The kind of man no woman should marry. What common sense has to offer.

What could have made  a well read newspaper (The New Indian Express, Kochi) publish an article like this (by Dr Titus Sankaramangalam)?

[Link shared by Anil Singhal]

Do you think any woman, who has a real choice, would want to marry a man who could write or approve of this article?

1. Why exactly does the author think, do people get married? It seems for men to have sex and intelligent children.

2. He doesn’t seem to realise that it takes two to make babies. (Very scientific)

3. He claims, “Very old men should marry only very young girls. (Older men even otherwise have a preference for very young girls)… “

4. He claims the ‘omega three fatty acids on women’s thighs’ creates  intelligent children. He needs to read, ‘Older dads linked to rise in genetic disorder?’ [Older dads linked to rise in genetic disorder?]

5. He is obsessed with women’s bodies, but he doesn’t seem to have heard of ‘mutual attraction’. He doesn’t seem to be aware that one partner finding the other attractive is not enough.

Let me share some gems.

How to choose a bride? What science has to offer?

First commandment: The girl should have an hour-glass figure.

An hour-glass figure means that your child will also be intelligent because the girl will have enough omega three fatty acids on her thighs for the child’s brain development during pregnancy.

Second commandment:

The girl should be at least three years younger than the  boy.

Older boys should have even younger girls-the age difference should be at least  six years. Very old men should marry only very young girls. (Older men even otherwise have a preference for very young girls. The cut off line should be 25 years…

Third commandment: Go for a girl with only average looks…

Fourth commandment: Look for symmetry…. Large breasts are no good unless they are of the same size and shape…

Sixth commandment: A small chin and nose will add an infantile look and make a girl cute and adorable…

Seventh commandment: Skin and hair. I am not a racist when I say this, but go for a fair girl–a fair smooth skin to be exact. Even among

black tribes who have never seen a white man or woman, the preference for lighter skin exists…

Eighth commandment: The girl should be shorter than you…

Ninth commandment: She should be more intelligent than you…

Tenth commandment: If you want the girl to be pretty, look at her lips from the side…

Aren’t these the kind of men who disapprove of love marriages, coeducational institutions, Valentine’s day celebrations, Pub and Mall Culture, choice-mariages, working women, divorce, inter caste marriages etc – because if young women started choosing their own partners, who would marry them?

Why bother to react to such articles? Because, atleast some people seem impressed:

Fantastic Article! Our predecessors has drafted few rules like the bride to be younger than bridegroom, height etc, now you know it is not myth? no use in firing the author. Though No body will have all the 10, since everybody will not have everything, i still feel that this is true.

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87 thoughts on “The kind of man no woman should marry. What common sense has to offer.

  1. I stopped reading at “Look for symmetry”. Oh dear parents of future arranged marriage husband, please come and check my breasts out. Because you know, scientifically breasts are exactly symmetrical, same shape, same size just like your pea size brain.

  2. icing of the cake – “I am not racist but…”
    Bletch.
    I think newspapers are publishing this sort of crap just to get eyeballs and outrage.
    I did have a second thought – could this be poorly written satire? Still finding it hard to believe a real person could write this.

  3. Now that I read the actual article, I’m inclined to believe he was trying his best to be sarcastic. However, it seemed to be a major fail.

    • I just edited to add a comment, if he was being sarcastic, it hasn’t worked.
      //Fantastic Article! Our predecessors has drafted few rules like the bride to be younger than bridegroom, height etc, now you know it is not myth? no use in firing the author. Though No body will have all the 10, since everybody will not have everything, i still feel that this is true.//

      • I agree Amit. Epic fail, here’s another comment, //i ljust loved this article, being a guy. It’s just the plain ultimate truth! U have nailde our preferences spot on. Job well done, Doc! :) Meanwhile, It is understandable that these womenfolk are clattering in the comments below, complaining they may find it ‘OFFENSIVE!’ since 99% of our Kerala girls dont come anywhere close to these expected figures…//

        • //99% of our Kerala girls dont come anywhere close to these expected figures//
          I am sure this guy is a splitting image of Brad Pitt.
          He needs medical help.

        • //”since 99% of our Kerala girls dont come anywhere close to these expected figures…//

          Oh yeah and still these same people are running to marry these girls and get their hands on the money/dowry and goodies. Shameless lot.

      • I wonder how come indian express published such a stupid article.and that he is a doctor :-0
        //Oh yeah and still these same people are running to marry these girls and get their hands on the money/dowry and goodies. Shameless lot.//
        @Shail : ivanmaarokke pinne tom cruisine pole alle..chorinju varunnu..alavalathikal

      • I don’t want to leave a comment for the article…but I do want to send a stinker to the editor. That this article has not shocked, disgusted the editor is disturbing. Trying to find out who the editor is.

        • ok…this is the email I sent them – I addressed it to both Shekar Gupta as well as the editorial team.

          Dear Mr. Gupta & the Editorial Team of Indian Express –

          I’ve never ever written any letters to any newspapers. On that account, I.E. is the first…so ‘congratulations’– I mean I.E. has propelled me into action… frothing mouth, twisted intestines and all.

          I.E. published an article titled ‘How to choose a bride? What science has to offer?’ http://newindianexpress.com/cities/kochi/article600022.ece). Once again, congratulations are in order – this article has potentially gone viral. You’ll probably see a dramatic spike in the number of hits. I urge you to read it, if you have not done so already.

          As a dark-skinned woman without symmetry…but with a healthy sense of humour, I, like a lot of other readers, am disturbed by this nonsensical article. Perhaps the aim of the author was to come across as funny. Perhaps he has a warped view of ‘satire’. Well his attempted humour (it has scientific backing he says) has failed spectacularly, and the result is a misogynistic article that is highly degrading to women (and men). In fact, a friend of mine, (a very fair-skinned, perfectly symmetrical woman with an hour-glass figure) thought the editor has surely made a mistake; and has shoved in paragraphs from an article that was probably about choosing thoroughbreds for a stud farm.

          You see, it is even more disturbing to note that whoever approved this article did not see anything wrong with ideas such as “…go for a fair girl–a fair smooth skin to be exact. Even among black tribes who have never seen a white man or woman, the preference for lighter skin exists. People with higher social status tend to have fairer skin. ‘To be both prettiest and black is impossible.’ But a very fair boy can marry a dark girl with impunity.” Really now? Did the editor find such sentences funny? Or does the editorial team of Indian Express have a different take on what constitutes humour? Perhaps they were astounded by the author’s ‘scientific’ take on the subject (he throws about phrases such as ‘genetic mixing’)? I mean I admit even I was relieved a bit – what I thought was ugly cellulite on my thighs are just Omega 3 fatty acid molecules bobbing about apparently.

          Everyone is entitled to his/her opinions, however distasteful they are. They can air all such personal views on their own blogs. Let the dignity of a newspaper such as Indian Express not be lowered in the quest for higher number of hits. Please, let your newspaper not become a platform for emphasising regressive ideas.

          Warm regards

        • This is not an article. An article is fact-based and objective. This is an ignorant, reactionary opinion piece by someone who is obviously deeply afraid of women.

        • Hi, this is a different newspaper. This is the New Indian Express. Indian Express split a long time ago. Mailing Shekar Gupta might not be of much use. The author’s email ID is mentioned in the article. Or Prabhu Chawla if you can source his email ID.

  4. This person thinks marriage means only 2 things – sex and consequently reproduction. No wonder the “commandments” look at possibly maximizing these two. Even then they are all scientifically inaccurate and assume that all men find only one kind of female attractive.

    Ofcourse, I never see any articles that have “commandments” for women on how to choose a partner to maximize effective sex and reproduction. I mean, I am yet to come across an article that says that women should choose men with penis sizes between 5 and 6 inches for maximum satisfaction or fertility. Or to choose a guy with bushy eyebrows because that is a sure sign of super fertile sperms.

    Yet again, this stupid article painfully reiterates what the society in general thinks of women – that they have no say in the matter.

    • Reminds me of a sixty year old Arab man who was caught by an Indian air hostess, trying to take a thirteen year old child – his wedded wife. When questioned it seems he claimed so long as he could make her pregnant, it was okay for him to marry her. That’s how many Indians also see marriage as.

  5. This part of the article made amused me
    “Also, there will be some nasty yet valid comments on why I did not say anything on how to choose a bridegroom. Of course, I have some very useful tips for girls and their parents on this too, but girls tend to prefer more masculine men during the fertile period (the time around ovulation) of the menstrual cycle and more feminine men during other parts of the cycle which makes things a bit complicated. ”
    I like reading such articles because then you know that most of the people around us still believe in these ..I will come back later to help women chose a husband , may be as a women i dont see period mood swings such a factor in deciding a husband.

  6. one of the readers have commented that ” women are getting furious on this article because 80% of them are no where close to what he has mentioned”. So ,to say how many men in India are blessed with great body , fair skin and sharp attractive features.
    These guys first of all don’t have mirror at homes and second don’t see that physical features are god gifted not something we can change much . Yes we can groom ourselves and be healthier in life choices .

  7. Am finding it difficult to lift my jaw up from the floor, where it dropped promptly at the very first para! Rubbish. Pure drivel. There ARE people I know though, who go by this b——t!

  8. A small thing to add -(apart from the fact that the article is obnoxious). True symmetry no one likes, although we do have preference for symmetric objects – check this –
    http://news.nationalgeographic.com/news/2008/08/080818-body-symmetry.html & there is actual a nice nat geo program- for the scientific part of it. Don’t worry – there is nothing of what the author says is scientific ! It is all the same stupid male – thing you hear round the clock & this guy is doing his bit ! Old man should marry young girls ! !!! In which world is he staying?

  9. Worst article ever! I just posted a comment on the Indian Express webpage. As if the current scrutinizing process in choosing a girl for marriage is not enough, this guy gives precious advice on how to take it further. Sick guy!! And guys who think they look like Salman Khan post comments in favour of the article. Should ban Indian Express for publishing such an useless article.

  10. This is downright disgusting. Someone should ask this author to go ask his mother if she was judged by these criterion when she got married to his father? I hope she would slap him.
    Such ‘educated’ people are a disgust to the society.

    • Take a look, //Of course, I have some very useful tips for girls and their parents on this too, but girls tend to prefer more masculine men during the fertile period (the time around ovulation) of the menstrual cycle and more feminine men during other parts of the cycle which makes things a bit complicated. Their preferences can even change when they are looking for a short or long term relationship. Because the advice has to be a bit more individualistic here, I have to leave it out from this general discussion.//

      • To be honest IHM, that is true. Studies indicate that women prefer masculine features when they’re ovulating and more feminine faces when they’re not.:)

        They also change preferences depending on their mating strategy. Masculine features are preferred when reproduction is the desired goal and softer features when the goal is a short-term fling.

        Can’t fault the writer on that point. :) If only Indian women were allowed to put it all into action — have different mates for different purposes. Instead we are taught to think of balding, pot-bellied husbands as Gods! ;)

  11. My favorite comment:

    //What utter crap !!…..What is Indian Express trying to be ? become new TOI..? This is the stupidest, most ludicrous article I have ever read. what are you trying to say – getting married is like buying a commodity in the market ? Sheer DISGUST.
    Posted by Reema at 09/12/2012 12:00 //

  12. And here’s a comment for Feminists.
    //I loved the article. It makes sense. Rather than falling for a girl because she succeeds in trapping you through her tricks, its better to follow these commandments and get the best girl for yourself. And all these feminists who are using such good words about the article should not forget that women too, when they go for husband hunting-have their own criteria-on top of that list, usually its money.So, whats wrong in men having a some sort of set of rules to decide whom to choose as your bride. Never fall for a girl,always SELECT a girl,based on the options available. I have seen girls running away at the drop of the hat-to someone they think would be a better option. So, guys- be PRACTICAL- thts what these girls are. Remember- NOT all women are Jane Austen.
    Posted by Vinay Tikkiwal at 09/12/2012 13:10 //

  13. I don’t know why…but I remembered Anna Hazare’s punishment to drunkards – of tying them to a tree and thrashing them…if ever there was a candidate worthy of such punishment it has to be this ass*ole. ‘Scientific’? Omega 3 on thighs? Get me the pliers…I’ll pull out his tongue. And while you’re at it, get me a cranium saw as well.

  14. The article is getting more attention than it deserves!
    I read it and realised that the author is trying his best to be funny.
    He has failed. At least I did not not find it funny.
    I am now in the mood to write an article advising newspapers how to choose writers for publication.
    Regards
    GV

  15. I am convinced such articles are written for the shock value. Just check out this one http://business.inquirer.net/81558/thoughts-on-dating-a-carless-guy. It’s a woman drawing up a list about men apparently but these two articles could have been written but the same bad journalist! The sad part it when people reply and say ‘yes I totally agree’! I have faith that such people will never find partners. Surely natural selection would cause them to die alone and never perpetuate their genes. If only we didn’t ‘arrange’ to interfere that……..

  16. On a sarcastic and a tangent here .. if all men get what the article says then , the children will be great , so the future generation will not have any problems or anything .. as every one will be beautiful

    I dont know why we spend so much time on reading such articles, and also the comments , as the above comment here such are written just to make sure people read and they get some sort of publicity right or wrong .. who cares ..

  17. I realise you said it’s a sarcastic tangent but actually, if all men get what the article says then , the children will still not be great. A child’s genetics is from it’s mother AND father. So children of these men that are uglier, stupider and much older than their wives (as per the article) could end up getting lots of the dad’s poor genes. This strategy can never actually work. :-)

    In nature, the only way to ensure the best genes being carried through to the next generation is for the females to choose the best mate available (since females are actually the ones that carry the babies/ lay the eggs). Hence in nature, most species have uglier females as the selection pressure is on the male of the species. The best females them gets to choose the best male, but other females will still usually not settle for the weaker males. The pressure is so strong that it creates the beautiful male peacock (the female is brown and unattractive). So almost all healthy females will reproduce, but only the best ‘alpha’ males get the same chance.

    Humans have created a system that is quite atypical.. with patriarchal societies ensuring that every male is married and reproduces even if no woman would want to choose him.

    Sorry about the long comment.. just clearing up the genetics angle here! :-)

    • I agree, //Humans have created a system that is quite atypical.. with patriarchal societies ensuring that every male is married and reproduces even if no woman would want to choose him.//

      Patriarchy was created so that every male manages to find a mate.

      • Yes, females (and males) in the human species also have trained instincts that help select the best mate for them. We can spot the best mate through smell, taste (yes taste) and certain physical traits you instinctually like. One example for a female sense tuned to find a good mate: http://abcnews.go.com/Health/story?id=117027&page=1#.UFCAGJhSYw8. So the system of arranged marriages in particular really interferes with this natural selection. You can never have the optimal progeny if women (or men, but patriarchy takes care of that) have no choice in the matter of whose children they have!

      • I think this was meant in mean spirit, in which case I’d like to point out that I was talking about scientific facts regarding all men and women. Males and females of all species have in-built instincts which evolved over many generations to help find the best mate. You might have noticed that all animals and most humans get along just fine without arranged marriages! This has absolutely nothing to do with eugenics or with indian women in particular.

        If you simply misused the term eugenics then please feel free to ignore my response.

    • I’ve read Desmond Morris’s books on the human sexes as well David Buss’s books on evolutionary psychology. I have a layperson’s interest in the subject.

      However, the arranged marriage system in India seems to defy all evolutionary logic — instead of the female choosing the best mates, the males chooses the best mates.

      Indian middle-class women have to jump through hoops in order to get married. Not only are they rejected because of physical flaws (height, skin colour, weight), they are also judged on completely arbitrary parametres like being to quiet/ too talkative, being too “modern” or too “traditional”.

      It appears that Indian men are the world’s fussiest bridegrooms. What really confounds me is that we are ostensible a country with a severe “shortage” of women.

      Well, it doesn’t look like it when we look at matrimonial advertisements with their list of unending expectations of the future wife. Must be “convent-educated, homely, tall, fair, postgraduate degree must, blah, blah, blah”

  18. I was completely dumbfounded when I read that moron’s article – it’s scary that such men exist and that they may actually find brides in this country that makes sure EVERYONE gets married.

  19. And to think I’m trying hard to get rid of all that omega-3 fatty acids on my thighs! :D My children are going to be simple idiots. Like the author. Heh.

  20. The article doesn’t really sound serious, more like a poor attempt at satire (as many have pointed out). However, it does seem to have make a mark with its intended target. Even though the language is crude and crass – it appeals to a section of people – the male equivalent of tubby women who eat tons of ice cream and believe they deserve Prince Charming from Mills and Boons No. 32.
     
    Was an interesting read though. I have to disagree with some of the assertions made by some commenters that such articles should be banned. As a socio-political liberal, I strongly advocate the freedom of speech and ideas – no matter how offensive and disturbing they may be to some.

  21. The “Dr.” is likely to succeed in sticking to his ninth commandment, finding a mate who is more intelligent than he – because by sheer probability he won’t find anyone at his intelligence level or lower.
    One question though, is the “Dr.” title also sarcastic?

  22. Excuse me while I go to the gym to work off those omega three fatty acids from my thighs. Actually, isn’t there a way to remove those fatty acids from storage there and recirculate them in the body to reduce LDLs ? That would be better than working them off with evercise

  23. “Make sure that you talk to her and if she can really make out what an idiot you are, marry her.” If she can really make out that you are an idiot and yet go ahead and marry you, would she really be more intelligent than you?

  24. i think its a frank article, i think this is the right way, if we always think about other people’s feeling and shit, we wont be able to say anything honestly

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