I read this article that teaches women how to dress modestly. The article recommends that women avoid wearing shirts that show anything below the collar bones, skirts and shorts that go higher than the knees, and tight fitting clothes.
The article says that women must not wear certain kinds of clothes, to prevent men (who may not be creeps or bad people) from being tempted to imagining what they look like beneath the clothes.
I am not convinced because I have read of many other men (who may not be creeps or bad people) who will be attracted to the sight of a woman’s collar bones or ankles, or knees, or lips (with or without lipstick) or eyes lashes, or hair or the arc of her back. ETC.
If you read the comment section of “The way a woman dresses…” you will find capris or three fourths are also considered immodest by some men. Jeans which the article says nothing against are considered suggestive by another commenter.
If you have seen Pakizah then you will know that even the sight of a woman’s feet is enough for some men to be attracted to them.
Some other men think modesty is in the attitude and eyes, and not in the clothes.
So it does seem that modesty is a subjective term. It seems it is almost impossible for women to fit into everybody’s idea of modesty.
But more importantly how do women benefit from giving up free movement, comfortable clothing, the satisfaction of looking good, sunlight, fresh air, and a lot of personal freedom?
…In other words, what do modest women have that immodest women don’t?
They are told they have men’s respect.
Well, I am sure men’s respect is a very worthwhile thing. But seeing how millions of (immodest?) women are doing very well without this kind of ‘respect’, I really wonder if it’s time women stopped worrying about how men are imagining unprintable things about them, (because they find their clothing immodest) and started living their lives.
Thousands of women, (mothers, students, activists, nurses, athletes, journalists, engineers, construction workers, artists, actors, writers etc) are going about their daily lives without giving a thought to what every Tom, Dick and Harry is thinking when he sees them striding past. They are all doing fine without fitting into every rikshaw-walla, coolie, clerk, politician, principal, army jawan and dhobi’s ideas of modesty.
I wonder who does a woman’s modesty empower… who do you think?