Once we walked into a couple discussing or rather fighting over some interesting theories that the man had.
1. Whether it was possible for a man to love and respect the same woman. This man felt love (he meant lust I guess) and respect did not go together.
2. He insisted respect was higher than love, and a man must marry a woman only if he respects her, and he claimed he respected his wife. (And hence if he flirted with or was attracted to other women, she should not get hyper, you see, he could never respect them.)
3. He said women should be pure and worthy of worship. And they should have a clean image. Men had the luxury of being bad, wicked, sinful and hence also of being forgiven. (Very smart I thought.)
4. He explained that men were weak, and they can not ‘resist’ the temptation of bad women, although they can never respect these ‘bad‘ women.
(And we all know how respectable that makes such men! )
I still fume when I remember.
I wanted to ask if he wondered whether his wife respected him or loved him? I doubt if it mattered to him. He could afford to not care for her respect or love. And frankly I don’t think he cared even a bit for her.
Dev D, the character, reminded me of that guy. And hats off to any director for discussing this and many other things that still confuse some Indian men!
(I have lots more to say about Dev D – in the next post. )