A response to ‘When a daughter refuses to go back‘ RR says,
“I strongly disagree with your views. Having girls live in marriages where abuse is involved, is unjustified. But, women breaking up marriages because they are not “happy” is purely selfish. Let me ask the question : what is this so-called “happiness”?”
What is happiness?
Unfortunately a woman’s happiness is not taken very seriously in our society. If a young married woman does not want to go back to her husband, should she be forced to go? (That’s what we generally do).
Who decides how much unhappiness is acceptable, and when is a woman right to walk out? Do you think a woman should have a say in how much unhappiness she can bear?
RR further asks, “What happened to sacrifice, commitment and the vows made at marriage? … The reason marriages in India are disintegrating is because certain people have false notions about the definition of marriage and happiness in marriage and then tend to influence their married friends in a negative manner. ”
Why exactly are marriages in India disintegrating? What has changed?
Did couples take marriage vows more seriously earlier or was it pressure from society that kept them together?
Is it because of false notions about marriage? Didn’t we have false notions about marriage earlier? Was that generation more matured?
Were marriages more successful in the past? Our grandparents and parents… did they have better marriages?
Or do we see more divorces because women now have the option of walking out? (Earlier it was Bollywood style bride goes in Doli, Arthi comes out).
Note: I will be on a short blog break this weekend.