So is sale and consumption of liquor related to crimes that take place in an area?

It’s a relief to see Gurgaon administration stop threatening women with negligence and victim blaming.

//Women can work 24×7: Gurgaon police chief

GURGAON: Gurgaon police commissioner K K Sindhu said on Thursday that women could work at any time, even night shifts, without fear.//

But  now take a look at this,

//Liquor vends that have come up around the mall are cause for more trouble . “People drink outside these vends and pose a threat to women going out of the mall . We have written several times to the administration to relocate the vends, but nothing has happened .”[link]//

Do women feel unsafe if liquor is being sold and consumed in an area? Why?

Almost every married domestic helper I have spoken to has had a problem with an alcoholic husband. The addiction and the effects seem to be the same as drug addiction – the victims (of alcoholism) don’t seem to be able to eat regular meals, hold jobs and they frequently react violence. A small number of women helpers were addicted too, and they too would be absent from work without any notice and then turn up at odd hours asking to borrow money.

Bollywood makes alcoholism look fun and funny, but does acknowledge the existence of the problem.

In real life women do seem to protest against liquor being sold.

Women attacked for protest against sale of liquor

Also note that Gujarat is one of the safest places for women (and men) in India – and it is a dry state.

So is sale and consumption of liquor related to crimes that take place in an area?

Related posts:

1. Alcohol: Age Limit, Gender Limit, Class Limit…

2. Which city in India, do you think is the safest city for women? Do women in that city stay at home after dark?

3. How does the Gurgaon administration make it even more difficult for women to find employment, and stay safe on Gurgaon roads?

4. No, not a dry day.

Alcohol: Age Limit, Gender Limit, Class Limit…

Some of the comments in the last post pointed out that easy availability of liquor in some states could be the reason why these states have higher rates of violent crimes against women.

Domestic violence definitely increases with alcohol abuse. Nearly all my domestic helpers have had husbands who were not able to stick to regular jobs because they (sometimes as young as in their early twenties) were completely addicted to alcohol. Many started their days with a drink, many couldn’t eat but needed to drink, all were violent and the desperation for the next drink drove them to harm their families. These men’s dependence on alcohol generally destroyed all peace, happiness, health and hope in their families. [Read how here, here and here]

If there was one single thing that could change their lives, it would be without doubt de-addiction from alcohol (which is not much different from addiction to drugs I feel).

Also, is there any doubt that alcohol abuse leads to violence by men against other men, against women, against their own children, against family members and even against themselves?

But somebody who identifies themselves as Moral Police, sends me links to newer theories and latest research that show (amongst other things) that  alcohol consumption is more harmful when women are doing it.

…Researchers recruited 27 binge-drinking males and 13 females and gave them neurophsychological tests and “spatial working memory” tests to complete.”

…Male binge drinkers showed some, but less, abnormality as compared to male non-drinkers. This suggests that female teens may be particularly vulnerable to the negative effects of heavy alcohol use.”

 Moral Police would have approved of the outrage against drunk driver Nooria Haveliwala when she killed two and injured four when she lost control of her Honda CRV. Take a look at this comment delighting in a not-worth-linking article that claimed women needed to prove they could drink responsibly (unlike the rest of the world) before they could be allowed to drink.

The commenter seemed glad there were ‘tragic consequences’.

…women there want to ape men in their drinking habits, and don’t prefer a soft ladies’ drink as an alternative… When women drink, they are simply aping men, for they want to join the liberated class and be away from societal shackles – with tragic consequences.

Does it matter that the drunk driver was a woman? Another comment made much more sense,

“The question here is ‘Drunk driving’ pure and simple. Anyone who does it hopes to not get caught or killed or to kill someone. Little black dress, suit, dhoti, pajama etc are all irrelevant.”

Women aren’t the only ones who are seen as incapable of deciding what’s good for them. Bombay has raised the alcohol age from 21 to 25 – aiming to stop young adults from underage drinking. Is this restriction likely to be followed and respected? What are the chances that this would become one more way for the police to harass young Indian adults? (Remember Muthalik? And Constable Sunil More misusing the Obscenity law?)

I have no idea if these politicians are going to ensure the age limit is respected amongst the slums and villages where my domestic helpers live. Will younger men having to ask older friends to buy their drinks benefit the families mentioned above (here, here and here)? Does it look like the government is serious about tackling crimes related to alcohol abuse?

Should the government have a say in the legal drinking age, or should adult citizens be seen as capable of deciding when and how much to drink?

Why is drug addiction a crime but alcohol is not?

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Who defines the ‘limits’ of your freedom?

Thank You Blogadda :)

Maqbool Fida Hussain might give up Indian citizenship.

The Sangh Parivar insists that Hussain has to apologize if he wants to return home. Why? Because “every freedom in democracy has a limit..”

They don’t mean everybody’s freedom though.

A chosen few in India seem to have unlimited freedom to reinterpret religion (including yours and mine), unlimited freedom to stop normal life with threats of violence, unlimited freedom to get away with violence, and until recently , unlimited freedom to demand apologies.

A chosen few must define these limits for the rest of the us.

Muthalik (now pink black faced), Meeta Jamal in Kanpur University, some students in Aligarh Muslim University , the RSS, and the Sanskrati Bachao Sangh in MP, and now (updated to add) rioters in Karnataka seem to believe they are amongst the chosen few.

Here are the kind of limits our street-censor-boards would approve of. This is more dangerous than even a ban on jeans or lingerie display because it subtly undoes a lot of hard work that time, technology and reformers have done.

Does this article disapprove of single parents, working mothers, birth control, premarital sex for girls (only girls), individual rights for girls, and equal rights for girls?

[Click to read the article.]

“Today girls are upfront in demanding their rights.Nothing can come in their way.Comments Dr Shayama Chona,an educationist for 44 years,They expect society to respect their equality with boys.They are bright,bold,beautiful,and want to drink,smoke,go for late night parties,but dont know how to handle it when trouble arises.”

Muthalik will love this comment. And I wish I could believe the first two lines.

Does the ‘trouble arise’ because they expect society to respect their ‘equality with boys’?

Those who demand equality also drink, smoke and stay out all night?

Those who get into ‘trouble’ are those who drink, smoke and demand equality?

How is drinking and smoking related to freedom, equality, or being bold, bright and beautiful? In fact smoking is bad for skin, and alcohol has calories that go against the average idea of beauty  today. Also does this mean boys and girls  who do not smoke or drink  do not think they are equal citizens?

Too much emphasis on individual rights can come in the way of nurturing good relationships.

How? Can somebody explain please?

Mostly those who suppress individual rights for the (what they consider) ‘welfare of society’ are talking about their personal ideas of what is good for the society (e.g. no gay rights, no lingerie display, no inter-religious marriages). There is a risk of their ideas being wrong  or biased- so personal choices are  best left to each equally intelligent  individual.

Individual rights ensure that a few individuals do not force an entire society to confirm to their ideas of right or wrong.

Says senior psychiatrist Dr Rajiv Anand, I,me,myself and to hell with others! This attitude is leading to emotional instability among girls.

If women do not suppress their dreams and desires it does not mean  they have an  ‘I,me,myself and to hell with others!’ attitude.

Its not ‘emotionally unstable’ to want to grow, dream, have ambitions and hopes for oneself.

This one seems to be an  idea straight out of a Bollywood movie.

Add to this,the easy access to illegal substances,birth control methods,etc,which make these female brats believe they know it all.”

Illegal substances and birth control methods cannot be put in the same bracket. Birth Control is not an illegal substance. Birth Control ensures young girls do not have to go through what this teenager in Faridabad went through. (Click to read).

Access to ‘illegal substances’ is equally harmful for all genders and a lot more awareness and respect for one’s body and health is needed to discourage substance abuse.

Some people (women and men) are more prone to addiction than others – they need counselling, support and rehabilitation.

This kind of biased moralising  is harmful because it might make a young girl  suspect substance abuse can be compared to sex and that might make illegal substances look fine to them.

Those who object to premarital sex are rarely (never) thinking of the girls. Their only concern is their rigid idea of morality for women.