It’s strange how little it is understood that an environment that disrespects and belittles women as either ‘beautiful creations’ or future roti makers (Or else what use are women?) is the environment that nurtures violent crimes against women.
Because in this environment a girl is being seen only as being ‘useful’ or ‘useless’ to men. And hence she must strive for the approval of men, their neighbours, colleagues and extended families – this mindset has created a society where everybody knows what every woman must do or not do.
Where is the humour in girls being denied education and opportunity, or Life, or being permitted each only if they adhere to patriarchal roles and their place at the bottom of the family hierarchy? (which such mindsets lead to)
Why is it funny that education and engineering degrees do not really empower women the way they empower everybody else?
Why is it a ‘joke’ to address only the male IIT B students, and then to reassure them that marrying an IIT B student did not mean they would be denied home cooked meals because their female class mates were not going to be spared their primary patriarchal responsibilities. Because an Indian girl, no matter what she achieves, is ‘of no use’ if she is not found beautiful by a man and his family, and if she doesn’t make a good future chapatti makers.
‘Your future is standing next to you. One of these girls will be cooking for you in the future.’
Fakeindianbbahu shared this link.
… the most pressing concern of IIT boys on campus- do boys have enough good looking girls to look at and hit on? So he asked, “Are there good-looking girls in IIT-B?” Men both inside and outside IIT-B rose their hands in solidarity to signal no. So he asked again, “Are there good-looking girls in IIT-B?” The hands rose again. The couple of boos from the IIT-women of course went unheard.
Of course, all boys shared the inside joke. After all, the world was made to please them, their sensibilities, and their sexual fantasies. So they rightfully claim their space to let girls know that they are not good looking, and definitely as publicly as possible! They definitely claimed their right in unison to make women in IIT feel small.
And then when in anger I spoke to some of the Mood Indigo team members, I was told that it was all done in good humor. So while the joke is on, let’s then share one more laugh with more details of what followed.