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I read this today and though what the young lady went through was really sad, I also it reflected a welcome change in personal and societal outlook because she not only filed a police case, but her family too stands by her. Hope this will give other wives silently suffering and other husbands doing similiar things something to think about!
There is no doubt that more and more survivors of sexual assaults in India are finding support in refusing to be silenced. But I also wonder if this crime would have been reported, because would this even have been, legally a ‘crime’, if he had mercilessly raped but not sodomised the wife?
She was taken to Deen Dayal Upadhyay Hospital where sodomy was confirmed in her medical examination. She was also given medical assistance there, police said.The woman shared her ordeal with her parents after returning home, following which the family decided to approach police alleging that she was confined, mercilessly raped and sodomised by her husband during their honeymoon trip.Sometimes, she was also forced to drink urine.
Why wasn’t this husband afraid of any social or legal consequences? Because he assumed that the wife and her family would not report the crime. It’s also possible that he was not aware that sodomy was not included in the marital rape that an exchange of garlands permits to lawfully wedded Indian husbands. Would this crime have been reported if he had mercilessly raped her but not sodomised her?
Like Bhagwad Jal Park,
“I’m still astonished at the number of people who feel that a husband is entitled to sex with his wife regardless of her wishes. I think it’s obvious from the language that these individuals view their life partner as a glorified prostitute…
I think this arises from a fundamental misunderstanding of what marriage means. Many men seem to think that marriage is a contract where a man takes care of a woman, provides for her needs, shares half of everything he has with her…and in return he gets sex whenever he wants. This is not conjecture on my part. I’ve spoken to many men and heard this argument not just on my blog, but from many people who you expect will know better. If you view marriage this way, then a wife is indeed a prostitute. With the big difference of course that it’s illegal to rape a prostitute! From this perspective, a wife has even fewer legal rights in India in this matter than their sisters who work the streets.”
Do read the entire post by Bhagwad Jal Park here, A Wife is not a Personal Sex Slave – Marriage Myths Debunked