired or cranky or annoyed moms get, once upon a time, they were just like them, and they wanted so, so much. I would make this her legacy.

    I am so very sorry for your loss. Words can’t express.

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  38. Dear IHM, I am so so sorry to hear this. Although I never knew Tejaswee, just knowing you and having heard about her on your blog often makes me feel the loss. And of course, the loss to a parent is incalculable.

    Having seen my aunt go through the loss of her young son last year and after that, seeing a close friend lose a son too – I have seen people experience unbearable grief; in my aunt’s case, she has adopted a course similiar to what you have mentioned. She remembers all the fun things my cousin used to do and all the wonderful times that she did have with him. That doesn’t make the absence easier, but at least, it gives her some happiness to think of him smiling and enjoying himself.

    I would also like to say that while it is a good idea to turn to the positive, grief is natural and overwhelming – so don’t be hard on yourself if you find it difficult to stay positive. I will be praying for you, for you to find comfort wherever it is available.

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  39. Your daughter was such an amazing girl, IHM- just reading her blog makes her qualities shine through.
    (She shares a birthday with my youngest child, who’s exactly one year older than her).
    A scholarship in her memory sounds like a fabulous idea.
    God bless you for your courage in the face of devastation.
    You are truly an inspiration.
    All my love.

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  40. You are a brave mom of a wonderful daughter IHM! From the small sample of her personality you have shared here on this blog, Tejaswee comes across as a brilliant girl who has lived every minute of her life to the full! May her soul rest in peace.. She’ll be that silent strength behind any initiative you take in realizing her dreams.. Wishes and support in plenty for you and your family..

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  41. I can only hope that when something like this happens in my life, I can handle it half as well as you seem to be doing. I’ve not had children, and can’t truly understand the depth of your feelings, but I can well imagine – and I don’t think I would be able to do anything more for many months to come…

    You have my sincere admiration.

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  42. oh my god.I’m at a loss for words IHM..Had been visiting your blog everyday in the hope that might hear she’s better.May god give her peace, where ever she is.May god give you and your husband the courage to overcome this loss. A scholarship is a good idea..if yu don’t mind I would also suggest joining a support group… my sister in law lost her 7 month old baby and is still grappling with the loss. she turned to buddhism and a support group for help.. May god be with you.. Hugs..please take care of yourself

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  43. Dear IHM, Hugs and deepest condolences. I have only known you even if virtually for a very short while. Your spirit shines though. May your daughter find peace. You are my hero for many reasons but this post shows how gracefully you are dealing with a loss of this magnitude.

    Love

    Laksh

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  44. Please accept my condolences IHM. From her blog, she seems like a really mature 19 year old, and a very sweet and loving girl. May her soul rest in peace.
    I support the idea of the trust, and please know that I would love to contribute to it. Lots of hugs, and heartfelt condolences.

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  45. I am so sorry IHM….this news left me shaken, shocked and sad.

    May the dear girl’s soul rest in peace….

    This is just very sad and I hope you’ll find strength in diverting your grief…its easily told than the process of undergoing it…but still keep strong.

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  46. I dont know what to say 😦 I never knew her, and know you through your blog since just a few weeks back, but reading this I am not able to control my tears. I feel someone i knew has gone. I wish I had something more positive to say. I am still absorbing the news 😦
    May tejaswee’s soul rest in peace, and may your family find strength to accept and deal with the loss.

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  47. My deepest condolenses for your loss. I am so sorry to hear about your loss. Please surround yourself with family and friends you and your daughter were close to. Recollecting good times will help a little….It is a very tough loss.A scholarship in her name would be an excellent cause..

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  48. I am so sorry, IHM.

    A scholarship for girls education, maybe sponsoring a deserving girl for an entire school year. But, what ever you choose to do, many here would be honored to contribute.

    RIP Tejaswee

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  49. IHM, its not just me.. the whole of Blogworld shares your grief!! God bless the child.. may she continue to live on in different ways, having a positive impact on the lives of other people… as for ideas for the fund, I was wondering if you could do something to rehabilitate young women and girls, and help them live a life of dignity.

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  50. Dear IHM…I am profoundly sorry for your loss and incredibly in awe of you and your strength. You and your daughter are in my thoughts and prayers. ((hugs))

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  51. I am sorry to hear this GOD BLESS and MAy she rest in peace
    dont know what to say I feel the same way I felt when i Anup went .. WIsh i knew or wish our wishes could have helped..
    God can be cruel sometimes So cruel

    and yes she will live forever , never met her or known her .. even you for that matter jsut through the blog but it hurts to hear this ..

    I am sorry and I hope god gives you all the strength to bear this pain… GOD BLESS

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  52. I am so sorry for your loss IHM !! Came back to check on her health status and was expecting something good abt her and not this news. May God give you all the strength to bear this loss.Your words “We have decided to understand that everybody has to go someday, she left earlier than we would have liked.” already resonate so much inner strength of yours and so much of insiration for everyone.
    I support your idea for scholrship and let me know when and how can I help on it.
    May she rest in peace.

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  53. No words can placate the grief you must be experiencing right now.I was shocked to read about your daughter’s departure.May God grant you and your family strength and serenity at this difficult time.

    Do think about organising Blood Donations Camps since patients of dengue frequently need platelet transfusions.

    May Tejaswee’s soul rest in peace.

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  54. I was praying hard and was waiting to hear about her recovery! Saddened to hear this instead. You have shown the spirit of just who you are! I hope God gives you strength and wish you the very best for setting up a scholarship fund in Tejaswee’s name. Let her soul shine bright through the many who would benefit through this kind of scholarship. Wishing you the very best in this and please let me know if I can help in any which way!

    RIP Tejaswee!

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  55. OMG IHM. I’m so so sorry. I didn’t even know that she was ill, and I didn’t even know her. But reading thru her blog, I felt tears prick my eyes.
    I’m sorry I couldn’t send up a prayer for her good health, ( I didn’t know) but am definitely sending a prayer for her soul to rest in peace. And for you to have immense strength to cope with the loss. But I know God is already doing that.
    Maybe you could adopt a girl child… for her sake..?
    Hugs, IHM. :-(((((

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  56. Dear IHM, No words can console a mother’s grief. May Tejaswee rest in peace. Pray God give you & your family the strength to go through the tough times.

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  57. Hugs… May her soul rest in peace. Stay positive and calm during this period of transition, and keep her dreams alive.

    I wish you and your family all the strength in this world!

    For scholarship, on reading your daughters blog- May be a scholarship for a girl to educate through her life. I believe its called Education Adoption.

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  58. What an amazing girl – and how proud you must be. She will always be with you and I pray for your strength and fortitude in this most difficult of times, one breath, one day at a time.

    I am so sorry that this is what it took to make me delurk. You are a remarkable woman.

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  59. may her soul rest in peace IHM. i am a long time lurker on this site, and I have been anxiously awaiting your updates daily… I have no words to say but we will pray for her soul to rest in peace

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  60. Oh God! I had this terrible feeling yesterday and that`s why I sent you that message! I am so shocked, I dont know what to say to you right now. But I`m sending you lots of prayers so you and your family can find some peace soon. I`m sending you my prayers so that you might be able to think of your lil one and smile. Lots of hugs.

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  61. May her soul rest in peace. Lots of hugs your way IHM!

    I don’t know what to say. My eyes were filled with tears as soon as I read the title. I am so sorry for your loss. I read her blog and saw her pictures and cannot believe she is gone 😦

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  62. I am so sorry IHM. I must say I admire you all the more for the positive attitude you have in dealing with this sorrow. I am sure Tejaswee is happy to see you handle it like this. Hugs !!!

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  63. My thoughts are with you.

    My dearest friend died a few months ago at age 29. Her parents started a scholarship for students at the school where she taught. I think it’s a wonderful idea and it gives people something to give to that can honor your daughter.

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  64. I don’t honestly know what to say IHM, may the almighty give you power and heel your heart. May your young one’s soul rest in peace.

    Loss of a child is something I wish no parent in this world go through. No, I cannot fathom how you feel now. Admire your courage to put words to emotions, God bless you.

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  66. I am very sorry to hear this IHM. All prayers for Tejaswee’s soul to rest in peace and tight hugs to you. I can never forget her image.

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  67. I am so shocked to hear the sad sad news. I was checking on her progress when I saw your post. My heart goes out to you. Im glad that you are surrounded by good loving friends and family. I started to read Tejaswee’s ‘letter to the future’ and could not finish it….She will always be with you.

    I am amazed that you are shining through this and setting up some sort of trust. My suggestion would be to do something that would aid a number of younger children to get the education to get them to the stage of applying to colleges/universities.

    sending you strength for each day
    take care,

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  68. Heartfelt condolences, IHM. Hugs & Prayers! I have been a silent reader here for a while and have always admired the conviction with you write and today I admire, the dignity you show in such a trying time…

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  69. I’m so, so sorry for your loss, IHM! I’m sitting here with tears rolling down my face – and I don’t know that anything any one says or does will help alleviate the pain any time soon.
    {{Virtuals hugs}} if you want them.

    And yes, if you do go ahead with the scholarship, please let us know and put up a donate button here so we can contribute. I’d definitely like to!

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  70. Hugs IHM. I am so sorry to hear this. My condolences to you and your family. May her soul rest in peace. I dont really know what to say. I am really sad and your family will be in our prayers.

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  71. IHM ,

    I am really feeling sad for your loss , and am at loss of words . may her soul rest in peace and may you get all the strength to go through this tough time. Heartfelt condolense to you and your family.

    hugs and lots of love

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  72. I am sorry to know about your loss. May God bless your daughter’s soul and give you and other members of your family the courage to get over this very sad incident in the most positive manner.
    I will be doing a special prayer for your family today.
    God Bless.

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  73. OMG IHM. Cant tell you how shocked I am.

    Hugs for you. And for her.
    I’m sure she’s moved on to a better place.
    And I admire your courage. And her’s.
    Yes, the best way to remember a loved one, is not through tears. But the joy they brought. Even through the grief of losing them, to be joyous and grateful that our paths crossed.

    Hugs again.

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  74. My heart aches for you. This is a mother’s deepest fear. She was so lucky to have such a strong mother, who advocates for all women, and who even now can turn grief to action. I think a scholarship fund is a wonderful idea. An education is the very best chance for a better life — each time a girl receives the scholarship, your daughter will be changing someone’s life.

    You are right that your daughter deserves to be remembered with happiness. She would not want to know that after she left, her mother cried every time she thought of her for decades on end. She brought you joy for 19 years, she wouldn’t want to devastate the rest of your life and leave you broken.

    It’s natural to feel sadness and to miss her. But I have seen so many people who continue to cling to their grief — and I’m sure it’s because they feel they have nothing else to cling to — but the choice to wallow forever in grief is not a healthy one and I have seen it ruin lives.

    As a mother, I hope that my children outlive me. But I have always been aware that they may not. If I ever have to walk the path you’re walking, I will draw strength from the strength that you’ve shown.

    ((((((((((HUGS))))))))))

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  75. omg! i just couldnt believe the title… i rly thot she wd come thru… n i rly did pray for tht unknown gal but who i know is ihm’s daughter… but coming to think of it – in a spiritual angle… they say completin a birth means the person is ready to move to the nxt pedestal… he/she has completed learning what he/she has to… am still shocked… but i do think she is up there in d loving embrace of the divine father – fully smiling… n her soul at rest … May God bless her n ur family now n forever…

    n ur post speaks it all… i dono what it is to be a mother – i still am a daughter… but i know how mothers are – n i know how much u wd have loved her… but the grit shows it all… that u r one proud mother of tejaswee 🙂 Hats off!!!

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  76. Hugs IHM…. I know no words can make you feel better right now. I lost my brother when he was 20 and I was 16 and we feel his loss every single day. All I can say is remember the good times with her

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  77. IHM, I had tears when I read your daughter’s letter to her daughter. I smiled when I saw the courage and impressive way you chose to channel your emotions from this loss. Both of you are truly inspiring. Hugs to you!

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  78. Oh IHM!!! I am so, so sorry to hear about this unbearable loss. My God grant you the strength to deal with her untimely passing.

    I am too shocked to say anything more, but please know that my thoughts, prayers and love are with you and your family.

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  79. I don’t know what to say. Pease accept my condolences.

    You are truly an inspiration, stay positive and strong. Anything at all I can do, please let me know. A scholarship sounds like a good idea.

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  80. IHM………
    I am in shock and feeling numb knowing this. And if I feel this much, then I cant even begin to imagine what you must be going through right now…

    Nothing I say right now will be of any value or be able to comfort you.
    But I can begin to tell you something. The closest I have felt to a loss like this….is losing my grandfather – which you have already read about in my blog….

    It took me a long time to come to terms with his departure….. I was angry at the world, at my fate, at him and I dont know what else….for taking him away from me. No matter what age a person is, it all boils down to the attachment you have with the person. I still get bitter sometimes with the fact that he is not around to share my joys and sorrows.
    But over time…. I realised that he never left. He lives…..through me. Many a time, every action I do, every thought I have, every word I speak….reminds me of him…. and is in some way connected to him through some incident or something he has ingrained within me. I’ve learnt to come to terms with the fact that he is always here….with me…watching…guiding…loving…

    I’ve learnt to celebrate his life and the memories he left behind…. rather than his death per se. I’m crying as I write this….becoz I know and remember what it feels like….

    I know none of these words would make sense to a parent losing a child. But I hope you find peace in time sweetheart. You’d want your space…and take some time off. But if you ever want to talk….we are all right here. (((Hugs)))

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    • And yes….we did something similar in my grandfather’s memory. My grandfather used to be a lecturer for English Literature and principal of his own college.
      In his name we have started an award for the best student for both 10th and 12th in English.

      Perhpas you can do something similar for your daughter….depending on what her interests were etc.

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  81. This is such a disturbing news…..
    My prayers are with you dear friend !!!
    It is like a flash of my own memories , i lost Mithi just 7 months ago ….
    … seeing her blog , i know she was such a lively girl and everything about her will be missed , i pray that whenever you remember her it is with a sense of pride and love for her .
    Amen.

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  82. Feeling so sad since I got to know..

    I’m amazed how strong you are…*big hug* .. no wonder Tejaswee’s so amazing.. I fell in love with her smile the moment I saw it! May the angel’s soul rest in peace.. she must be at peace seeing how strong her mom is… stay that way IHM…

    You are so right! it’s best to channelize your grief in some positive direction..and the idea to focus on her causes is amazing…I hope you get all the help required and you fulfill her dreams!

    Take care..

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  83. Hugs IHM… I am full of admiration for your strength, positivity and outlook.. I never doubted that but such a situation is not easy to handle.. I just wish she could come back to you in person somehow.. her soul must be proud to have you as her mother.. supporting a cause close to her heart in her memory would be the best idea to keep her in your thoughts always.. all my love and best wishes for you..((hugs))

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  84. Wanted to share this beautiful poem with u

    Remember by Christina Rossetti

    “Remember me when I am gone away,

    Gone far away into the silent land;

    When you can no more hold me by the hand,

    Nor I half turn to go, yet turning stay.

    Remember me when no more day by day

    You tell me of our future that you plann’d:

    Only remember me; you understand

    It will be late to counsel then or pray.

    Yet if you should forget me for a while

    And afterwards remember, do not grieve:

    For if the darkness and corruption leave

    A vestige of the thoughts that once I had,

    Better by far you should forget and smile

    Than that you should remember and be sad.”

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  85. Deepest Condolences IHM. She shines through her photographs and blog as such a wonderful young woman. Maybe you would like to do something for young girls in India-she said she wanted to adopt a baby girl? With deepest admiration and respect for both of you

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  86. This seems surreal. These things don’t happen to people. Not to young beautiful beings. I want to say my condolences but the words seem so meaningless. What can one say.

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  87. I need to say it anyway. All my hugs to you IHM. May your daughter rest in peace wherever she is. Like you said, all of us will be there one day. She left a little early.

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  88. you have found so many daughters here on blogsphere IHM..we all are with you in your pain. not to shed tears, but to give you strength. We will never be able to take Tejaswee’s place, but we are there if you need us. this is the space where you will find us whenever you need us.

    – Someone you know

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  89. IHM:

    Shocked !!!, My deepest sympathies’

    I cannot even fathom the pain that you must be going through. Whom the Gods love they call to themselves. Your lovely daughter must have been one of those.

    May ‘Aandavan’ give you and your family strength.

    regards

    Kat

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  90. Hi IHM,

    Firstly I am so sorry for your loss.
    I have experienced loss too so I can say..at first you will cry because everything will evoke a memory..even the most bizarre things, but you will smile too when you realize that love and loving memories reside in the space of one’s heart and mind and physical absence cannot remove or diminish love, remembrances and consciousness.

    I wish you the love and strength to move past the grief. Your beautiful and inspiring daughter will help you!

    Om Sai Ram.

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  91. She wanted to adopt a girl. Maybe something in that direction. My mother set up a scholarship in a medical college for a gifted female student in my fathers name.

    I hope you remain as strong as sound. These are very wise words

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  92. I have no words to express the pain I feel right now – no way to stop the tears fom flowing. You were an amazing young woman, Tejaswee, – a child that any parent would be proud of. You were confident and mature beyond your years, as is evidenced from your writing – and it’s truly a shame that you had to leave us all at this tender age.

    My heartfelt condolences to you, IHM, and your family – your attitude through this bereavement has been one of such strength and positivity – you are truly inspirational.

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  93. Am at loss of words…may god give strength to you and your family to deal with this.
    Today morning only I dropped in here to check if you’ve posted any positive update about her health, dropped a comment and thought you might be busy in hospital with her, never expected this cruel shock…having gone through something similar just a few months back I can sort of imagine your pain but I know that only the one who goes through this pain can understand the intensity of it.
    Prayers for Tejaswini’s soul, take care…

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  94. My deepest condolences are with you, IHM. I really have no words to say. I’ve been a silent reader here for quite sometime and you’ve been an inspiration to me in more ways than one. Hope God gives you and your family the inner strength to go through this difficult phase. My hugs and prayers are with you. RIP Tejaswee.

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  95. I had been following your blog for sometime, but never commented.
    I never knew your daughter. But somehow is convinced that she was a ray of sunshine which made every life she touched brighter.
    And you’re right- Her memories will never be for crying and sadness. Scholarship is a great idea. But how about something which would reach more lives and spread the light??

    I have no words to tell you to soothe your grief. All I have is some Hugs and prayers.

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  96. Have been following your blog as a silent reader since forever. Honestly I don’t know what else to know other than I’m really seeing your trying to remember her happily…

    May she rest in peace…

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    • My words are stumbling so badly… Here is what I meant:

      Have been following your blog as a silent reader since forever. Honestly I don’t know what else to say other than I’m really happy seeing you trying to remember her happily…

      May she rest in peace…

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  97. I have been reading your blog for a long time, delurking to offer you my condolences. Since there were no updates I assumed she was getting better. You and your family are in my prayers.
    AI

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  98. When I think of her,I think of her love for animals.The conversations we had about pets. A child with so much passion.So much sweetness. My deepest condolences ,to you and your family.Rest in Peace,dear dear child!

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  99. I am not sure I should add this but grieving is important. Such a loss requires that we feel our sadness before being able to move on. Dont skip on that step.

    I am very sorry for your loss

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  100. OMG IHM. I am shocked. I had a sinking feeling since yesterday since its been a while since u gave a health update for Tejaswee and a while since u moderated ur comments. I wish had your phone number to call/txt you to know how she was progressing. I started my laptop with a small prayer for Tejaswee and hoping that u would have posted that she is getting better…

    I dont know u personally, but have known you through your blog for some time now and have always looked up to you. you have managed to inspire me, made me rethink my views on so many issues…as someone said, you are my hero too ! How you are coping with your grief now is really remarkable and will make Tejaswee so proud too. I strive to be a mom like you to my two kids.

    I am just blabbering, i dont know what to say while choking on my tears….this was so not a desirable outcome. Unbelievable. I dont even know how to console a parent who has lost a child…but here’s a hug for you and your family (((((Hugs))))) Please do let me know if I can be of any help. Would love to meet such a remarkable person like you one day..

    RIP Tejaswee.

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  101. IHM,

    I have been reading your blog on and off and I am shocked to hear this news – My condolences for your irrepairable loss and prayers for you to stay positive and focused on the good cause that you have decided to pursue. I would like to contribute to your trust.

    A good idea would be to fund dengue research, if there is any. My nephew was attacked by dengue when he was 8 months old and he survived after blood transfusion. I remember the trauma our family went through those times. May God give you the courage to not break down.

    May your daughter’s soul rest in peace!

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  102. Hugs IHM! Tejaswee was an amazing girl! I loved her letter to the future.
    Was wondering…since adoption is something she definitely wanted to do, you could somehow work in that area? Not sure what exactly, but something related to adoption or the betterment of the girl child.

    RIP, Teju!

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  103. Dear IHM,

    I came to know of your dear daughter’s passing away and it pains me no end. Such a young vivacious girl should have been around for much much longer than 18. I can’t imagine what you and your family must be going through but I indeed hope that God gives you strength to handle your pain. I wish peace on your daughters soul – may she rest in peace.

    You dont know me but if you ever need to talk or chat or whatever, do feel free to mail me.

    Lots of hugs and prayers,
    The Thoughtful Train

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  104. I don’t know what to say. I have been accessing your blog for the last few days hoping for good news and it was a huge shock to read this today. My deepest condolences IHM.

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  105. Darling darling IHM….I’m so sorry IHM….I was in total shock when I read this and couldn’t sleep for all the tears that were coming…

    It’s still so hard to believe and I wish I could be there right now to give you a hug. I didn’t know your daughter but I have been a long time admirer of your blog…a girl who I imagine would have had all the beauty and goodness like her mother…..I….It’s not fair 😦

    Be strong IHM….

    Even from this side of the world know that I am thinking of you and Teju….

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  106. IHM

    I am a lurker at your blog and I did hope that a miracle would happen. I am deeply saddened that the miracle did not happen, maybe it will now with what you plan to do. My deepest condolences and prayers are for you & your family

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  107. Been a longtime reader..You are an amazing woman IHM and a hero to many of us….that is what came through and reflected in your daughter too…thank you for sharing the link to her beautiful blogposts with us. God bless her soul and give your family all the strength to handle this…take care

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  109. May her soul rest in peace…
    Be strong and positive IHM.. Thats who you are and thats how Tejaswee would always want her mother to be !!

    Take care..

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  111. Tejaswee will be fine, IHM, the soul never dies. For the rest of us who prayed for a miracle, time will heal. Please take care, IHM.

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  112. IHM, My deepest condolences to you and your family. I have no words….but to say that we all will learn from the mental strength you have shown in this situation of deep grief.

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  113. IHM… i m really at a loss of words and shocked !!! May god grant you the strength and you really are a brave woman !! i m sure your daughter must be really proud of you !!

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  114. First timer here…My deepest condolences to you and your family. I hope and pray God gives you and your family the strength to live through this. RIP.

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  115. My deepest condolences on your loss. I found your blog about a fortnight back and there was a post that caught my attention. I stayed back read some more…You shared a special relationship with your daughter.

    I would suggest:
    1. Don’t let yourself be alone. Don’t shun company.
    2. Try to make some changes in your living space – it could help.

    She’ll always live in your heart and in your memories.

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  116. Came here to check on her health and am shocked. My deepest condolences. May her soul rest in peace. You’ve been an inspiration to all of us and am sure you’ll emerge stronger out of this.

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  117. Hugs to you.

    Of course she lives. She will always live.

    A friend of mine lost her 20 year old daughter an year ago. She is an artist – she started an Art scholarship and trust in her name. When ever you are ready, I will connect you with her.

    You will be in my heart and my prayers

    Gurpreet

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  118. My heartfelt condolences to you and your family.

    To keep her positive energy alive, would you like starting up an awareness platform on the diseases that abruptly end the lives of our near and dear ones. The government’s passive attempts hardly help. You are a wonderful writer with poignant insights; maybe an online initiative will help as a starter. It can later, depending on energy and resources, be taken to the field through awareness camps etc.

    Please let me know if I can be of any help. Your courage, positivity and attitude definitely makes a difference.

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  119. IHM,
    I’ve not been online as much and checked to see any update on tejaswee’s health. This I did not want to read. I don’t know what to say I’m shatterred but I admire your courage. I’ve seen death closely – loved ones and am still coping up. May God give you the strength. She will be your lovely girl always and alive in your heart. Lots of lots of hugs and please let me know if I can help in any way.

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  120. dont know what to say IHM. can’t imagine the place you are right now. sending you all my thoughts and wishes. let me know if i can do ANYTHING to help in ANY way

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  121. (((((hugs)))))

    I just didnt want to know this, I really feel numb and I also feel a rage and cant believe dengue can kill in this day and age… and I really cannot well comprehend, but sigh…. its really brave of you to still maintain a positive outlook.

    May your daughters soul rest in peace.

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  123. Feel helpless..extremely helpless.
    But hope you find comfort in the thought that there is some logic behind one’s loved one being called away at a certain time. It’s all ok then. May God give you extreme strength to cope up with this loss beyond words and explanation.
    RIP child. I shall pray for all good. I just did.
    God bless !!!

    -Anand

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  124. Blessed are those who get the opportunity to raise daughters. For the girls bring with them such joy, empathy, sensitivity and caring. And as you say about Tejaswee, they are easy to raise and can be great friends and companions to their parents. But we as parents should know how to bring them up. You brought up your daughter so well. I see her through her blog and what my daughter tells me about her. She was a bright, sensitive, balanced, caring and a joyful human being who spread laughter around her.
    IHM, I feel you would be doing parents a great service if you shared with them tips on how to raise daughters, based on your own experience of raising such a wonderful human being.

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  125. IHM…you are such a strong woman…I wish I could have even 1/10th of ur strength…I don’t know you..netiher I knew about your daughter until yesterday…and I cried and cried…

    You said having a daughter like her was a blessing..I would say having a mother like you would be a blessing to any child…

    A big hug to you.

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  126. I am moved beyond tears by this tragedy and your brave response to it. I could see from reading your blog posts that you’re an exceptional person and your reaction to this loss proves that. A scholarship in your daughter’s name would be a wonderful thing. It will not only keep her name alive but benefit many young girls for ages to come. I lost my sister when she was 19 years old and my sisters and I now want to do something similar for her.

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  127. Prayers for you and your family to keep the strength. She will be remebered not just by those who knew her personally, but by every one of your readers who had her in our prayers these days.

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  128. There’s a proverb that the Gods grow jealous of those who are most loved and snatch them away from earth.

    How else can we explain the agony of a daughter who leaves a shade too soon, thus?

    Please accept my condolences.

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  129. hi,

    i came across your blog while surfing about cwg corruption and it’s result in high dengue cases in delhi.

    am shocked and appalled that an innocent ,bright young girl with an amazing future succumbed to death due to gross negligence by the CWG authorities.

    I was born and brought up in chennai and have been living in the united states for the past 2 years.My main reason for going abroad was health issues.I was severely allergic to the pollution, unhygienic water(no matter how many times you boil it) and mosquitoes .I ended up popping 10-20 pills a day for 3 years.

    after reading your blog,i am numb with anger and shock.
    this should have never happened ,that too to a family that is honest,hard working and law abiding.but at the end it is always us, the middle class citizens, who suffer because of corruption.

    It is great that you want to start a cause in your dear daughter’s memory.it would be great if you could do something about rising unhygienic conditions in India . bottom line is India is NOT AS SAFE as we thought it was.I have already lost a number of relatives due to health issues related to the unhygienic conditions .

    finally,i hope this CWG game is a massive failure for ruining Delhi and it’s people.

    my prayers are with you and your lovely daughter’s soul will rest in peace.god bless

    lots of love,
    madhu

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  130. IHM..Im too shocked and numb after hearing about your loss. I was really really praying fdervently for her to get better. I am amazed at your strength. May gos continue to give you such strength. Tejaswee was so full of life that she will live forever in our hearts.

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  131. I am so sorry, IHM. I don’t know what to say. I have avoided saying things like “You’ll be strong” or “Don’t worry” or “Smile and remember her” etc. because they all sound so futile and insignificant. In face of this tragedy, I can only say, IHM, I am with you. I will not patronise or speak empty words. I will listen if ever you wish to talk to me.

    I was in denial for two days, and refused to believe this. I first came to know when I saw Chandni’s link to Teju’s memorial page on Facebook. I hoped and hoped it was a horrid prank, because how could she die of dengue. Surely it affects only the poor and deprived in this way. But death is such a leveller.

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  132. IHM..Im too shocked and numb after hearing about your loss. I was really really praying fdervently for her to get better. I am amazed at your strength. May god continue to give you such strength. Tejaswee was so full of life that she will live forever in our hearts.

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  133. I don’t know what to write. Am deep;y shocked. I visited your blog on a whim, after almost a year, and I can’t say much. Words are all….that is left now. May Tejaswee’s soul rest in peace. Hugs to you . May you find the strength to come out of this tragedy.

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  134. May her soul RIP.
    You are a very strong lady and your daughter looking from up is proud of you. She is happy your gonna fulfill her daughter.. She has wanted to adopt a child and i think it would be wonderful idea if you could something like that which will fulfil her dreams..
    My prayers for you and your family..

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  135. So sorry to hear this!. But it looks like Tejaswee is still living and will continue to do so with the intiatives that you are planning. God bless you all. RIP Tejaswee

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  136. I have a child who troubles me over things
    That awkward little grown up brings
    Pain and pathos with mere touch
    Still I wish every child were such

    You have lost a lot untold
    But take mine and every child in your heart’s fold
    Richer than you nobody can ever be
    For you have found a way to be

    With you, my dear and with thoughts of your daughter who I just got to know.

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  137. Just coming back, to say, IHM, that all of us – every single blogger I know – are grieving together with you… we all feel terrible about Tejaswee… especially after reading her blog, we realise how much she was like you… strong, radiant, and a wonderful, charming and charismatic girl!!! God bless you and your family…

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  139. I can’t even express how sad I feel after hearing about your daughter’s passing away. This is my first time here but I feel as if I know you very well and i tears my heart to see such pain. I wish I could say some soothing words but all I can say is ‘Please hang on and I hope you are able to forget the pain of losing her and remember the joy of having been with her’. My very very heartfelt condolences.

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  140. Just came here to find out how she was doing and found this post. Shocked and dont know what much to say.
    My heartfelt condolence and may her soul rest in peace. Amen!

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  141. Dear IHM, May Tejaswees soul rest in peace always. You are a brave woman, and the thought which is passing through your mind now is the noblest, please let us know how we can contribute in any way for this wonderful cause you have in mind. Went through your daughters blog, could not control the tears. God bless you with strength and courage to bear this oss. Hugs to you. Rekha

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  142. I really didn’t know what to say to you. I was hoping for an update that said, she is back home. Because that is how things usually happen. That is how things are supposed to happen. I thought Mom would come home too.

    I called my grandmother up immediately and asked her what to say. She lost both her daughters young and healthy. What do you say, I asked. She said, you say nothing. Just that you understand. But do I?

    No, I don’t and probably you don’t either. All I want to say to you right now, is that you’re not alone. I am glad you are taking charge of it and want to do something better. But, that doesn’t change anything, does it?

    I don’t know if she is a better place. I don’t know how life would have been if this hadn’t happened. I don’t know if it happened for the good but it did happen. For some weird twisted reason. I lost my mother when I was 9 and hated the world.

    It does get better with time. But it never goes away. She was here for a reason and now, she is gone. I still don’t understand why. I have no advice to give you because I myself don’t know what makes it better. Some days are better than the rest. And one day, you’ll wake up to realise that you haven’t cried in over a week. Life goes on.

    I’m sorry for this. And if you need to talk to a stranger, you’ve my email id.

    Love,
    R

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  143. Hope you find enough strenght to carry on what you are planning to do ..and stay positive forever ..
    That is such a noble way of keep remembering your daughter

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  144. Look up at the sky the shinest star is your angel is looking down at you

    May Lord Shiva give you and your family the strength to carry on.

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  145. I am just so speechless….no words can cover for your loss…but all i can say is may her soul rest in peace….and may God give you strength to pave through…and channeling ur sorrow into something fruitful is best gift to her memories.

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  146. I am VERY sorry for your loss. HUGS IHM. May you and your family find the strength to deal with your loss. Wish I could do more than just offer a few words.

    Rest in peace, Tejaswee.

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  147. IHM, we truly share in your loss, which no words of comfort can take away. You’re a very strong and composed person, and I can understand how lucky your daughter was to have a Mom like you. Her life, although quite short, must’ve been worth a hundred years, living as your daughter. From what you’ve written, we can understand how much you both treated each other as buddies. Take care, IHM.

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  148. Oh IHM,
    I am so very very sorry. Fate is just so cruel sometimes. I don’t have the words to express my grief at this young life being taken away before it was lived to the full.
    Deepest condolences, and I hope you are able to find the strength to concentrate on the positive memories of her.

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  149. I am really really sorry for your loss! May all my strength and prayers be upon you and your family to go through this…..I have a daughter who is 4 years old……and i feel like i have lost my older one…..she will be with you all! Hugs….

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  150. wishing u all in the family and nears and dears my deepest condolences !
    I am sure God needs kids like her who are soo good too with all his other kids being soo troublesome; I hope he gives you all the strength to cope with the tremendous pain and grief….i shed tears too hearing of hw wonderful a human being she was and remains in all our hearts forever !
    take care

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  151. I was hoping fervently that she would have come back home. I am terribly sorry for your loss. She seems like an immensely positive person and perhaps that’s what she would like to be remembered as too. Write her letters…plenty of them, do every thing she would have wished to do, live your life to the fullest for her. Hugs.

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  152. I am very sorry for your loss… I just read Tejaswee’s blog posts and clearly, she had inherited the writing skills with a more bubbly and fun-filled approach.
    Be Strong and the scholarship initiative is great.
    Count me in for any help on the same.

    IHM, Life has to go on and I am glad you’re not getting into a nutshell.
    Good luck and Tejaswee be in peace.

    RoHiT…
    dial-a-denial.blogspot.com.

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  153. RIP Tejaswee!…

    I read a couple of her blog posts and they are amazing…

    A honest, kind, irrepressible spirit gone too soon…Losing a loved one is like losing a part of your body…you feel empty…I know the feeling, its difficult but I sincerely hope you find the strength to cope with this loss. A BIG HUG to you.

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  154. I am shocked ! Have been very bad in sharing grief.. but I know how is it like to lose someone you love most… All I can say is that at this moment, I stand silently by your side… may Tejaswee rest in peace …

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  155. Came here looking for an update on Tejaswee’s recovery.

    I am so so sorry.My thoughts are with your family.I always used to wonder about your daughter,and how she would be having you for a mother…don’t belive in the drishti mumbo-jumbo…. but would like to now…. just to have a logical reason for her being taken away so early….

    Whenever you wish to… please do share your plans for a trust or so… would like to help/do whatever I can for it to go forward.

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  156. Hey, that’s such a great loss, IHM. My hugs and prayers to help you heal and come out strong on the other side of this midnight. Deep condolences.
    And what a wonderful spirit Tejaswee had. I just read her letter to her future daughter. She so wanted to adopt a daughter. Was so in love with life….!!!!
    Please let me know if there is something I can do…
    God be with you,
    ~Varada

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  157. IHM…. I’m so honoured that you thought us, your blog reader, close enough to share your grief with…

    May god give you all the strength to deal with this.

    My prayers are with you. and your family..

    Hugs…

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  158. IHM, I am shocked! I’ve been away too long… didn’t know when all this happened. Virtual hugs are not enough to convey how much I feel for you right now… I wish I could reach out to you and take some part of your pain away. I wish I had prayed for a miracle earlier. You really are brave to be talking of acceptance just now. What can I say to make this easier for you? Please take care of yourself. Believe in God. Yes, you’re right – some people go earlier than the rest, but we all go. May Tejaswee’s soul rest in peace.

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  159. I am so sorry for the loss of your child. There are no words to express my sorrow. Though I know you only through your blog, I consider you as a strong, independent, free thinking, intelligent person, who loves life and works her way to make it better. I like and admire you for all that. Please, go on being like that! I CAN’T understand how all this happened and as a mother, I feel unable to write words of consoling, I can only say that, like all your ” airwave ” friends, I think of you and pray for your dear daughter.

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  160. First day when I read your blog I became your admirer and now you are my hero, my ‘inspiron’. I cried and for few moments I felt myself being a mother of a 19 year old bubbly kid. First with sadness and then with anger that we the people of India, a country which is said to be developing very fast are living in which terms where we loose our youths so easily over illnesses and road accidents, just like that. We need to be more informed, careful and much more concerned for health and safety for our kids, anyhow with or without any helping hands from the governing bodies.
    Tejaswini will be there always, just as smiling as in her photo.

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  161. Dear IHM,
    Can I say I am proud to have you as a blogger friend, the way you have channelisied your sorrow into a positive direction is something that needs to be aplauded…
    My hugs to you.
    I should say, education to girl poor students should be on the agenda.

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  162. IHM…Hugs to you..i dont know what to say..have not been blogging at all..sometimes i just read a few blogs..i don`t know know why I just wanted to stop by at your blog…after months and this is what I read..I really don`t know what to say..I don`t know you personally but we have always connected through our blogs.. i will pray for your family sp your son ( hugs to him too )..tejaswee is happy n in peace..be sure of that..read her blog too..amazing girl..take care and cry if you want to but do celebrate tejaswee`s life..hugs..

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  163. I cried when I came to ur blog & went to Tejaswee’s blog.. no words can make you feel better or come out of this stage.. just giving you a big hug.. stay strong for ur family..

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  164. Hope and optimism is life, let nothing defeat it, not even death.You have shown the world how to live even in the face of extremes, not just confront them but challenge those as well.
    Life must win.
    May you get stronger in your resolve with passing time and make Tejaswee’s dreams come true.
    Miracles like her never die, they just transform. She has moved on to lighten up somebody else’s life….
    I was so wrong on that day on phone…..i am with you in whatever you do…whichever way you do. My prayers are with you.

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  165. I do not have the words to say to mother on this loss…
    May god give you and your family all the strength

    Whichever way you decide to cherish her memory, please let me know how I can help

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  166. This is the first time I’m posting on your blog. I send my prayers to you and your family.

    We should remember that we all are eternal souls and the body is supposed to be destroyed eventually either today or in future, but your daughter’s essence – her soul remains around you. She will comfort you, guide you; just try to reach her through prayer and meditation and if really needed, then through hypnotherapy. Also if possible, try to study BhagavadGita as frequently as you can after sometime – it will give you the strength to face these battles of life.

    A fit tribute to your daughter would be to start a fight against dengue and try to eliminate it from our country. We should try to channel our grief and anger into something positive that will also help fellow-citizens. May Tejaswee’s soul be in peace!

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  167. May Tejaswee’s soul rest in peace. IHM, I salute your courage and determination while you cope with the grief. You are a wonderful mother. I hope you will achieve whichever cause you decide to work on, in memory of Tejaswee. Here is sending you lot of positive thoughts.

    -Sandhya

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  168. As you can see IHM, so many people share your sorrow even though we didn’t know Tejaswee. My thoughts and prayers were with her when I first saw your post and now they are with you and your family.

    I have lost two people I was very close to suddenly in the past and what I realised is that sometimes the best and brightest people go early because their work here is done. Maybe this thought is something that will help you.

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  169. what can one say to a mother who has lost her child?

    My prayers.

    it will hurt- for a long time – eventually you will learn to live with that hurt.

    but you are fortunate in that she is one about whom you have only pleasant memories. not many parents are that lucky.

    may God bless you and give you strenth in these difficult times.

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  171. I am praying to God to give you and your family the strength to deal with this terrible loss. The more I read Tejaswee’s blog the more I feel anger at the unfairness of life. Tejaswee seems to have been a very bright and vivacious young wome. Though she is no longer physically here, she and her memory will continue to live on through others.

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  172. No words to convince IHM. I cried for myself once before writing this. You are brave and god preserve this and help you and your family thru this difficult phase.

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  173. I am deeply saddened to learn about your loss and wish to send my sincerest sympathies to you and your family. May your heart and soul find peace and comfort in the precious memories you hold in your heart
    With Prayer, blessings and sympathy

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  174. God, I don’t know what to say! All along I was hoping for the best…
    I just read Tejaswee’s blog…I’m too overwhelmed.

    Praying for you and your family…

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    • Oh IHM! I checked your blog for update thinking your daughter was home by now. I never knew Dengue can be fatal.I don’t know what to say and how you are dealing with this. Strength to you IHM. I feel like crying myself.

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  175. IHM, my heart goes out to you and your family. Admire your decision and resolve to channelise your thought positively. From reading her blog, I see her desire for a girl child. Possibly, you could so something in that direction. Let us know what you decide and we’ll support you with that.
    This will help channelise your thoughts and help you stay positive.
    Stay strong.

    I wish I could give you a tight hug.

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  176. I am so proud of the way you are handling this.

    I read and loved her letter to her future daughter. Would you like to adopt a daughter for her?

    Loads of love to your family.

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  177. Dear IHM,

    I have no words to express how sorry I am for your loss. I’ve been here almost everyday since but have been too shock to even write something. You are a tremendously strong woman and Tejaswee is so lucky to have you as her mom. She is smiling proudly. My prayers are with you and your family.

    Tejaswee’s letter to her future daughter could be used as a basis for your fund/scholarship idea. Sponsor a child/children till she/they can suppose herself/themselves. That way Tejaswee will always have future daughters mirroring her philosophy and being her kids. She also had love for animals. Maybe open a shelter for stray animals?

    Take care. Lots of love hugs and prayers
    “A”

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  178. Hello IHM, I saw this on friday, but just had no words to utter. Just dont know what to say. No words actually help. The loss of a child is the worst pain for a mother. May God give u and ur family the courage to go on. May God give peace to the departed soul.

    RESTLESS

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  179. Three days I was away and it was with great fear in my heart that i opened your blog today IHM. With heavy heart I share your grief .We lost my daughter’s childhood friend and our neighbor also of 19 yrs to dengue just a month back.
    Remember her with smile on your lips IHM because that is what ‘sunshine’ Tejaswee spread on this earth.Iam moved to tears and words fail me as I write this…
    I do not know her yet I feel close to her and to you in your loss.
    Keep her memories alive the best way you can and its only you who knows how…
    Just to let you know we are there..
    warm hugs IHM for the family. Take care..

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  180. Hey IHM

    Never knew before how one can get attached to someone, just by following her blog. But today I feel as if I have lost my daughter. No words to share…just heartfelt condolences.

    May God bless you. Take care.

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  182. Dear IHM,
    I just happened to be on twitter when i saw messages for Tejaswee.
    We are deeply saddened and pray to God to give you the strength to carry forward the smiles and happiness that Tejaswee brought to all of you. I find myself at loss of words but stand with you with prayers in my heart.
    God Bless

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  183. My prayers to give strength and positivity to you and your family. No one can say enough to express the grief and loss you are experiencing.

    I salute your thoughts and the desire to keep Tejaswee’s spirit alive. Your desire to start a scholarship is brilliant. Target it towards the ones who really need it. Like maybe in a Govt school for girls. Or about medical awareness. We living-in-city-people-with-access-to-medical-facilities also require awareness.

    May God with be with you!

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  184. IHM, grieved to read about Tejaswee. I have seen enough death but every time effect is same. No amount of platitudes and cliches would lessen the grief you are going through. I pray God gives you and your family courage to face this untimely death.

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  185. May God give you the strength and patience to overcome such enormous grief and loss.
    Scholorship for orphan girls would be a good idea to start with

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  186. IHM, I hd been to a few tribal villages this weekend and ws so happy to see many girls going to school and their parents wanting to send them to school IHM. It reminded me of u and I ws sure u will be so happy about it. Totally off context, but u and Tejaswee have been on my mind all the time and I had to tell u abt this. I read her blog and felt she is sooo like u, wanting good things for the society. That very moment I thought of u and dedicated all the service we did there to her.

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  188. i have been crying all day… it doesnt matter that i have never met you.. or her.. she was a sliver of sunshine.. how can someone like that go away.. just like that? The finality of the thing…. if all of us together.. could just.. do anything…

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  189. Need to quote from a beautiful song from Taare Zameen Par:

    सपनों का बुना स्वेटर सा warm
    सफ़ेद बादलों के पार
    मेरा जहान

    May she rest in peace.
    May you have all the strength to deal with this untimely loss.

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  190. Dear IHM

    I am very sorry for your loss. I wish there was something more I could say, but words fail me.

    I applaud the approach you have taken to deal with Tejaswee’s untimely departure. May god bless Tejaswee, wherever she is.

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  191. I am really sorry for your loss. May god give you courage and strength to pass through this tough phase.
    Even though I don’t know you, have been new to your blog, as soon as I read this news, my mouth was open with disbelief… I will pray for you and your daughter. May her soul rest in peace.

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  192. I am completely dumb founded….cant belive such a lovely girl can go away so soon.

    The scholarship is a great idea IHM but I think tejaswee might have wanted you to adopt the daughter she couldnt, think about.

    Hugs

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  193. Dear IHM

    I’ve been coming back repeatedly to express my condolences, but words just don’t seem to flow. I am really sorry for your loss. I cant imagine what you and your family must be going through now, so I am not going to offer understanding, just support, for what it’s worth.
    Wherever she is, I think she would be very proud to see the positive attitude that you have chosen to take in these very difficult times.

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  194. I came here rather late, and only to check on her health. Her demise was shocking indeed.
    But, you left us a link to her blog and I’m thankful to you for it.
    I was touched at the beautiful way she writes, her words full of hope and positive attitude. It is wonderful that you raised a teenager who is so confident of herself.
    I feel, her demise is not a loss, she fulfilled her destiny, brought a smile to our faces and sunshine in your life.
    May this glow never fade and may you always remember her for the wonderful human being she was.
    I’ll be praying for her and you too.

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  195. Dear IHM – i am so sorry…i can’t stop the tears after reading your blog…God look after u IHM and i hope if there is such a thing as reincarnationshe is born as your baby again!

    Lots of love

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  196. Hugs to you IHM! I was always inspired by your posts. I will pray for you so that God will give you strength to face this. May your daughter’s soul rest in peace.

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  197. I don’t know what to say.. It is really difficult to cope with someone’s loss. I know it very well coz I have experienced it first hand – lost my only bro when I was 3 yrs old, dad passed away year before last and finally mom also died last year leaving me totally alone n orphaned in this world. I really struggled to cope and almost went to a depression. But life has to move on na… People who left us will not like to see us crying. So be brave and do what she liked you to do..

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  198. IHM, I am too dumbfounded and I don’t know what to say. She will be in my thoughts. Never forgotten. Never ever.

    I’ll help in the scholarship fund that you want to create. Or anything else you may want to do. I am only an email away. Please reach out whenever you want to.

    It is strange how life actually goes on.

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  200. I am so sorry to hear this and pray for God to give you strength in this time of grief.yes I think you should celebrate your daughters life and think of the wondeerful time you had with her even if it was cut short.you and your family are in our prayers.

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  201. I hope n pray that God give you and everyone who was close to your daughter , the strentgh to handle her loss.

    Read snippets of her blog and she seems like such a joyous and fun person. someone with so much life. n YES i pray that u get the strength to smile when her thought crosses ur mind and not cry. I’m sure thats what she would like.

    Please take Care.

    Hugs from a stranger!

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  202. Long Time Reader, IHM. I came back to the blog all confident that she’d be okay. Was shocked to see this post. So sorry for your loss. Its never easy 😦
    Hugs

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  203. I’m so sorry for your loss. Amazed and inspired by her writing, I can only wish you strength and hope that Tejaswee lives on in her words.

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  204. I am sooooooooo sorry for your loss. Though I don’t know you nor your daughter….after reading your blogs…my heart broke. Being a mom of two daughters, I can only imagine your pain….hugs…loads of hugs……

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  205. I just came across this, a very sad story, may she rest in peace. Funding a programme to eradicate mosquitos/mosquito borne diseases, so that others may benefit would be of benefit to others.

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  206. I had lost a baby too, but before I could even know what it felt like to have one. This is the first time I am talking about it, but what I realize now is that whether it’s 3 months or 11 years, the loss of a baby is like a punch in the gut that never stops hurting. But I think talking about it takes some edge off that pain. I don’t know what to say, except that I really admire your efforts in trying to keep her memory tangible through the fund. I’d love to help you with that. In any way.
    Meaningless I know, but my condolences.

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  207. May her soul rest in peace. You know that the very best of her will always be with you, inside you, along with you. That, you can never lose.
    I read her blog, and I would have loved to know your daughter, and I would have been proud to be her friend.

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  208. All these days I have been thinking of you and your loss. I started reading your daughter’s blog. What a beautiful, full of life and dreams girl! I must be sincere, I couldn’t go on with reading anything except her letter….because this very letter, which is a piece of high quality literature in my opinion, made me feel worse….One asks “why”, but there is no answer and if there exists one, it cannot heal the wounds. Please, try to live your life, each day as it comes. Your Tejaswee would not like to see you mourning. In due time, you will find what is better for her memory. Please, do not forget, you also have us, your “airwave” friends, too.

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  209. IHM, you would not know how many times i have come here to leave a comment and gone back without doing so. My heart broke when I heard the news of her passing away and I just could not write anything – went blank.

    I prayed every day for her getting well and coming back home.

    Well, it seems it was time for her to leave and go to a different space.

    My love and hugs for you and your family.

    sharbori

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  210. Accidentally bumped into your page 2 days ago. first read this post about your daughter and thought, real world meets virtual! As some one said above, this was not supposed to happen, she was supposed to come home, yes we get so immersed in the blogworld that when something terrible like this happens, it hits pretty hard.

    In the last two days, I browsed through some of your posts, and i liked your spirit. I am not a mother so I cant even imagine how you might be feeling right now, but I pray that your spirit is not broken and you have compassionate people like the commenters above around you to help you through the difficult time.

    A scholarship/endowment in memory of your daughter can be a good idea depending on your target group. As someone above said, if you are giving it to a reputed institute the target will mostly be financially sound, nevertheless a scholarship will be a morale booster if thats what you want. Another idea, a bit more painstaking would be to help prevent the tragedy repeating to someone else like you. There must be lots of NGOs/volunteers working in your city against the spreading of infectious disease. You could think of monitory contribution or volunteering or what ever is appropriate for you.

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  212. I have been meaning to come here a long time but only got around to doing so yesterday.
    I was not prepared for this, it was like skipping merrily around the corner and being hit by a truck. I am really sorry for your loss.

    May your courage stay unabated and inspire all of us to be strong.

    Regards, Love, Hugs.

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  213. IHM, I started following your blog just a few weeks back..and I was so hopeful that God wont be this unfair..I lost my 13 yr old nephew last month and I was still not over the loss.. But now seeing you stand so strong, I wish to bow down to you, to salute the graceful acceptance of fate and the strength that you showed in this tough time.

    Tejaswee was a very bright and bubbly girl…a soul so full of life(I read her blog too) … I still pray for the best for her.

    Hugsss,
    Neha

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  214. I am devastated at the thought of your loss having two daughters of my own but your bravery in the face of this tragedy is inspiring.Remember in love and joy because I am sure thats what she would want of you . Be strong and carry on the good work.

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  215. My deepest condolences to you and your family IHM!! I couldnt stop crying when I read this post, I have been praying for her for the past week along with others 😦 I have a daughter and another one on the way and I cannot imagine your pain. And I so very admire your courage, you are honoring her memory in the perfect way. Pls let me know when you set up the fund, I would love to contribute..

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  216. Hey IHM, wondering how you were feeling now. I would once again like to express my deepest condolences. The idea for making scholarship fund in your daughter’s name is a wonderful idea!

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  217. I am a slent reader. Your daughter was a very beautiful girl. May her soul rest in peace. I am sure she is in complete bliss and peace with God. May you and your family find strength and peace. God bless!!!

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  218. You’re a strong woman IHM, just as I’d thought. And I’m a bit late here coz internet broke down at home.
    I always thought Tejaswee as a lucky daughter to have u as mother, now I know you were lucky too to have her.
    Hugs, and pls get back to writing whenever you can.
    I promise to read more regularly.

    (I regret not having read ur blog earlier, one more prayer might’ve counted. Sorry!)

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  219. I visited your blog after almost a month, and was totally unaware of the developments – all of a sudden, I see this post.

    My condolences, IHM, and I hope you have the strength to go through this.

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  220. I’m so shocked and so sorry to hear this.
    It is hard to understand the ways of life sometimes, like I can’t right now.
    My heartiest condolences. May God give you and your family strength and peace.

    I just read Tejaswee’s blog and in a way it shouldn’t have come as a surprise to me, she was your daughter, after all. Though, it did leave me amazed that these words came from a 17 year old. You have all the reasons to be proud of her.

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  221. I just came back to your blog after a while, and I am so very sorry to hear the news about your daughter. My deepest condolences to you and your family on your loss.

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  222. I know neither you nor Tejaswee personally, but this has brought tears to my eyes. I always knew her by her blogname, and I loved reading her blog. Please accept my heartfelt condolences. Lincoln said, ” I feel how weak and fruitless must be any words of mine which should attempt to beguile you from the grief of a loss so overwhelming.” Stay strong.

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  223. I came over from Nino’s Mum. I am so, so sorry for your loss. I haven’t read you before and don’t know you at all, but I sincerely wish you immense fortitude and a ray of hope. You will have the strength to make something beautiful emerge from this tragedy. God bless.

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  224. IHM, I feel like I know you so well after being a regular at your blog…never thought I would come across a post like this.God always calls the people who He loves,closer to Him.
    God will give you the strength needed at this moment…you always have been a rock.
    I will pray for you.

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  225. may she rest in peace…
    may God give you the strength and endurance to live through this…

    I think it would be thoughtful to start a fund or scholarship programme that will help students in university..who are going through sudden financial crisis situations and are considering abandoning the higher education…to assist them..

    My prayers are with you and your family…

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  226. Dear IHM,

    I am so sorry for your loss and cannot even pretend to understand your feelings and your state of mind right now.

    But just wanted to say this and don’t know if it will help….
    As a follower of the Vedic Philosophy I wanted to share this thought with you that though death can be painful, baffling and scary for those who are alive , it is not so for those who pass on.
    Knowing whatever little of Tejaswee (through her blogs) I will not be surprised if she is gearing to bedazzle yet again (keeping with the name you have given her) as she prepares to be born again.

    Scholarship/Foundation whatever you choose I am sure it will reflect her spirit and attitude and will pass on her zest for life.

    You and your family are in my prayers. May you be at peace …I know Tejaswee is.

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  227. Dear IHM

    I am deeply saddened at your loss yet i hugely appreciate your resolve. Although very difficult to perceive I find the thoughts and likes of your daughter very similar to mine. And to think of it I lost my father when i was 10, its been 20 years now that he is left us, but i never let a day pass without thinking how proud he would be of me and what i have turned out to be. My dad can never be a reason for me to cry or be saddened by and i wish the same for you. When they never hurt us when they were with us, how can they do that now :).

    I hope you find more reasons to cheer up from Tejaswee to brighten up your days. A charity foundation / scholarship fund is best way to keep her spirit alive and I will love to contribute to your efforts in anyway i can.

    Even though Tejaswee has now passed, she does continue to inspire me – I am glad to get to know her (through her blog) and you now – there are very few inspiring ppl one comes across in real life.

    Trupti

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  229. It will take me sometime to accept what I just read. I landed here from her blog and discovered the connection…and everything else.

    I will come back with a sane head… Hugs IHM and yours was a dream daughter! I actually feel like coming and meeting you…

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  230. Dearest IHM..there is no consolation for loss of a child..I never knew Tejaswee but after reading some of her posts I know that I’ve missed knowing someone very very special..so special that God needed her by his side..You must be very proud to have been the mother to an angel..

    please let me know if I can be of any assistance for any cause that you wish to support..my e-mail id is rayoflight28@gmail.com

    lots of love

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  231. I won’t say sorry as that is not a word that defines what I feel right now. All i can say is give colors to her pending dreams and projects. Do something in her memory. Do not remember her much as it will make it difficult for her to enter the new life form.
    Above all deepest respct and sincere prayers for you.

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  232. I’m so sorry IHM, I have been out of blogosphere for over a month…I just logged back in to facebook today and got to know of your loss. Words they say are never enough, but I do sincerely believe that if words aren’t mere platitudes but meant to be a source of comfort and more importantly motivation to move on, like you said, to support the causes that Tejaswee cared about.

    Sitting here in Brighton, I want you to know that I’m sending you a piece of myself with these words that I key in. I have known you through your words and your blog, but I think the bond is strong enough to feel the pain over your loss and hope that someway, someday I can join you in spreading the Tejaswee’s cause, keeping her memory alive.

    Love,D

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  233. I am so sorry for your loss. I wish you peace and love. Nothing will ever be the same. People will speak in reassuring platitudes to you. Nobody can truly know how you feel. But you and your family will go on. Always with your precious daughter in your hearts. She lives on in you.
    I lost my newborn daughter 7 years ago. She is always in my heart.

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  234. Dearest IHM
    You ask at the end of your post for ideas to help stay positive. When I lost my baby daughter, I looked for answers everywhere. My main question was, “What am I supposed to learn from this?” I still don’t know for sure, but I think one lesson was that each day is precious and that I wouldn’t let everyday ups and downs get in the way of letting my husband and other daughters know how much I love them – just the way they are.
    To help me stay positive, I sponsored a little girl through World Vision. I started looking for the good in everybody and everything. I started complimenting and thanking people for everyday things that are usually taken for granted. To see people glow with pleasure at being acknowledged helped me think joyfully about my baby. I stopped thinking about small things and looked more at the big picture. Most stuff doesn’t matter anymore.
    And I started celebrating small things with my family. I had never done that before. When my 6 year old daughter told me that she was the 2nd best reader in her class, we baked a cake to celebrate. Previously I would have asked why she wasn’t the BEST in her class. We started celebrating birth WEEKS instead of birth DAYS. When stuff didn’t go right, we shrugged it off because we were still here.
    I started to read good books. I started to do things I love to do like arts and crafts and sewing. Things I had not done for years because I was always so busy and important before.
    And my friends gave me a white rose bush to plant in my garden and remember my baby. I watered it and watched it grow as I would have watched my danughter. And I smiled when the flowers bloomed. Each one was my baby. Precious and perfect.
    I admire that you are being strong and positive. But I do hope that you will allow yourself to grieve when you are ready. I hope that you will cry and get angry and irrational, if you need to. It took me a year to finally let it all out. Seven years later, there are still days when I can just sit down and cry – especially her birthday. And its okay. Its alright and the world keeps moving forward. And I keep moving with it. One day after the next.
    I wish you all the very best my friend. Bless you and may you find peace and comfort in your daughter’s love.

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  235. My heartfelt condolences IHM. May God give you the strength needed to stay positive and achieve all the things that you want to do for your daughter. HUGS

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  236. This was shocking beyond words.

    The only thing I can say is: give life a chance; if and when a semblance of normalcy returns to your life, do not let yourself feel guilty about it. If possible, convey the same message to your family members and all those who had held your daughter dear. For I believe, that is the most honest way of living. And living honestly decreases the unease in life.

    I know, you perhaps know these things better than me.

    I wish this would not have happened.

    Take care.

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  238. I wish Tejaswee’s soul rests in peace and I hope you and your family get all the strength to deal with this. Will pray to Almighty God to take care of her well in the Heaven…

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  239. IHM…..I havent been blogging for sometime for health reasons…Joe told me about Tejaswee….Share your sorrow…at atotal loss of words…I pray for you and your family..the trust is agreat idea..would want to support when ever you start one…My heartfelt Condolences IHM, to you and your family.

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  240. Heartfelt condolences to you and your family, IHM. Tejaswee comes across as such a mature person, such a wonderful daughter. I cannot even start to imagine what you must have gone through(and still living through), but the way you have handled it, just shows how strong you are.. Hugs and heartfelt wishes, IHM.

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  241. hi IHM,

    i don’t know u..today is the first day that i came across ur blog…n was just browsing through..it was while browsing through the archives that i learned that something tragic,very very tragic has happened here..almost broke down…my heartfelt condolences….i can imagine how difficult it must be…but as far as i gather, u r a strong person…n u have we all here!!….we love ya…our prayers and wishes with ur family also……be strong!!!…God has a better plan!!

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  245. Came across your blog and cried and cried while reading about Tejaswee. Sending you hugs.

    (I have a 3.5 year old who battled for her life for 10 days during Christmas with viral flu followed by pneumonia. Thankfully she came out of the woods and is recovering well at home now.)

    I can’t even imagine the pain and grief of losing your own child.

    Lost for words ..

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  246. Someone had told me once that you can only understand ‘absence’ when someone leaves you forever. It made me take a step backwards and think… I could only think, ‘how do I just undo all the bad things that I have said and done with friends, family and acquaintances…’

    Today, reading this post of yours, I am experiencing this another ‘pause’, which is making me think about the transience called life. I will once again try to be a better person.

    I will pray that your daughter rest in peace, always.I wish that you get the strength to accept life positively, to keep her memories alive with a good cause.

    Amen.

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  247. She is one of the prettiest girls I have ever seen. May you always have the strength to carry on, with her love always alive in your heart. She will always be there with you, around you, all the time.

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  249. Hi IHM,

    I read your daughter’s blog and the related posts on your blog and I cannot contain my feelings. She was so pretty. Her posts full of life. The desire to live forever was stronger than mine. I was self-pitying today, was in a very discouraging mode and then I read Tejaswee’s blog. I strongly believe people who leave us, teach us and go. I am truly sorry for your loss. I hope my writing to you now does not take you back to where it all started. May your daughter’s soul rest in peace.

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  255. I too have lost a daughter…although my pain persists cause i had her with me only for 9 months …never got to see her nor share a alugh with her…..we have a pact she knows me and she will find me till then i smile at her memories with moist eyes…

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  257. Hi IHM…Long time…hope you have been good..i visit your blog sometimes..been out of blogging for a while…proud of what you have achieved here..hugs n prayers ..tc

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