Indian family values are good for Indian daughters?

When a girl disappears…

My cleaning maid didn’t come yesterday – this morning she said she didn’t know how to tell me what happened, but knew me well enough to know I would understand. What could it be? Her chachiya-saas’s 4th daughter (father in law’s younger brother’s 4th daughter) didn’t come back from tuition the day before. The 15 year old had left with just a notebook, pencil and a little change for some snack, all the kids reached till their street together around 7 30 pm , and after that she hasn’t been seen.

The mother waited till 8 30 pm, then asked my maid to come with her to the tuition teacher’s place. Then they looked in all the parks – including she said ‘a notorious park near XYZ theater’ and her mother started getting worried then and wished the daughter had died instead of this.

I thought she would be praying for the child to be alive? No, it seems not if it is a daughter.

She started crying saying it would have been better if she had eaten poison and died.

Better for who?

I asked her if the mother feared the girl had eloped.

“…it is possible that the fault lies with our own child, but I was close to her, I know she was not like this..”

“Like what Kanta? And what fault? She is 15! Younger than my daughter, even if she did like a boy,  did she discuss this at home? Could she discuss something like a liking for a boy with anybody at home?”  By making falling in love such a crime, we put girls in terrible dangers. Like cornering them into running away (and often being sexually exploited) instead of simply going out with a boy.

“All her other daughters have never let us down, the older three have had proper arranged marriages… ”

“Did you ask everybody in the neighbourhood to help you look for her? Somebody must have seen her… if she was forced she would have dropped her notebook in the struggle?”

“We did, her mother was worried about ‘badnaami‘ (honor) but agreed to complain to the police when I convinced her.”

“Kanta if honor is so important, tell her mother such news can’t be kept a secret, now she can save the child’s life, by making a noise and all this honor-shonor is forgotten in a few years. What’s the worst that would happen? She won’t get married? At least save her life now.”

The female sub-inspector at the police station asked us to get her school certificate to prove she was 14, saying she looks older…”

This boggles me. Wasn’t this too urgent to worry about her age? Find her first and then worry about her age…? She could be dying this moment.

My maid left for the girl’s school, (opening today, she said, after summer vacations) “Maybe if some haadsaa (disaster) happened with her, she would be too ashamed to face her parents so she might have gone to a friends’ house, or maybe somebody knows where she might go...”

So if something bad were to happen to a daughter, it is possible that her family was not the safest haven for her to rush to?

I told Kanta not to work but to try and speak to as many people as  they could, get help from neighbours, teachers, class mates …and not to rule out acquaintances. 70% crimes against women are committed by someone known to the victim.

“I can’t tell them at such a time, but her father drinks and often brings home his cronies and the mother was often beaten for protesting, she used to tell him they had young daughters at home, it was not right to bring this kind of men home. Maybe somebody known to her  told her there was an emergency and took her away to some lonely place…”

She disappeared on Thursday evening, it’s Saturday morning now. No news.

96 thoughts on “Indian family values are good for Indian daughters?

  1. Sigh. What screwed up thinking most of people have. So called “Honor” is more important than life. Sorry for the language IHM but this is the emotion such kind of thinking evokes in me.

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  2. This is so sad…a girls life is not worth it seems.
    Your maid is more worried about badaami than her daughter disappearing 😦

    My maid had done this disappearing act once…that too when she was staying with me..I had gone absolutely nuts…searching for her.eventually she came back the next morning..had gone off with a girlfriend and then went home as she was scared of facing me…

    I hope and pray she is fine and comes back home safe and sound.

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    • Lazy Pineapple she said the girl maybe too scared to come back home, knowing she has let her family down by being a victim of some crime or by being delayed somewhere where she was meeting some male friend – both are equally serious offenses for them 😦

      We have so many taboos that endanger a young girl’s life 😦

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  3. Oh shit! I hope she is safe! I know that it is a futile hope, but a 15 year old girl in trouble makes me shudder

    Me – I know, feel the same way – that she should be alive.

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  4. One of the big discussions, that has always been there is when can the parents consider their children, especially the daughter to be independent about her body, and stop the CONTROLLING and DIRECTING part?
    Its a question of individuality.

    As far as the parents/mother’s part is concerned, i feel two equations need to be considered.

    The equation between parents and child.
    The equation between parents and Society/The people around.

    I pray that she’s fine.

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  5. Goodness! The poor girl, I just hope she is safe. It is such a terrible situation! I just hope everything turns out right..

    Me – Smitha yes it’s terrible… it is common for men to follow a young girl from work or classes etc to home – they have no fear?

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  6. Dunno what to say!!! I hope the girl is safe!! As far as the lack of empathy towards the girl is concerned, the less said the better.

    Me – That’s what I told my maid to tell the girl’s mother – that the only that mattered was the girl should be alive.

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  7. When educated and rich class of scoiety is often involved in the honour killings, what could you expect from poor and uneducated maid. The norms of society are dictated by the few elite or courageous people who can take radical step without being bothered by others opinion, let alone leave the violence and social boycott.

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    • Do you know the way she described the Police sub inspector’s reaction was very discouraging – the ‘police-madame-jee’ even asked her why my maid and not the girl’s mother has come to write the FIR. The mother was in no condition to do anything. How was it relevant? They had the picture and other lesser educated family members.

      My maid also took some other people (with influence) from their neighbourhood, afraid that if she goes alone she would find no support.

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      • Indeed, that is sad and true face of our police. I had only once encountered police in a robbery case at my home. From that experience, I know the ‘helping ‘ nature of police. And it takes just more than influencial police to file the report and let any investigation in future….

        Me – And those who suffer the most, they know best how to handle them… 😦 One should not need to know anybody.

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  8. What is this thing called honor? The first thing to do is to find this teenager. She could have been abducted or may have run away from an intolerable situation at home. She may be a victim of abuse. What does honor have to do with this? Doesn’t the safety of a child come first?

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    • Exactly how I feel islandgal.

      I asked my maid if the mother would be at peace if the child has been raped and killed or would she be better in the long run, if the child, raped or eloped but still alive, is found, and after the initial trauma, gets over the horror and goes on to live a happy life, married or not married or married late… but alive. She agreed that ‘jaan hai to jahan hai’ (where there is life there is hope/world/universe)

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  9. Very sad incident.
    You cannot expect any better from a society where only 65% of the people are literate.
    and a significant section of the literates are “pseudo-literates”………

    Honor argument basically sucks….we need a new breed of social reformers like Ram Mohan Roy , Vivekananda etc

    Thought provoking post as usual.

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    • Yes we really need some such movements!!!

      IP even the pseudo literates and the police are the products of the same society. 😦

      The police seemed to imply that the girl was probably not a ‘good girl’ or could have eloped – the point is, does it matter what kind of social life the girl did have (if at all)? Until they knew for sure that her life was not in danger finding her should be the only concern.

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  10. Considering all that could happen to her, I hope to god she has eloped. Just imagine how helpless a parent must feel.

    On the other hand, this mother really seems to care more about herself than her daughter. I think she knows something you don’t. Wouldn’t the first assumption be that she was carried away? Why is the maid assuming she eloped and brought “badnam?”

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    • @Bhagwad – Exactly what I told her, running away willingly is better than being violently kidnapped.

      It is possible that the mother knows something, but seeing how hysterical and upset my maid described her as, I feel she was genuinely concerned for her daughter’s safety (and honor) and willing to take any and all advice. Worrying about badnaami is always the first concern when it’s about a young woman. And the police seem to make it much worse.

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  11. Gosh, I hope the girl`s safe. These things are so culturally and socially conditioned into our hearts and minds that is difficult to change, even over time. No amount of education can change the horror and humiliation a family might face, if a girl ‘stays out of home at night’! Irrespective of the reasons for her absence (coercion by a rural / archaic society), it is always the girl who suffers. I have faced it myself and the scars remain as fresh today as it were 11 years back. I stayed out of hostel for a night with friends and could not inform the warden because the telephone was not working. It`s a long story but ultimately I was suspended for 15 days and my parents were called to the Principal`s office and asked “you do understand the implications of your daughter ‘staying out all night’, dont you?” That`s how it is, IHM. We are too quick to ostracize without stopping to think for a moment.
    My heart goes out to the girl. But more than anything else, I just hope she`s safe.

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    • Gosh Piper, you must have been mad!!! These are the kind of people who just don’t see – can’t see, how stupid that even sounds.

      “you do understand the implications of your daughter ‘staying out all night’, dont you?”

      For one thing whatever could be done at night can be done during the day also 🙄 And if a girl is out at night – my only concern would be her safety.

      I asked my maid what would they have done if the child was a boy – if they really want to live normal lives (not emotionally broken and traumatised, like this maid ) – they should pray she is alive, and if somebody taunts them, stand by the child. At the most they can move to another locality.

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      • Completely agree!

        The only issue for concern should be her safety! I do hope they get a word that she`s fine, even if she chooses not to return back.

        Thankfully for me, IHM, my parents were extremely supportive (much to my surprise at that point in life!) and stood by me with unwavering faith. Nothing was endorsed on paper and so my records are ‘clean’ but I did suffer immense humiliation. But I remember my Dad telling me ‘Hold your head high, for you have not done anything wrong’. Anyway, I haven’t ever spoken of those times. Never ever until now 🙂

        Me – Hats off to your dad Piper! Parents can make all the difference. The school’s attitude must have annoyed them!! I wish we had a law controlling such actions by schools.

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  12. OMG, that’s terrible… poor girl.. hope she is safe…and yes, the family must be the girl’s safety haven.. not a place where she runs AWAY from when she is afraid/ashamed!!

    me – True Pal, so true 😦 … and what is there to be ashamed if she has been a victim? She needs support!!

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  13. there are many stakeholders in this and all need sensitivity training. – for all you know the local police will know – but they have their own ‘community policy and contacts in the locality’ but they will drop the case nor tell even if they find out – because the police do not want to waste time on something that is not newsworthy. and these days there are many police who are part of the underworld – the nexus more than what the face value looks like.

    We don’t have to wait for anyone to start movements. If you feel strongly about it – DO IT.

    but most of all the first thing is write an FIR and sign the FIR only after you read it, because the police can write BS.

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    • You are right Anrosh.

      This maid has studied in Orissa, I have blogged about her too, she took a local leader with them to write the report, and when the police saw the passport sized photo, the first doubt was about the girl’s age, they wanted a birth certificate, which has been deposited in school. So my maid said they did not plan to discontinue her education, ‘even after all this’ so they could not get her documents from her school.
      In the end they assured them that they would find her at the earliest.

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  14. I too really hope that the girl is safe and returns home soon.

    On a different note, I wonder whether we should really blame the mother for thinking the way she does. I want to clarify, I don’t condone. I just want to understand why would a parent not want to see their child alive. I guess maybe because she knows that a life that her daughter would have, if anything has happened to her is worst than being dead. For the mother it’s not about honour the way its maybe for the men. It’s about helplessness at seeing your child being tortured for the rest of her life.

    I do feel that its not a messed up response for your maid to wish the child is dead. Actually it might be a very rational response, given that she just doesn’t have the resources, financial, emotional, psychological and spiritual to help her.

    Just thinking aloud….

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    • //I guess maybe because she knows that a life that her daughter would have, if anything has happened to her is worst than being dead. For the mother it’s not about honour the way its maybe for the men. It’s about helplessness at seeing your child being tortured for the rest of her life. //

      Yes this is what she was thinking.

      But are such fears justified? I asked my maid what did they fear would happen if she was raped or had eloped and came back. People might talk about her, pass remarks, and she might not get married? They will forget about it after a while, or the parents could move to another place – all this was easier than a dead child. I have seen a maid who lost her daughter to bride burning, she is half mad with grief, keeps talking nonsense, crying, laughing, accepting she was responsible for the girl’s death, because she sent her back… Such a death of a child, (even a girl child) where parents feel guilty or traumatised – can destroy a family.
      If the girl does not marry, no problem. She is a good student (class VIII), she goes for tuitions also. She can find safe accomodation and good job even as a cook or a nanny and live comfortably and if at a later stage in life she does meet someone, she can marry, if not atleast she is alive – she can shop, eat, watch movies, take care her parents… My maid said she told her relative, she would keep the girl like her own child if they didn’t want her back.

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      • I have seen my widowed Bhabhi (cousin’s wife) of 32 years quite literally ostracised by the family for being a widow. She lived like a ghost for a year in my aunt’s house….

        and mind you I come from a well to do, “khandani” educated family in Rajasthan..

        In many places women don’t even get the kind chances you are talking about…

        I have a lump in my throat while I write this…

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        • If the family wanted they could have made a difference.

          I have seen sometimes one strong family member can change everything.

          For example, in my family many customs have changed because my grand mother felt they were hypocritical – like she never fasted for my grandfather’s age, and nobody did it after her. They have jokes about how men in certain areas live longer because the wives fast for their longevity!

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  15. Oh my god, IHM. I’m torn between my fear for the poor child and my anger at what drove her away from home. This is one of your best posts in weeks. Every bolded sentence drives home a wrenching point…

    Me – I felt the way you are feeling… anger, horror and fear. It made me wonder how does living in such a society benefit a girl at all? We talk about community support… what kind of support is this?

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  16. How sad, what a pathetic state of affairs. Education is the only thing that can bring light into such people’s lives.
    Please update soon.
    Also, I’m reading all your posts! NaBloPoMo’s not allowing me to comment on 300 odd posts at one go! 😛

    Me-
    Not education Niveditha, a change in mindset. If we start valuing our daughters – we will respect their personal freedom a little more.
    A lot of bloggers are doing NaBloPoMo together this time! Enjoy 🙂

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  17. This is indeed very shocking news. Do keep us informed. I pray that the girl is found safe and sound.
    What I am not able to digest is the attitude of the police. Here a 15 year old child is missing and instead of making it their first priority that she is found – they make her age an issue here. I am speechless !!!!!

    This concept of honor is actually a curse on all Indian women.
    I remember when I was in the hostel during my engineering days, one day I had a visitor (a senior guy who was interested in me and I also liked him then). We were talking in front of the gurad who main duty seemed to be to keep an eye on us. He decided how long a conversation should last. I did not listen to him when he said time up. I talked a whole 5 minutes longer. The next day the hostel superitendent called me to warn that this should be my “last offence”. Next time she would throw me out of the hostel. I never found the answer why the guy involved was not told anything. The guys with raging hormones were not to be messed up with. The girls were supressed and controlled so prevent any “unwanted” incidents.
    Another time someone told her that a tall fair girl with shoulder length hair was seen with a college guy on the nearby river bank during college hours. I was again called by the superitendant to verify if this was me. When I denied I was asked to send another girl to meet her, who also fitted into the description of tall, fair with shoulder-length hair.
    Ok I do not condone class bunking but I remember being amazed at the time and energy my hostel superitendent spent trying to play “miss marple”. We always wished she would have dedicated half of that to teaching.

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    • Divya, I have seen and heard about such institutions. In one of their schools, my children told me, the principal counseled the girls against wearing noodle straps (classes VII & VIII).

      In our society a girl’s personal life is everybody’s business.
      If you were more than 18, what you did, who you met or went out with was not their business. They could ask a student why they missed a class, but they had no business to worry about who was seen near the river bank.

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  18. We are fed such notions of right or wrong – our systems of education, our societal hypocrisy and most importantly, the male oriented norms ensure that girls grow up always feeling like their sexuality and feelings have to be always kept under wraps. Even more cruel is the judgement passed that always finds fault with the girl who dared fall in love. And if anything goes wrong, then the girl who dared to follow her heart over societal norms deserved what was coming to her.

    Me – True Journomuse, we have such twisted concepts of right or wrong 😦 Something that hurts nobody is seen as wrong, and crimes against half the population are treated lightly. An absolutely normal and harmless interest in boys at her age, is seen as a the worst thing she could do – since it’s wrong and can’t be accepted, nobody would discuss, guide and even talk about it…

    🙄

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  19. 😦 please……… how can they be sooo callous about it!! Honor?? what honor.. save the girl for god sake! I dont knw when will ppl understand that having affair with a boy is not the ultimate crime.. areee its no crime at all..

    Its about a 14 yr old girl’s life.. and how (shit) disgusting of inspector.. they want proof for age to save somebody’s life??? Atleast help poor ppl to find out their small girl…

    Me – The most illogical thing is in all such cases one partner gets the blame, the other is not.
    I think the police hopes to avoid looking for her in case they can show she was an adult, but can’t an adult be kidnapped?…. or maybe they expect payment?
    And some people would have gone eagerly looking for her if they were sure she had eloped with a boy from same gotra – to kill her 😦

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  20. Izzat has always been more important than life in India. Women who don’t keep their word and women who are unable to hang on to their virtue have always been expected to do the honourable thing by killing themselves. Leaving male family members free to avenge them. Thanks to seeing this reinforced in every single film I saw throughout childhood, I spent most of my teenage life wondering Reader’s Digest articles about American women who fought to save their lives in the face of a rape. A good Indian woman now, would have snatched the knife from the rapist’s hands and said “Let me go or I will stab myself.” And I was educated in a good cosmopolitan school. Strange how deeply stereotypes run.

    Me – I spent most of my teenage life wondering Reader’s Digest articles about American women who fought to save their lives in the face of a rape. A good Indian woman now, would have snatched the knife from the rapist’s hands and said “Let me go or I will stab myself.”

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    • When I left home I was indoctrinated “you’ll never be captured against your will by anyone. You live in hornor and you die in honor.” Those days there were lots of incidents of mini vans opening doors and literally snatching off women from the road.

      My mom and her sister where raised on a farm where Jats and Rajputs fought and killed each other rather burned each other’s farms. Both sisters were taught traget shooting and use of laathi. Ultimate surmon was, if nothing works stab your self don’t be captured alive. Thank God the need did not arise or else I would not be born 🙂 .

      Don’t be caputured alive by the enemy but be trapped in unhappy and abusive marriages for the sake of honor of people you love 🙂 🙂

      I would be interested know what happened to this kid. Did she get beatings or is she grounded or is she married off in next few months, may be in Novemeber during the Abhooj Sava.

      Peace,

      DG

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  21. This is so disturbing. People are always aworried about what others will think of a particular situation. Weird, our society.

    Glad to know she’s back. Waiting to know what happened.

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  22. So glad to hear she is okay, IHM!

    I was fuming when I read about the mother’s reaction. And then I read about the reaction of the police and was disgusted. These are the natural guardian and the law-enforcer that we are talking about, for heavens’ sake!
    I just hope the girl won’t end up feeling she might have been better off “missing”. Our society can be a cruel one, especially to young girls.

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  23. I think I came at the right time..so got the good news…When I read the blog was feeling bad and was ready to blast the mother for having thought about anything other than her duaghter’s safety and so now..as long as she is safe..things wil work out, I guess.

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  24. This is all due to children’s watching Hindi movies and TV Serials, going to Net Cafes and using Mobile phones. It might even be Love Jihad….

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  25. Is she back back, now, IHM? Hope she is safe!

    The women are not worried if their men drink, come home and beat them. Men can do anything. But if their girl goes out to a movie or something, with her school girl friends, they treat it as badnaami.

    She must have done a small mistake and was afraid to come home and might have stayed in some girl friend’s house also. What will happen to her. The marriageable age for the girl child is 21, now. So the school cannot have a girl of her age in 9th or 10 std. If she is 18 also, the school and the police should help. Whatever the reason is, the police should help to find her.

    Hope she is fine, IHM! The way our so called ‘culture’ is, the whole family will face repercussions. The married daughters too. The relatives will be waiting like vultures to find fault.

    God help her. She is too young.

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  26. Thank God she is safe 🙂 I read your post yesterday but was not able to comment from my cell phone. I just opened up now to see if you had any update. Glad to know that she is home safe.

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  27. I hope she comes back safe and unharmed.

    Since daughters are considered “property” in the patriarchal culture in which we live and participate as well, the concept of “honour” will be the first thing that would come up in such cases. I know of innumerable cases of middle and upper middle class homes where sexual abuse of children are hushed up because of “what will people think of us”. Did you know that over 70 percent cases of child abuse in India go unreported? Add to that the apathy of the administration (like the police station incident in your post) towards such incidents.

    May be one reconfiguration that we can all try and do is to redefine “honour” from being “shamed” for the behaviour of the girl to being “shamed” for treating her like a property.

    I am praying for this girl and hoping that she has not been abused, sold or worse killed.

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  28. I am glad she is back safe. Its a cruel society we live in. Women ultimately get blamed for everything. I hope the mother and daughter get the courage to face tongue waggers. Waiting for your post on the situation.

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  29. OMG !!! Just cant take it when the mother said that its better that she died…OMG !!! What kind of honor is there to be proud about, when your own daughter is no more ?????

    Waiting for that post update !!! Thank God, she is back home !!!

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  30. Glad to know that she is safe..Kids are going too fast that they take life-decisions at the age of 15.. **sigh**

    The mother should be told that such kids,may it be boy or a girl, who are so mature at childhood should be left for their fate,may it be good or bad.. Let them go where they want..

    Me – Nimmy I don’t know if they ever bothered to talk to their daughters about any facts of life except OBEDIENCE. There’s such a huge taboo about any talk of boys that if a girl has a crush or is being abused – she dare not tell. Read my next post..

    We can rant about obligation-free society..But when we live together,even if it is with animals,we need to have a code of conduct to some extent..Sadly in our societeies,girls and women alone are induced to obey or comply to such conduct and hence it seems sensless..But if both men and women are equally held responsible,such code of conducts will only improvise the society..

    Me – I agree Nimmy.

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  31. Poor kid, I hope she’s okay. I’ve faced similar issues myself with some of my maids and I’ve tried talking to them about it but it just doesn’t work, its like they have a different kind of logic for this sort of stuff, especially when it comes to their daughters.

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  32. IHM, I was wondering if you`ve read ‘The Argumentative Indian’ by Amartya Sen? If you havent, you MUST! It`s a beautiful read and I`m sure you`ll love it. He gives such beautiful arguments about why there is so much moral policing in India and why inherently we tend to mask all social issues under the garb of ‘Indian Culture’ or ‘Indianness’ as I like to say. Do read it when you can.

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  33. sad commentary indeed…
    and am sure if it was the son who had disappeared the mother would have wished for death on herself not her son… strange are our ways..

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  34. Like all the times, the post has again left me in a world of question…

    So many blogs, articles in newspaper, TV serials, movies, organisations and other machinery to change the lame perspective of the society towards ‘indian’ girls… But when it’d come to action, I bet most of them will still prefer to choose the other way…
    I was getting tired of witnessing the incidents where a girl child is still considered a burden, and then your post re-ignited the fire within. ..
    What can I say, I’ve been busy lately just hoping…hoping to see a change.

    Me – It’s changing… it began to change when we started feeling angry 🙂

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  48. First of all families need to be stern equally to a boy and a girl….just not see her secondary..edu. over ea de same for both of them . Less the society norms still blind !!

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