A friend recently said women had high and unrealistic expectations from relationships, which lead to disappointments, insecurity and jealousy.
Let’s assume what she says is true for some women.
Could it be that some women feel insecure because they grow up hearing their life had little meaning without a partner? Persistent little reminders like nobody blesses women with ‘jug jug jiyo‘ (may you live long). All blessings to women ring like warnings - to get married and to die before their husbands do for example. (saubhgyawati raho, sada suhagan raho i.e. may you never be a widow)
[Note: Why not wish women a happy, healthy life too?]
Their partners need the relationship as much as they do, but if a man shows he values his spouse or his marriage, he is promptly labeled a JKG (a Joru Ka Gulaam). If he is insecure, the only way he must express it is with violence. My cook came with a swollen face last week because her husband suspects she manages to have an affair sometime between my cooking and three other jobs she has. Another woman I knew found her land line phone locked when the husband went for work (they are separated now).
Acid throwing and murders by men who couldn’t handle indifference are not unheard of.
I have read tweets like the one about a lucky husband being congratulated because he got a car for his wife in an exchange offer. Traditionally no woman would dare make such blasphemous jokes about her pati parmeshwar. And traditionally men must make such jokes to show how they don’t care for their wives (Have you met/read someone who does that )
And then the society wonders why some women need to know if they are loved. Do you think Gauri Khan worries if SRK loves her? Anyone knows the story of 8 cows?
Do men really care less and women care more in relationships?
What do you think?