When such emails first came I was troubled, I thought somebody had hacked into my account 😉 Today I realise one can send such articles by writing the Receiver’s email address in the column for Sender’s email. Some of these emails inspire posts – by shocking with their outrageousness, some others are thoughtprovoking, and this one I realised was a blog post in itself.
Message from sender: —
Would you stay with a cheating spouse — for cash? Could any amount of money erase the pain caused by infidelity?
TMZ.com reports that Rachel Uchitel, the first of Tiger Woods’ alleged mistresses, has reportedly been in talks with the golfer, and had a half-hour chat with him before canceling the presser. According to TMZ, Uchitel and Woods had also been speaking just before Friday’s mysterious car accident. While TMZ says no monetary exchange has been made, the site does assert that Woods, as well as his representation, knew of her plan to deny the alleged sexual relationship. Meanwhile, The Daily Beast’s Gerald Posner has learned exclusively that the beleaguered golfer is negotiating an immediate $5 million payout to his wife—and revising her prenup to give her as much as $55 million more to stay with him two more years.
Traditionally it’s a divorce that makes a financial dent for a wealthy athlete like Tiger Woods. But it appears that in Tiger’s case, it’s going to cost him to stay with his wife, Elin Nordegren, the mother of their two children.
“Would you stay with a cheating spouse — for cash? Could any amount of money erase the pain caused by infidelity?”
My answer? If there are no emotions involved it would be easier. If one is in love (i.e. emotional) one might want to leave the guy and find the offer painful or humiliating. The woman might feel she would be respected more (by the cheating spouse) if she throws the cash on his face with womanly dignity. But do you think accepting the cash might make it easier for her to walk out on a future date (if required or desired).
In Indian context the offer of the cash might be indicative of how much the unfaithful husband wants her to stay. Don’t forget Indian men are used to being paid (dowry) for getting married.
From what I have seen, when Indian men cheat they can afford to take it for granted that the woman would stay (and even take care of their parents, and fulfil her wifely duties). The wife loses all confidence, she feels she failed as a wife and as a woman. She acts desperate in an attempt to win the cheating spouse’s love and respect. (She fails to see that this has nothing to do with how good or bad a wife she has been). I know of a woman who now fears her husband might abandon her for the other woman, and might even get the custody of their only child. He realises this obviously. So apart from feeling unloved, and being hurt that he is cheating, the cheated woman in India is also insecure about her future.
In such a scenario, I wonder if one could put all emotions and hurt feelings aside and think of the whole thing as an ‘arrangement’ or a ‘contract’ and make the best of the situation?
Do you agree?