Of Housewives, Beggars and Prostitutes.

Housewives can’t be clubbed with beggars and prostitutes says Supreme Court. And why were they clubbed together? Because, according to Census, all these non workers are not engaged in economically productive work. No wonder so many women prefer ‘work’ to ‘non-work’.

Charakan had once blogged about ‘a trade union for housewives’,  planning  to demand minimum wages and a pension scheme etc.

But the Supreme Court observed, “It is virtually impossible to measure in terms of money the loss of personal care and attention …”

The apex court also said, “the contribution of housewives to the productivity of the society would be huge if the same was to be measured in terms of monetary value.

Also I know of women who had never worked before,  picking up jobs when there was a financial crisis in the family. It didn’t matter whether they were educated  or old or young.

But here’s the part I feel most strongly about.

We often forget that the time spent by women in doing household work as homemakers is the time which they can devote to paid work or to their education.

Even if a homemaker is a SAHM out of choice, she is giving up on a chance to be financially self reliant.

This lack of …recognition of their work mainly contributes to women’s high rate of poverty and their consequential oppression in society, as well as various physical, social and psychological problems,

Many people believe that women get the privilege of being ‘provided for’ and the traditional arrangement is equal in distributing the responsibilities. [Click to read why I disagree] Now I read this news and wondered about their reaction.

Would the conservative in our society prefer them working, if homemakers had to be paid? What do you think?

Edited to add: Thank You for reminding me to blog about this news Sangitha 🙂

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74 thoughts on “Of Housewives, Beggars and Prostitutes.

  1. Its a sad state of women in our society..

    I wonder why is it so hard for everyone to accept them as they are and give them their due right/respect/place in that same society which would never had came into existence had it not been for women…

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  2. Three things come to mind:

    1. Prostitutes should be considered a part of the service industry. After all, they meet an existing demand and so should definitely be counted with other “feel good” services.

    2. Even if we set aside the emotional support provided to the family by a homemaker, the same cooking, child-care and chores would fetch a significant salary if performed by domestic help. Larger the family, the higher the value of the work done. Compensation should be awarded accordingly. After all, we’re measuring the worth of a man on the same scale.

    3. We believe that women raising children is an economically unproductive activity. Yet mothers-in-law want their sons (and by extension daughters-in-law) to be their “budhape ka sahara”. Since a daughter is not “budhape ka sahara” to her own parents, perhaps we can ammend our laws so that mothers of sons can be rated higher in terms of economic productivity than mothers of daughters…

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    • I agree 100%. Why are prostitutes classified as unproductive? They provide a service just like any other. They’re self employed in this case (since organized prostitution is illegal). For that matter, beggars too provide a “feel good service!”

      The thing about the housewife’s unproductivity must have been raised because the government wanted to calculate the GDP. Of the three or four ways of calculation that we learnt in economics , I don’t know of any that takes into account this sort of work. From this angle, I can’t really blame the government for just following a mathematical method. I wonder how other countries do this. Do they count a housewife’s productivity in their GDP?

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      • @Bhagwad,

        In the US a homemaker, if poor enough, can qualify for Supplemental Security Income (SSI) whether he or she has worked in the past or not.

        Now how poor is debatable.

        In a country where women make 70 cents for every dollar made by men calculating household production work is still a touchy subhect. Here is a study that furthers the debate:

        http://gateway.nlm.nih.gov/MeetingAbstracts/ma?f=102274287.html

        It is to be noted that if a homemaker is SAHM taking care of disabled child(ren) she is entitled to childcare benefits and wages from the state.

        Peace,

        DG

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  3. Just shows how stupid those who classified homemakers as doing economically non-productive work are. I am an economics student and according to what I have read, even the earliest of economists have acknowledged that the section of the population whose worth hasn’t been calculated economically is that of homemakers. In fact one of them (don’t ask me names though) suggested that to know the real value of their work, they work in each others house rather than their own and get paid, so the monetary worth of their work can be calculated.
    Economically non productive indeed!! I wish homemakers could disappear for 24 hours and see what happens!

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    • Not only disappear, but also return home when she is paid (what she sees as) a good enough salary. She can quote any amount…and I’m sure the family members will be happy to have her back…at any cost!

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  4. Thank you for sharing this interesting and important court opinion! I pleases me as a woman to see that the Supreme Court continues to push for what the parliamentarians should do for its women electorate. I hope that in not so long in the future, the Supreme Court would blast the government for clubbing prostitutes in non-worker category.

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  5. I think the question that you are asking also needs to be linked to another question, and that is are women considered a “full” human being in our society in their own right? if the system by and large treats women as a “liability” who needs to be taken care of and hence should compensate for it through physical labour (in whichever way, including sleeping with the man), then where is the question of payment? In many Indian marriage rituals the groom telling the bride ” I will provide for you” is an accepted custom.

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    • That is an excellent point, Sharbori. The objectification is even more if the wife cannot meet the husband’s skewed idea of what an ideal wife should be. She is treated like a glorified and unpaid cook, housekeeper, nanny and often prostitute rolled into one. I have seen this happen with someone. You know, you’d better toe the line of my expectations, or else!

      Come on, the woman is human, you excuse of a man, and what about her expectations?

      Sandhya I have also seen such men and they never take a look in the mirror to see how perfect as husbands/partners they are.

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      • @yayavar,

        Tum to sach mein bura man gaye…kabhi hamari gali(blog) aa ke dekho kya haal hai…

        Gentleman, this is the state of educated employed women. Pick up any desi newspaper and check the matrimonials. The premium on being married and remaining married is so high for women that they live in virtual relationship hell. Even their parents and siblings want them to remain married or dead than come back home. IHM has posted it so many times.

        Recently Desi Girl and friends found out in the US the current rate of a Gujrati M.D. (male) is $500,000.00 + decent wedding as mentioned in the earlier comment.

        …I thought (assumed) in coming 3 -4 years, its the time to be married.

        Are you sure. Check this out and let me know if it is reasonable or needs amends. 🙂

        http://girlsguidetosurvival.wordpress.com/ask-before-marrying/

        You are right marriage is more about companionship and that is one thing that is never talked about in arranged marriages. Even in so called love marriages initially that is the binding glue and it quickly fizzles out with family pressure of adjustment with in-laws.

        …I am too too bad in any love or all gucchi guchhi stuff. Honesty and transparency is all for me in a relationship…

        Believe me we women do want that guchhi and muchhi stuff along with honesty and transparency (I guess bollywood has spoiled us 🙂 ). And some like me also require intellectual jugali from time to time. 🙂

        Visit my blog or write @ girlsguidetosurvival at gmail dot com. Let’s not bug IHM with our comment tag.

        Peace,

        Desi Girl

        Me – Ha ha Desi Girl, IHM is enjoying the conversation and raising her eye brows or nodding at appropriate moments 🙂

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    • Condition are as usual:
      Gora, handsome, homely, respects family values yet has modern outlook, from cultured family, decent marriage (read Suraj Bharjatya rajshri.com style wedding expenses expected), pleasing personality and good temprament for now rest can be discussed at chai ceremony or meeting at the temple or restaurent where ever is convenient for you.

      DG

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      • @yayaver,

        That is unfair. When our turn came you abruptly ended the game. DG had to refer matremonials in two different desi news papers (hard copies). Your NO, has quashed our hopes. You didn’t even try to negotiate. Being married and remaining married is not your priority so you can talk back like this. If being married was you passport for social respectability you would have atleast tried.

        OK, throw in some moola and it will automatically make you gora and handsome. With every 50 grand we’ll check off something off the list.

        Didn’t you see, we didn’t ask for companionship or love, too much emotional stuff, just go ahead and serve our parents.

        PS: Please don’t ask God, last time Draupadi asked similar stuff he sent it in five pieces. It is a bit of risky business.

        Looking forward to do business with you,

        Peace,

        Desi Girl

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      • I stepped out because I was incompetent in the qualities asked by you. Only good temprament and cultured family is the two condition satisfied by me. Hey, even by money I am struggling, not due to lifestyle but no ambition attitude.

        Marriage has nothing to do with social respectibility for me, its more with personal nature and some friend to comapny for the whole life. Also, I thought (assumed) in coming 3 -4 years, its the time to be married 😛

        I have a only few good friends to trust and care in life. Also, I am too too bad in any love or all gucchi guchhi stuff. Honesty and transparency is all for me in a relationship irrespective of gender. Will wait for your reply !

        ps: that Draupdi example is superb ! loved it.

        Enjoying comment game here on IHM blog 🙂

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  6. Most of the developed countries have women who contribute to the economy. If we look back, we have wasted 50% of the country’s talent for centuries due to our closed family system. Its a crime if we continue to keep women inside the four walls of a house.

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  7. So much for International Wages for Housework Campaign and Global Women’s Strike that initiated International Women’s Year and Decade. This is what happens when some clueless IAS presides committees and commissions with his equally idiotic cotrie of babus to do the work. This is what happens when academicians, social scientists and activists sit on the margins instead in the power corridores (me included). We come to know such stupid categories after they have been in force for a decade then we make a hue and cry about it. This came to notice only when Supreme Court passed a judgement. Now it is our turn to make hue and cry about it. Next census is just few months away.

    SAHM and homemaker’s physical work can still be calculated in man hours and rupees what about their status production and emotional labor. Men are able to work outside the homes because they do not have to worry about haggling with the vendor or street sweaper. They can work because their wives do their laundary and iron their clothes. They can entertain professional contacts because wives cook delicious meals and serve it with smile for his professional guests. Men can take the stress of professional life because their wives try to sooth their bruised egos and hurt masculinities but taking their nonsense.

    So many SAHMs contribute to the family income by teaching their children at home instead of sending them to tuition. If they took up paid work and paid forward their wages to baby sitters then I guess they’ll qualify as economically qualified.

    Just finished reading Prostitution and Beyond: An Analysis of Sex Work in India. Prostitution is hard work, procuring a client and entertaining irrespective of personal emotions and physical discomfort is hard work and a health risk.

    @Shail,

    Women did go on strike from household work it brought men to their knees. In 1975, 25,000 homemakers in Iceland went on strike, doing no housework. Women should do that atleast for a day in India too. Their Indianness will be questioned and the great Indian tradition and culture will tumble down for a day :).

    Peace,

    Desi Girl

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    • @Bhagwad –
      What’s your response to this?

      “SAHM and homemaker’s physical work can still be calculated in man hours and rupees what about their status production and emotional labor. Men are able to work outside the homes because they do not have to worry about haggling with the vendor or street sweaper. They can work because their wives do their laundary and iron their clothes. They can entertain professional contacts because wives cook delicious meals and serve it with smile for his professional guests. Men can take the stress of professional life because their wives try to sooth their bruised egos and hurt masculinities but taking their nonsense.

      So many SAHMs contribute to the family income by teaching their children at home instead of sending them to tuition. If they took up paid work and paid forward their wages to baby sitters then I guess they’ll qualify as economically qualified.

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      • The data seems to suggest that housewives are an enabler for higher earnings by individuals.

        If this is so, the work of housewives is already taken into account when the actual earnings of everyone is totaled up for the national GDP since without the housewives, the earnings would have been much lower. It’s quite an elegant solution actually.

        What can’t be evaluated accurately is what it would have been if the housewives were taken into the picture.

        Strangely, it would seem that housewives are a sort of “Infrastructure” that doesn’t directly contribute to the GDP, but allows it to happen. They’re certainly not “unproductive”, though for the purpose of calculation it makes sense to treat them as such since the numbers add up anyway through those whose income they facilitate.

        The problem here I think is one of tags. If we can understand the maths behind it, I think we can see why we can’t count the housewife’s “income” – just like we can’t count infrastructure directly.

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    • @IHM,

      I did answer your question in a way:
      Would the conservative in our society prefer them working, if homemakers had to be paid? What do you think?

      “Women should do that (go on strike from house work) atleast for a day in India too. Their Indianness will be questioned and the great Indian tradition and culture will tumble down for a day.”

      The upholders of our great Indian culture assume home making is sacred duty of womenkind. Working in farms and cottage industry is just an extension of house work. The problem is only with the 9-5 jobs where women stay away from home for 8+ hours and meet unrelated men.

      If not Late Guru Hanuman of wrestling telling women to stay at home then definitely Suraj Bharjatya of Rajshri will surmon women of Indian womanhood without fail.

      Me – I can’t stand Suraj Bharjatya!!

      If it came to paying women for homemaking believe me more female fetuses will be destroyed. Like animal husbandary only selected few will be preserved for perpetuation of the great Indian genes.

      Peace,
      Desi Girl

      Me – You are right…. 😦 Or it might become easier for them to work, get out of the house… and have some independence.

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    • I agree…but thn if the bahus of our Indian society go on a ban, the SaasuMA’s will stand up for thier beloved sons!
      the situation will change only if the MIL of the house is willing to bring a change, as long as the DIL is an outsider nothing can help.

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  8. This is not related to the post but I thought is important to share that women’s activism and civil disobedience is much older than Gandhi and company.

    1350 B.C.E. –
    Hebrew midwives, in the first recorded act of civil disobedience,
    refuse to obey Pharaoh’s order to kill male Hebrew babies.

    Peace,
    DG

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  9. This was very interesting to me for a totally different reason (not that what you wrote isn’t interesting, but it’s really no surprise that housewives are considered “nonproductive”… this is one of those women’s issues that women all over the world have in common) .

    why are prostitutes considered non-productive? I don’t want to get into a debate about whether or not it should be legal etc, but whatever the case, they are providing a service aren’t they? And they’re earning money. Is there some reason I am not aware of that they’re considered nonproductive? Is it because it’s illegal, and they’re nonproductive in the same way that drug dealers are?

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  10. You forgot to mention prisoners…

    It seems to me that the babus think SAHMs are all of the three they’ve been clubbed with…SAHM’s provide sex on demand (payment = food+roof), often have to beg for spending money and are prisoners at home and in marriage…

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  11. I believe a home maker’s contribution is invaluable and can’t be measured high enough. There is an intangible (by the way, CLS, the sum total of that is kind of hugely beyond that of a maid!!!!!!) that is responsible for shaping the future of the world.
    That said, when money enters the picture, respect also does, in our screwed up society. It is like you take cheap things more for granted and start making conscious choices when the service/product is more expensive. So for that, they need to be assessed on par with the earning spouse….with the spouse’s job, the complexity of the home maker’s responsibilities increases.

    By the way, prostitution is not a service. It is oppression. No? Well, how many of us aspire to have our daughters grow up to be one?!

    Me – I feel it should be legalised and benefits should be provided. Medical aid and protection from violence too.

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  12. Right from the start of this exercise, it has been mired in controversy. It began by taking a caste based angle and now this! I’m wondering what the objective is!

    Me – It’s good Rakesh – it is being monitored by the media … and us 🙂 Caste angle is to see if there is a difference in living standards since the last time. But nobody asked our caste when they took out details!

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  13. Housewives do make an important contribution to the society, but often at the expense of personal loss.

    Me – Somesh I feel the society must make sure they don’t take this contribution for granted – or else gradually nobody will like to be a homemaker.

    First of all they are dependant on their husbands, and when they might actually want to get a job, they’ll have trouble as anyone would rather employ a 20 yr old inexperienced lady, than a 35+ inexperienced lady, whatever the education be.

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  14. the work done by homemakers is priceless

    Me – But supposing a price had to be fixed to it – the supreme court suggested 1/3rd of the living spouse’s income… (in case of compensation upon death in accidents)

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  15. I was shocked to read this – glad that you blogged about it. This is what contributes to the massive lack of confidence that women have, and the abuse they suffer

    Me – I never paid any attention to talk of “you are working or are you a homemaker?” and “oh you are sitting at home”… it’s extremely demeaning.

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    • Our girls don’t want to sit at home doing housework, after seeing us, their mothers taken for granted and treated worse than maids. Many girls are disinterested in getting married too. At this rate Sasumaas will have to keep working as homemakers even in their old age, looking after hearth and home with only male members as residents. Girls would have stuck wings and flown away.

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    • After marriage my husband’s large joint family stayed with us. I was forever looking after a dozen of my husband’s people at home. Cooking the different dishes different members wanted, washing utensils, washing everyone’s clothes,giving massage to relieve MIL of her perpetual body ache, taking her nagging etc etc. They thought they had done a great favor by permitting my husband to marry me. I never slept before 3,00-3.30 am. During that time some person asked me what I did. I said I work as a homemaker. His answer “that everyone does. What else do you do? I mean do you have a career?” When I said “No”, he lost interest in talking to me. I was never interested in talking to him right from the beginning. He was introduced to me by my aunt so I was cordial.

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  16. There are so many laws that ensure that women are treated as second class citizen. what kind of classification is that ..even if you consider strictly on the economics , the grouping is wrong .

    Though the idea may sound absurd , I wish every women has a deal at marriage , if she is going to spend all day at home . she should have some monthly allowance to be put in her account that is only for her own personal use and that does not include buying things for family . I know there is pin money as they call it but its not enough , am not talking about 1 or 2 thousands ..if the court decided it as 1/3 of husbands income then be it that. and ofcourse an equal share in property and other assests and that too legally . And even if a women is SAHM , she must keep her degrees and skills uptodated , incase she wishes to or have to get back to work later .

    I cant imagine our family the way it is had my mom been working ..and we the pampered spoilt lot after getting rotis in our plate rt from the oven dont appreciate it then I dont know who else will. she did a great job .

    Me – My mother worked very, very hard too. We too were spoilt. And she was working outside too. You are right… in our family property is bought in the woman’s name, my grand mother and my mom have enough to support them very comfortably… this should be the norm.

    and after working now for 6 years and also doing house work on my own ..I find it easy to work another 2 hrs in office than cook meals for 4 people 3 times a day and thats just one of the things ..raising kids …I get goose bumps and find it the most difficult task in the world and the job of shaping up a society is no small task.can anyone put a prize tag to it.

    Me – Absolutely agree… I didn’t even think of all this, but you are SO RIGHT.

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  17. I read this and was just too tired to feel any more. I mean, how long will we women be lambasted? And on what not?
    Everything we do seems to be wrong. Many of us make the conscious choice to stay at home, others are forced to so that the ‘man’ of the house can call her useless and vent his frustrations on her.
    Am I resigning to my fate? No I am not, I try and empower women around me, not to sink in that little puddle men (and even some women) dig for us.

    Frankly, this article in the newspaper, slid off my body, like water off a seal’s body!! 😀

    Me – It did with me too… wait I better thank the commenter who asked me to write about it!!

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  18. My crisp 3 points
    1. Constider Prositutes as workers and make sure they get all their rights
    2. Rehabilitate beggers
    3. Give more respect to Home-makers because they are the most basic mortar that builds a nation. Ofcourse they cannot be clubbed as workers because no Central bank will ever have enough money so as to reimburse them.

    Me – I think the compensation should come from the family they support – take a look,

    “The court pointed out that the legislature had, as early as in 1994, fixed the notional income of a non-earning person at Rs.15,000/- per annum and in case of a spouse, 1/3 rd income of the earning/surviving spouse for the purpose of computing the compensation. It regretted that in many cases the Delhi High Court had equated the services rendered by a housewife to that of a skilled worker for the purpose of awarding compensation.”

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  19. I think i missed something here… Housewifes have been put in the same category as others because they are not getting paid. It is as simple as that. Nobody is denying their contibution but as far as calculation of GDP is considered, it is of no value(this is considered the biggest flaw of the GDP)

    Can you tell me where does volunteer charitable work goes in this classification?

    Constider Prositutes as workers and make sure they get all their rights…..

    Now that is asking for prostitution to be legalised. Because that is the only way to provide rights and maintain them. You dont have rights in an illegal activity

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  20. sheesh 😐 i dunno what to say….

    speaking strictly from a moralistic viewpoint…. what amount u give housewives wud suffice??? isnt their work actually pricelessly considering they are doing it selflessly and the amount of love and care they put into it..?

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  21. Not only the Supreme Court…but many men, people do not think being a housewife is a great job…..only because you invest emotions in this one so called job, the returns are not money for sure…many men come home tell their wives, what is so constructive in what you do..I know somebody who when asked for pocket money from her husband, got the reply..that he finds no logic in her request, what is it that she does not have, she has his debit and credit rds, why pocket money then ?…and this gentleman is aware of everything outside the house, so it stumps her that he fails to recognize her contribution, efforts in side his house. She is forever told, have you ever stepped out in the real world to know what it is like…I am sure the gentlemen in SC are of the same kind.

    Sad, it is….to be valued or given her worth, a woman must step out of the house..is it ? Only then can they get their time off too…..I had saved this quote in my quote diary, maybe it sums it all….” To be a housewife is to be a member of a very peculiar occupation, one with characteristics like no other. The nature of the duties to be performed, the method of payment, the form of supervision, the tenure system, the “market” in which the “workers” find “jobs,” and the physical hazzards are all very different from the way things are in other occupations.”

    IHM, as for your last question….The conservatives would never want their laborer to work outside the home. As per their rationale, they provide boarding and lodging, what else is required….Its not all about being paid as a housewife, it is the attitude that stigmatizes being a housewife.

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  22. I also read abt the issue in the papers the other day, and was thinking that such a matter had to be passed through 3 court judgments and still be debated upon? It should not have been done in the 1st place and then after someone is pointing out your mistake instead of apologizing and taking corrective measures you have the nerve of going to court, not once but thrice?
    What Shame. Don’t the people engaged in framing the stipulations have mother and daughter at home?

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  23. About your question IHM, the conservative in the society would remain conservative even if they have to actually evaluate the worth of services rendered by the lady of the house and pay her. No wonder, the money will go in the joint account of the lady and her husband!!

    Also, she is ghar ki murgi ( so daal barabar) so they can always negotiate terms anyway.

    Its really humiliating that the Planning Commission clubbed homemakers with beggars and prostitutes… i was disgusted…. wanted to write about it. Nice to see u picked up the topic.

    Restless

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  24. This is ridiculous. How dare the Govt says that – these non workers are not engaged in economically productive work ?????

    There are many women on whom the part of being a house-wife is forced. And for some others, its a self-made choice. But that doesn’t make them economically non-productive. Let all those house-wives go for economically productive work – then you see, the men won’t have work to do and they’ll turn non-productive.

    And then, with working women everywhere, the moral police will be on alert 24 *7 !!!! 😉

    Me – That would be a nightmare for the Moral Police Uma 😉 They will demand all women wear sari to work 🙂

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  25. They will never agree to translate the work into monetary value. Who will pay the women who pick those water-filled glasses from the table beside them and give it to them in their hands….this is just one simple example. Nobody counts these things. Nobody counts anything.
    Good post here! One of those topics you can write about and there is always more to say.
    Cheers
    Hiyaa

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  26. Hello IHM!

    You have pointed to a very valid point…unfortunately it will be some time before women are actually given the position in society worthy of them.

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    • @Ketan,

      …it will be some time before women are actually given the position in society worthy of them.

      Its aleady been more than 3000 years how much more time? Isn’t it time each one of us started doing our share to give women their due place in the society. 🙂

      Yeh samaj hai koi mausam to nahin ki apane aap badal jayega…
      (It is society not season that it will change when it has to…)

      Peace,

      desi Girl

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  27. When I was studying Life Insurance concepts, there was this chapter about how the financial loss on the life of a housewife would be calculated.I was to be based on the amount the husband would have to spend on housework ,childcare etc if she died…I asked the person taking this session , whether his visits to prostitutes also would be included in the “financial loss” incurred by the “poor husband”…There was shocked silence..and I was asked not to return for the next session. I did anyway, but stopped asking questions.

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  28. What the goverment and courts think matters when it comes to compensation and such legal issues. Day to day what matters is what the people around you think. Husband, family, relatives, friends… Most of us in the urban educated class are lucky there.

    What I don’t get is how women are our own worst enemies – keep meeting working women who act snooty and snobbish around SAHMs. Silly considering the only difference between them and the non-working ones is the absence of grandparents to keep an eye on the child !! I tell myself the people who are truly great would never behave that way. Also, isn’t respect for fellow human beings more of an indicator than whether or not they work?

    Me – Arundhati I have found most working mothers feeling guilty (Mommy Guilt). There are all kind of people, those who are being snooty because they work, would have equally snooty if they SAHMs.

    Reminder to self – don’t stay late in the park

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  29. Good post. Thank you for linking to my post.
    In serious discussion we do not use the word prostitute but replace it with sex worker.If you work closely with prostitute groups you will realize how they hate the word prostitute.

    “Although the word ‘prostitution’ can be used to describe the act of selling sex, it can also mean ‘using a skill or ability in a way that is considered unworthy’. It seems to include a moral judgment, by implying that individuals who sell sex are somehow ‘unworthy’, or involved in a practice that is corrupt. A far more neutral and respectful alternative is the term ‘sex work’.

    This issue may not matter so much in the context of everyday conversations or casual debates, but in serious discussions on the topic it is important that words are chosen carefully.”
    from avert.org

    Me – Good point, Charakan. I agree.

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  30. Extending Charakan’s point, though sex work as profession should never be legalized as it is dehumanizing and reduces a person to a level of an object to be used but still it is a hard work. This particular comment comes from my readings of BDSM, fetish and fantasy work. It is hard work, an ordinary woman in everyday life would not be able to handel her intimate pervert or else will be brutalized.

    http://www.indiatvnews.com/news_print.php?id=3872&smod=main&mod=1

    When a country does not even recognize marital rape then how it will address the issue of consent in matters of kinky sex by partner with lesser financial and social power?

    Is sex work providing this unmet need of perverts and saving lawfully wedded wives?

    Peace,

    Desi Girl

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  32. This was the post I had read and was trying to remember while I talked to you for a few minutes at the meet today. I would just say it is a very nice article. Can’t find anything that has not been said in any of the other comments. 😛
    P.S. Following your blog….will make it easier for me. That way a few times I could comment before anyone else 😛

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